is this romantic or creepy?
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how long do you know her?
because if she talked to you for only a week or so, a) you don't really know her, so your current feelings are based on... what exactly? and b) ... well, b) depends on what kind or person she is. but in general i think musicians are more open to "different" stuff than others (as far as i can tell from the people who i know)
if you know each other for (a little) longer, hell, why not do it? what's the point in writing a song for someone and then not play it? also, some people here said, try the "normal" non-awkward way... you are musicians, right? so nothing awkward about expressing stuff via music, right? i mean, you guys write your own stuff, so you are not "only" a coverband, but want to do something original, tell the people about what you think about... well, whatever your music is about. or am i mistaken there?
or as Pablo Francisco put it: "Yo man! Is that yo girl? Go for it, man, go for it!"
best of luck for whatever you should choose to do!
also, post no. 84
because if she talked to you for only a week or so, a) you don't really know her, so your current feelings are based on... what exactly? and b) ... well, b) depends on what kind or person she is. but in general i think musicians are more open to "different" stuff than others (as far as i can tell from the people who i know)
if you know each other for (a little) longer, hell, why not do it? what's the point in writing a song for someone and then not play it? also, some people here said, try the "normal" non-awkward way... you are musicians, right? so nothing awkward about expressing stuff via music, right? i mean, you guys write your own stuff, so you are not "only" a coverband, but want to do something original, tell the people about what you think about... well, whatever your music is about. or am i mistaken there?
or as Pablo Francisco put it: "Yo man! Is that yo girl? Go for it, man, go for it!"
best of luck for whatever you should choose to do!
also, post no. 84
darthotaku said:
Unless you're like... 12, this isn't going to go down well at all.
At best she'll think it's cute.
Let me tell you something about the wimminz - most like an honest and simple approach. Just ask her out to dinner. If she asks whether you mean on a date, respond with a simple 'yeah'.
Don't use one-liners, don't write songs or poetry, don't proclaim your love to the heavens.
And for fuck's sake, don't wait.
Don't wait for the right time, there's never a right time. Don't wait till she's alone, don't be afraid to ask her out in front of other people.
You're not in an indie film. Ask the girl using words and save everybody the embarrassment. Trust me, a friend of mine had a phase where he fancied himself as a singer-songwriter and wrote songs for a girl he was playing guitar with. It made me cringe, and he did not succeed.
Dog, you shouldn't do that to yourself. I've never met you, but I am sure you are a rad dude and if you had some confidence, you would SLAY ladies. And even if a few blow up in your face, then they suck and aren't worth your time. I'm so bummed to hear you are doing that to yourself.Black Phoenix said:
If you ever want someone to talk to about girls/yourself, shoot me a PM. For real.
Thanks, I'll keep that in mindMikeBrownYo said:Dog, you shouldn't do that to yourself. I've never met you, but I am sure you are a rad dude and if you had some confidence, you would SLAY ladies. And even if a few blow up in your face, then they suck and aren't worth your time. I'm so bummed to hear you are doing that to yourself.Black Phoenix said:Thanks for the offer, I'll keep it in mindMikeBrownYo said:
Total lack of self confidence coupled with a very negative view of myself (so basically, self esteem issues). Basically it's the same reasons I suck at socialising in general, even on the internet.
My current record is two false starts, both of which turned into disasters in less than a month each (the biggest problem there being not the fact I was rejected, but what I did to myself mentally afterwards), and another girl I really liked that I used to work with for a few years who I never had the courage to ask out, though given one of the lads she went out with, twice, I'm not convinced it would have worked out anyway.
If you ever want someone to talk to about girls/yourself, shoot me a PM. For real.
Just so everybody knows, she saw the lyrics and weather or not it works out has been on the ropes for a few days now.
she thinks the song was awesome though.
she thinks the song was awesome though.
Only seen this work ONCE. They were friends and she wrote the song based on him asking her "are you happy?" They didn't get together till a few years later and they fell in love an got married. Funny thing is the song is what pushed the band into the mainstream and jump started her music career.
But don't date in the band, it can kill the music quickly.
But don't date in the band, it can kill the music quickly.