Not wanting to go to Prom

[afroebob]

Well, at my prom pretty much everyone who went there and didn't have fun did so because they chose not to have fun. Some people where just deadset to not have a good time and just chose to sit there and be boring. If that is going to be you than don't go, if you decide your going to have fun go there and have fun. I mean unless you truly are someone who just doesn't like going to big events or your friends aren't going I don't see why you couldn't have fun, just let loose and go find something to do afterwards.

Besides, at the end of the day you only get to go to prom once (at least at my school, I don't see why you would even want to go more considering its a way to celebrate the end of highschool) the worst that can happen is your out one night where you could have played Xbox and whatever it costs for a ticket (unless you have to rent a suit, I just wore one of mine). To me, you might as well give it a shot, not much to lose.

 

[ChippedShoulder]

I went to mine for an hour to watch a friend's band play then I left to play snooker in a pub. Saw two old ladies fighting each other. I am convinced I had a better time than the people who stayed.

 

[necromanzer52]

I always saw it as more of a couples thing, and being forever alone, I didn't see the point in going. I guess I would have liked to go, but considering that it cost a fair bit of money, I wasn't about to go along, only to have other people's relationships thrust in my face.

 

[Floppertje]

I did go to mine, it kinda sucked. was fun seeing some friends all dressed up and we had a few laughs, but other than that, it was nothing special. also i kinda got dumped by my date a few days before prom so i was rather bitter at the time. Little did I know that those events would lead me to get my first real girlfriend, so in hindsight I guess I shouldn't complain.
If you don't want to go, don't go, especially if it's expensive. don't even for a second worry about what anyone at school thinks of you because you'll be leaving soon anyway and you probably won't see them again anyway. have fun in your own way.

 

[Grant Stackhouse]

I went to a conservative christian school. No prom at that school. Apparently, John the Baptist was killed by a king who was convinced to do so by a dancing woman. They took that to mean that God doesn't want people to dance. We had a senior banquet. Food was good, and I was hardcore lusting after a classmate's girlfriend at the time, so it gave me a good excuse to hang out with her. If we had had a prom, I would have been indifferent. Since male-female interaction was greatly supervised and tightly restricted, I would have probably spent the night standing around talking with my bros anyway...just like any other day in high school.

 

[hutchy27]

I'm not going to mine, mainly because you have to pay the school £40 to attend.
I'm also not the only person who isn't going and I believe the money could be better spent.

 

[wulf3n]

The running theme of those who didn't go appears to be "Had something better to do, So I did that." Which is probably good advice for all aspects of life really.

So If you have something better to do, do that, however if you don't have something better to do, I would suggest going. Not going to Prom wouldn't make you a loser. Doing something less interesting/exciting when you were given an alternative so easily would make you a loser.

Carpe diem and all that.

 

[Xisin]

Don't go if you don't want to.

I bought a ticket to mine, but a dragon spawned in EQOA so I decided to do that instead. Best decision I ever made It gave me time to go out to eat afterwards too.

 

[karloss01]

I didn't go to my High School one because for one it was in a shitty club full of music I hate and two because there were too many arse holes in my year that i knew i would have put one of them in the hospital if they tried anything (by the end of high school i had enough of their collective shit).

I went to my sixth form one however and it was a blast, even set a table on fire (accidently, honest).

 

[freaper]

I didn't want to go to mine at first either. I ended up going and found out there were a lot of people who where way more awkward than me. In the end I had a pretty fun time.

 

[Ambitiousmould]

I didn't go because I don't like parties, and I didn't like any of the people there. Seriously, it's more fun to shout loudly at the people who you see the next day hung-over from the after-party (although that is subject to change based on where you live, I guess) because our prom wasn't quite on the last day.

 

[JagermanXcell]

I just went to mine a week ago. I thought I would have fun and I did to some extent... but by God was the Prom itself horrid.
Horrible music, horrible dancing (Apparently make-believe sex is considered "dancing" nowadays), and horrible local (A lot of this due to my school having the smallest budget in the district, and unoriginal ASB responsible for the event).
Activities consisted of either:
A. Dance in tight airless dance floor.
B. Eat food.
C. Dont' dance, sit outside where theres oxygen but nothing to do.
Biggest douche won Prom King, track star won Prom King. So nothing changed there.
But thats not to say I didn't have fun, my date, my friends and their dates were so fun to hang and dance with it made up for all the other crap.

If it weren't for my friends it would have been a huuuuuuge waste of my time and money imo.

 

[Musette]

To be honest, I went to prom because my twin sister wanted to go and the majority of my friends were going. I'm not into that setting, but I figured "what the hell, it's prom."

I was bored out of my mind the entire time. There is only food, loud (bad) music and uncomfortably crowded dancing. It felt like a huge waste of time, and I wasn't exactly into going to whatever kind of fabled "after-parties" that people assume always happen after a prom.

It's not about game addiction, it's not about being social, it's about what kind of setting you're going to, and it's just a slightly fancier homecoming or spring fling, so if that thought bores you to tears, then there are much better ways to spend an evening.

 

[Sehnsucht Engel]

I didn't go to my prom. I chose not too, because I thought it was a waste of money. I also couldn't stand most of the people at my school. My friend later told me, after he had been to it, that he also thought it was a waste of money.

I suppose you could try making that argument, that it'd be better to not go because you save money.

 

[Sansha]

Similarly to American High Schools, here in Britain we also have proms at the end of elementary(?)/secondary education.

For me, that date is closing in, and I don't know if I want to go, as I don't enjoy parties, I hate wearing suits/dressing up for occasions, and I would only go to spend time w/ my friends.

The counter-argument is that I'm a "boring" person/loser if I don't go, and I feel that my own family will bully me into going, as otherwise, they'll think that I'm addicted to my PC being the point of no return, also they desperately want to deny that I'm a "nerd". (Apparently, it hasn't clicked for them, or it has to do with the fact that my mum is 53, and my brother is a "Bro", except not stupid, and that most people in my home country are intolerant jackasses(Yes, I'm bitter))

So I will ask you, Escapists on whether or not I'm in the right, or if I'm just being boring.

I'm quite a social person and I didn't go to mine. I didn't want to or see a need to, despite having a few offers for dates and my friends wanting me to go. I don't like parties, and I didn't like the people at my school, so I didn't bother.

 

[J Tyran]

We went to her house and had a much better time drinking booze and watching Futurama, other stuff happened, but I can't remember (there was a monopoly board out and the pieces and money were scattered over the living room and her bed duvet was in the kitchen for some reason)

If you cant remember it and you aint in a cell/hospital/bush somewhere you know you ad a good time, well the bush can mean you had a good time sometimes. Depends on how many bruises you got.

The duvet mystery bodes well though.

 

[Zakarath]

Skipped mine a few years back, no regrets.

 

[Whytewulf]

Don't go if you don't want to go. However, I tend to think it's a good excuse to get out, if you need one. Nerds should still see the outside world now and then... Not all social conventions are the Devil like Foosball.

As for my Prom, in the US we only had one prom, but I think Juniors could go. We had many other dances. My friends and I used it as an excuse to get tuxes, rent a limo, go to a nice restaurant, and get our dates all fancied up. The prom itself was ok, I don't really dance.. but I made it something and we have memories..

A side note, though prom is for you, parents, do like to see their kids go through certain things.. so don't get too mad at them..

 

[Fleischer]

If you think there is a reasonable chance of having fun, go for it. You only get one shot to go to "your" prom.

My prom was my first date. I had a blast with my friends, and my date went so well that we started a relationship that lasted the whole summer.

 

[silversnake4133]

The only good things about Prom are the food, the trip to the shore afterward, and getting to see chicks freak out when they're seen wearing the same dress. If you really don't want to go, don't. It's not worth spending upwards of £193 ($300 comparison) or so just for one night of standing around and talking to friends, possibly dancing or just waiting for the festivities to be over. Prom isn't for everyone, even though over here in America, Prom is like the pinnacle of High School activities, but for me it was just an over-priced school dance that only cheerleaders, American football players, and parents enjoyed. If anything you'd probably be happier just spending that night with your buddies over the Internet or something. At least you'd save a lot of money and a won't have to suffer from a headache the next morning.