Poll: How do you flirt?
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I'm not entirely sure I know how to flirt. That being said, I picked the 2nd to last option because it's mostly true.
Basically, I leave it to the men to pursue because I'm a wuss. Too afraid of being rejected and all. I've never made a move on a guy before. Probably not happening any time soon.
Basically, I leave it to the men to pursue because I'm a wuss. Too afraid of being rejected and all. I've never made a move on a guy before. Probably not happening any time soon.
Really? Are we all that bad? I don't seem to have a problem. If there's a girl or two that I like, then yeah, I dunno, just comes naturally. Be pleasant, polite, I'm good at making little jokes too, and wordplay. Can fit sneaky little compliments in sometimes, I dunno. I'm super-confident in myself too, that probably helps.
Summary: Girls aren't scary, just have fun talking to them
Summary: Girls aren't scary, just have fun talking to them
I'm like Captain Jack Harkness..
I flirt with the whole frekking world and expect it to tongue kiss me for it.
I flirt with the whole frekking world and expect it to tongue kiss me for it.
My 'flirting' is more so an act.
I generally act overly confident and be very forward. I'm not interested in actually flirting, I just do it for both the lulz and to see the reactions.
I generally act overly confident and be very forward. I'm not interested in actually flirting, I just do it for both the lulz and to see the reactions.
Being a schizoid answers this question for me, hahaha.
Or having SPD, if you want to be technical.
Or having SPD, if you want to be technical.
Flirt? Ha! Real men don't flirt, they spend all their time playing videogames, watching random youtube videos, engaging in discussions on nerdy internet forums and optimizing the statistics on their DnD characters. My way is the way of the future!
It's also pretty bloody lonely...
It's also pretty bloody lonely...
Take off shirt. Flex. Get Girl
...or that is whats supposed to happen
I actually don't really flirt, it doesn't fit me and I don't see a reason to try and fool someone into thinking I am a flirt when I'd rather just have a conversation without awkward one-liners
...or that is whats supposed to happen
I actually don't really flirt, it doesn't fit me and I don't see a reason to try and fool someone into thinking I am a flirt when I'd rather just have a conversation without awkward one-liners
With women, I am accused of flirting far, far more often than I do so deliberately. I assume either that I'm an incorrigible flirt, or easily misinterpreted in that direction.
With men? I'm not often taken to be flirting with men.
In either case, I tend to be the innocent party when another flirts with me. Usually, I won't even notice. On such occasions as I am receptive to flirting advances, I become shy and abashed quite quickly, though I've seldom acted to discourage the behavior. Now that I'm married, of course, this doesn't come up much. I try to bear in mind that I may be seen as flirting by others, but my flirting has always been unambitious even when deliberate. It's just how I talk.
With men? I'm not often taken to be flirting with men.
In either case, I tend to be the innocent party when another flirts with me. Usually, I won't even notice. On such occasions as I am receptive to flirting advances, I become shy and abashed quite quickly, though I've seldom acted to discourage the behavior. Now that I'm married, of course, this doesn't come up much. I try to bear in mind that I may be seen as flirting by others, but my flirting has always been unambitious even when deliberate. It's just how I talk.
I can't remember ever trying to hit on anyone. Where's the "painfully oblivious to flirt" option? I'm not very outgoing but when I do, chances are I'll have a friend rolling her eyes at me after I "brush off" somebody without even realizing.
Real life example: This fairly formal school dance is coming up and a guy I just know by name asks me if I'm going. I start blabbing about how dressing up and having a ballroom dance in the gym sounds like a lot of trouble and not much fun to me...and only then it occurs to me why he might be asking in the first place >_<. Meh, wasn't going anyway.
Real life example: This fairly formal school dance is coming up and a guy I just know by name asks me if I'm going. I start blabbing about how dressing up and having a ballroom dance in the gym sounds like a lot of trouble and not much fun to me...and only then it occurs to me why he might be asking in the first place >_<. Meh, wasn't going anyway.
i like to put on a very gruff and deep voice and speak very slowly
my usual tactic is to say
"oooooooh, you look good enough to chew"
yeah but seriously i dont have any specific techniques
success rate is reasonable, but i'm sure thats because they pity how tight my jeans are
my usual tactic is to say
"oooooooh, you look good enough to chew"
yeah but seriously i dont have any specific techniques
success rate is reasonable, but i'm sure thats because they pity how tight my jeans are
I'm usually just really friendly up until I realize that the other person is actually attracted to me.
Then I panic.
Then I panic.
Honestly, I don't flirt at all in a traditional sense. I don't chat people up, I just talk to them and see if our personalities spark.
There's certain stock conversations that I run to see if someone is the kind of person I would be interested in. If they can get through to the end of about ten minutes of conversation, enjoying my sense of humour and being interesting back, then tbh I'm about done. I'll just be charming a while longer and then take their knickers off in my own good time.
Lead with a compliment, find out more about them, take an interest in whatever they talk about(that's a learned skill btw... show a little knowledge, but let them teach you too... it makes people trust you and makes them feel smart... it gets them talking comfortably and feeling good about themselves), make clever jokes about things. If you do it right, they'll tell you anything in their life and feel like they've known you forever very quickly. From there, if I genuinely like them, then I'm set. Arrange to see them again or sex them up a couple of hours later, depending on the vibe I get from them. Some people like to jump right in, some people like to connect more, either way is fine.
It sounds kinda arrogant, but I promise its not meant to sound like that. I can definitely NOT sleep with anyone. But if they are the kind of person I like (clever, funny, under-appreciated which is normally bundled with some self-esteem/daddy issues) then they are likely to be the kind of person that would sleep with me (clever, funny, hard to please, slightly domineering male).
Its all about choosing the right people to talk to. If you are compatible, you won't 'flirt' at all, just sit and enjoy talking. I think thats what most people forget not just with flirting but with meeting people in general. They only go after impossible gorgeous air-headed attention whores and are then complain they never manage to talk them into bed.
Now sure you have to see some kind of sexy in someone to wanna sex them up, but tbh almost everyone has that in them and it becomes a lot clearer when you talk to them. Personally I think everyone is pretty when they smile, and it doesn't matter about size or lack of it. If you see someone who you think just has a something that gets your attention, go tell them you think so. Make them smile and talk to them and see whats to do. Being open minded to anyone means you'll be a whole lot happier IMHO, you look at the world differently.
There's certain stock conversations that I run to see if someone is the kind of person I would be interested in. If they can get through to the end of about ten minutes of conversation, enjoying my sense of humour and being interesting back, then tbh I'm about done. I'll just be charming a while longer and then take their knickers off in my own good time.
Lead with a compliment, find out more about them, take an interest in whatever they talk about(that's a learned skill btw... show a little knowledge, but let them teach you too... it makes people trust you and makes them feel smart... it gets them talking comfortably and feeling good about themselves), make clever jokes about things. If you do it right, they'll tell you anything in their life and feel like they've known you forever very quickly. From there, if I genuinely like them, then I'm set. Arrange to see them again or sex them up a couple of hours later, depending on the vibe I get from them. Some people like to jump right in, some people like to connect more, either way is fine.
It sounds kinda arrogant, but I promise its not meant to sound like that. I can definitely NOT sleep with anyone. But if they are the kind of person I like (clever, funny, under-appreciated which is normally bundled with some self-esteem/daddy issues) then they are likely to be the kind of person that would sleep with me (clever, funny, hard to please, slightly domineering male).
Its all about choosing the right people to talk to. If you are compatible, you won't 'flirt' at all, just sit and enjoy talking. I think thats what most people forget not just with flirting but with meeting people in general. They only go after impossible gorgeous air-headed attention whores and are then complain they never manage to talk them into bed.
Now sure you have to see some kind of sexy in someone to wanna sex them up, but tbh almost everyone has that in them and it becomes a lot clearer when you talk to them. Personally I think everyone is pretty when they smile, and it doesn't matter about size or lack of it. If you see someone who you think just has a something that gets your attention, go tell them you think so. Make them smile and talk to them and see whats to do. Being open minded to anyone means you'll be a whole lot happier IMHO, you look at the world differently.
I've been told I'm very good at it. I was once asked how it was possible for me to be single once. My problem is that I don't flirt with anyone I don't know, so I just flirt with friends or people I know without any intentions of accomplishing anything. That is mostly because I hate it when strangers hit on me so I don't want to do something that makes me feel uncomfortable to someone else.