Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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I hate it so much.
It just feels like i'll never be able to find anyone. Hell i turn 20 in a few months and i've only ever had 1 girlfriend, and that lasted less than a month. I've been told i'm fairly attractive, but the only people who ever seem to be attract are gay men, which doesn't do me much good as i'm straight. I just can't ever seem to get a date, and i know it doesn't help matters that i'm shy, but despite my best efforts, I can't seem to fix that. It just feels kind of hopeless.
It just feels like i'll never be able to find anyone. Hell i turn 20 in a few months and i've only ever had 1 girlfriend, and that lasted less than a month. I've been told i'm fairly attractive, but the only people who ever seem to be attract are gay men, which doesn't do me much good as i'm straight. I just can't ever seem to get a date, and i know it doesn't help matters that i'm shy, but despite my best efforts, I can't seem to fix that. It just feels kind of hopeless.
I was unhappy being single so I got a girlfriend. Turned my life around but adds all sorts of complications and new responsibilities that I, looking back, don't really want or need.
Don't get me wrong though, I love my gf very much so its not all bad, but I just wish I had more time to do everything I wanna do and not much else (aside from working to fund my games addiction, of course)
Don't get me wrong though, I love my gf very much so its not all bad, but I just wish I had more time to do everything I wanna do and not much else (aside from working to fund my games addiction, of course)
I'd like to be in a relationship so my friends and family will stop bothering me about it. I'm slightly unhappy with being single, but I can't tell if it's my own feelings or just being told that single people can't be happy everyday for years caused it.
I was happy being single for a while, but after being alone for several years things get pretty depressing.
I have been in a long term relationship for most of my life(past 17) so yeah, I didn't really get the "I'm young and single" feeling. Cherish it because it will end and you will never get another chance. I'm not saying that it's bad being in a relationship (I have never been out of one really) just that I have never experienced being single really since I became sexually active. Live your life how you want, the number one thing is this; Looks don't matter if you can't be yourself. It doesn't matter how beautiful your woman is if all she wants to do is change you every day.
Where's the "I feel fine, but wouldn't mind being in a relationship if I happened upon one" option?
I'm happy being able to mingle everywhere and all, but at the same time I would have to admit I long for another relationship. Still, luck just bit me badly in the ass, the moment you find that someone, they or you always have to be separated miles away.
As for now I'm probably sitting out my time for a karmic payback for my previous relation. "Never date the transfer student" they say.
But at the same time I'm kind of sick and tired of relationshit, despite still holding on to some hope.
As for now I'm probably sitting out my time for a karmic payback for my previous relation. "Never date the transfer student" they say.
But at the same time I'm kind of sick and tired of relationshit, despite still holding on to some hope.
Pretty frickin happy. I'm just a teenager but seeing friends whine about their relationship problems makes me happy I'm not in one.
Is this a song? I feel like I've heard it before...Loop Stricken said:
OT: Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes it doesn't.
On the one hand I would probably shrivel up and die like a sea monkey if I were in a relationship. That's just... everything about it... can't handle that, man.
On the other hand, well the only times I don't want to be single is when I'm thinking about someone.
So in summary, does being single bother me on a daily basis? Yes. If I were in a relationship again would that bother me on a daily basis? Yes.
So no?
I wouldn't say I'm happy about being single, but being as such is a lot less stressful. I don't have to worry about my finances as much, I only have to make time for the things I want to do, I don't have to answer to anyone else.
All of my friends who are in relationships seem to be either constantly fighting with their partner, constantly breaking up and getting together again, getting pregnant or, in rare cases, rushing into marriages that I hope will last but probably won't.
Or, in the case of one unfortunate lad, that I've stopped trying to reason with, spending insane amounts of time glued to their computer, ignoring their real friends and whining when their parents force them to get a job, letting their uni grades plummet during term time and scabbing free housing/car/food off their parents because they think they're in a 'long-distance' relationship (read: obsessed with) with a girl on the other side of the world who is far too young for them.
If that's what counts as a relationship around here, then no thank you, I'm happy to wait.
Or, in the case of one unfortunate lad, that I've stopped trying to reason with, spending insane amounts of time glued to their computer, ignoring their real friends and whining when their parents force them to get a job, letting their uni grades plummet during term time and scabbing free housing/car/food off their parents because they think they're in a 'long-distance' relationship (read: obsessed with) with a girl on the other side of the world who is far too young for them.
If that's what counts as a relationship around here, then no thank you, I'm happy to wait.
Interesting question. Let's look at the benefits, shall we?Jacco said:
When you're single:
You save money.
You don't answer to anyone.
You can do goofy man stuff like workout,
play sports,
play videogames,
play music
Basically, you can be a selfish dipshit without concern for anyone else.
Now we're getting to the meat of the argument. If you can't understand that anyone could be happy being single, then you've never been happy being single.
Personally, I've become very attached to my alone-ness. I've been shaking girls for awhile now because I don't want to be put in a situation where I'll lose my resolve and "like" somebody. I think I've got one right now, though I'm not positive, and that would explain why I'm avoiding facebook. I not only like being alone, but I don't even want to RISK developing feelings for someone. AND, I don't like to do the whole "fling" thing either, because someone ALWAYS gets hurt, and I hate drama.
I could have a girl if I wanted. I swear.
Here's proof in the form of shameless self promotion.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tn7QyYy36zQ
I'm the bassist, white wifebeater 'n grey cargo shorts.
I know I had more on this subject, but I was distracted by 30 Rock. And after that I'll watch some Sopranos or play some Deus Ex (the first one). Answering to no-one.
I hate being single... I spent 4.5 years in a relationship with a girls I was planning to propose to, and was dumped out of the blue 10 months ago! I have been away with the military, and havent really had the chance to remedy this fact, although have been rejected once already...! I hate it! Before being with my gf gave me a purpose, but for a while I kinda felt lost! (hehe, cliche... but it was true!) Now i'm kinda just plodding along, but am looking furiously to fill the void (heh... 
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Well, to be honest, I'm kinda... Erm.. Content I guess. Friendship is all I'm really seeking. I honestly want to mature a bit and be a little more sure about my future and be on the right track to achieving my goals before I seriously consider finding a partner. At the very least I have a few short-term goals to accomplish first; for starters, my friends are moving away from me and stuff and I kinda need to find new people to hang out with and whatnot, and secondly, I need to REALLY get off my ass and start getting into shape. Once I get my next paycheque I'm going to get a gym membership and get to work on some cardio. It's not that I'm overweight or anything (I'm 20, male and only 130 pounds. And I eat a lot too, go figure), but it's just I've been so lazy lately, I've gotten so outta shape. In high school I could run about 1km before having to slow down.... But now? Ugh...
I've only had one boyfriend back in high school, but it was a miserable relationship. I was only really dating him out of peer pressure (my friends kept saying "Oh he's perfect for you! You two would be great together!" when in actuality I discovered we had next to nothing in common) and since I was stupidly feeling desperate to get into the dating game, I gave in. I wasn't really attracted to him at all, he was emotionally unstable (he tried committing suicide 3 times before we had started dating. His latest attempt was two days before I first asked him out) and, as stated before, we had next to nothing in common. We were together for about two months before he started to ask me why we weren't having sex and started pestering me about how I "wasn't putting out". Simply put, I wasn't ready, and frankly I just didn't want my first time to be with him, the mere thought simply made me want to gag (hope that doesn't make me sound like a jerk). I magically ended up growing some backbone and told him to piss off after putting up with his whining and threatening to break up with me for a month.
Thankfully that whole hell didn't put me off the idea of dating, buuuuut... Well, I don't know. I don't feel ready for the dating scene yet. Maybe in another year or so.
I've only had one boyfriend back in high school, but it was a miserable relationship. I was only really dating him out of peer pressure (my friends kept saying "Oh he's perfect for you! You two would be great together!" when in actuality I discovered we had next to nothing in common) and since I was stupidly feeling desperate to get into the dating game, I gave in. I wasn't really attracted to him at all, he was emotionally unstable (he tried committing suicide 3 times before we had started dating. His latest attempt was two days before I first asked him out) and, as stated before, we had next to nothing in common. We were together for about two months before he started to ask me why we weren't having sex and started pestering me about how I "wasn't putting out". Simply put, I wasn't ready, and frankly I just didn't want my first time to be with him, the mere thought simply made me want to gag (hope that doesn't make me sound like a jerk). I magically ended up growing some backbone and told him to piss off after putting up with his whining and threatening to break up with me for a month.
Thankfully that whole hell didn't put me off the idea of dating, buuuuut... Well, I don't know. I don't feel ready for the dating scene yet. Maybe in another year or so.
I considered that once, but then I realized it would cost me time and money, two things I value much more than other people. On an unrelated note, I'm single and much happier that way.TestECull said: