Poll: Is your virginity worth saving?
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If you're some middle eastern (or whatever she was) prostitute, then yes, because you can get three quarters of a million bucks if you use it at the right time.
Personally? I don't think I'm going to shag some random hooker off the street but I'm not planning on saving myself for "the one".
Personally? I don't think I'm going to shag some random hooker off the street but I'm not planning on saving myself for "the one".
Needs a `Don't care either way` thing.
Virginity is what you make of it.
I don't really care what others do with theirs.
Personally I think it doesn't matter. I wouldn't have `saved for marriage` because I do believe that sexual compatibility is important, and I'd wanna know that stuff before marriage. But if people wanna save theirs, good for them.
Virginity is what you make of it.
I don't really care what others do with theirs.
Personally I think it doesn't matter. I wouldn't have `saved for marriage` because I do believe that sexual compatibility is important, and I'd wanna know that stuff before marriage. But if people wanna save theirs, good for them.
Of course not. There's something dehumanising about placing too great a value on virginity. It's like you don't care about them as a person because now they are used goods, whereas you wanted a partner who was brand new.
Fixed it for you, you're welcome.BangSmashBoom said:
Please copy that into the OP.
Pretty please?
My take:
God will not simply deliver a wife to your doorstep one day, you ought to get out there and actively look for her.
Your virginity is yours to do with as you please, so whatever seems right to you is the right thing to do.
Just don't go around judging others.
I vote 'no', but I don't want to vote for your 'no, if you don't use it you lose it' option because I don't think that, either.BangSmashBoom said:
You know the difference between when I lost my virginity and when I have sex now, six years and four boyfriends later? There is none. I adore my current boyfriend as much as I adored my first boyfriend. I'm still fond of all the guys I've slept with and was fully willing to share in those experiences with them, so have nothing to regret. Pick sexual partners that you trust and like, for sure, but it's really not that big a deal if they're not going to be the person that you're with for ever and ever.
In fact, if anything, I'm against the notion of saving yourself for marriage, although Tainted Saint has already covered this point. For most couples, sexual compatibility is what makes the difference between being good friends and being romantic partners. Sex is so important in marriage that you actually have to have sex with each other for it to count, hence the ability to annul a marriage if it's never consummated. What happens if you legally bind yourself to someone you've never slept with before only to discover that you have completely different tastes and needs in the bedroom?
This, very much. I've heard people use the analogy that our bodies are 'a temple, not to be defiled'. How is a person 'defiling' themselves by taking part in an enjoyable and intimate activity (that has multiple emotional and physical health benefits, I might add)? So long as everyone is responsible and takes precautions with regards to STDs (and pregnancy if they're not up for having a babby any time soon) of course.manic_depressive13 said:
As a guy, I say hell no. Virginity is a horrible stigma that needs to be eradicated, at least for a guy it is. I can't speak for the opposite sex but I'm guessing it may be a different story.
But anyone who says a guy's virginity is worth saving is bullshitting.
But anyone who says a guy's virginity is worth saving is bullshitting.
No i don't think its worth saving, for many reasons.
1) Its a natural and biological part of our human instinct. Sexual repression is harmful and can seriously scar you for life.
2) 'Virginity' really doesn't make much sense. If you put it in a little, but not fully, are you a virgin? If a girl gets fingered, surely shes lost her virginity, as shes still being entered. See as its an intangible thing, its more of an opinion. It only has the value you give it.
3) Some people are not sexually compatible. Period. You cannot argue this. And that is an awkward thing to divorce for, as previous posters are right, marriage without sex is hell on earth.
Of course i'm a free thinking athiest so this kind of thing is quite clear to me, but if girls want to save their virginity, thats fine, just stay away from me.
1) Its a natural and biological part of our human instinct. Sexual repression is harmful and can seriously scar you for life.
2) 'Virginity' really doesn't make much sense. If you put it in a little, but not fully, are you a virgin? If a girl gets fingered, surely shes lost her virginity, as shes still being entered. See as its an intangible thing, its more of an opinion. It only has the value you give it.
3) Some people are not sexually compatible. Period. You cannot argue this. And that is an awkward thing to divorce for, as previous posters are right, marriage without sex is hell on earth.
Of course i'm a free thinking athiest so this kind of thing is quite clear to me, but if girls want to save their virginity, thats fine, just stay away from me.
This guy wins.FalloutJack said:
And I agree with him. Whenever you want to have sex is your choice...you shouldn't feel weird for not having sex right away like most people these days. I say have sex when you feel conformable with your parter or yourself.
Its entirely your choice...not everyone elses. XD
For me...well I'll do it when I'm comfortable. I'll only do it with person I truly love and know that I will spend my life with.
You know, I've come to believe that waiting until you're married to have sex might be among the worst decisions you could make about sex. Think about it for a second: if you're marrying someone, presumably, you should be looking to spend the rest of your life with them. So what if you never have sex before the big day and that night when you do, it's terrible? And what if it's not just first time awkwardness that's the problem, but it just never gets better because you don't mesh well in the bedroom? Sex is a pretty important thing in a marriage, like it or not, so wouldn't you rather find out that it's not going to work before making a very expensive commitment that's a pain in the ass to get out of? I'm not even saying you have to jump the bones of everyone you date, but if you've gotten to the point where asking the person to marry you is a real consideration, it's time to head to the bedroom and start taking off some clothes.
Virginity to me is nothing special. It's not some gift of loyalty or any other thing people tell themselves to convince them that it's important and something to be cherished. A healthy sex life between two people who love each other is far more important, and the only thing being a virgin tells me is the first time's going to be pretty damn awkward, but at least they aren't disease addled I suppose.
Virginity to me is nothing special. It's not some gift of loyalty or any other thing people tell themselves to convince them that it's important and something to be cherished. A healthy sex life between two people who love each other is far more important, and the only thing being a virgin tells me is the first time's going to be pretty damn awkward, but at least they aren't disease addled I suppose.
Nope, saved my virginity for the guy I was engaged to, he turned out to be a wife beating bastard.
Not to be cynical and bitter but people live much longer than they used to. Expecting someone to be the same person and never change for 50 odd years is pretty crazy. Not to mention you might change too.
That said sex gets much better in a long term relationship. I have nothing against those
Save your virginity or not doesn't bother me. But be careful of thinking that the person you lose it with will be around forever because shit happens, usually to good people.
Not to be cynical and bitter but people live much longer than they used to. Expecting someone to be the same person and never change for 50 odd years is pretty crazy. Not to mention you might change too.
That said sex gets much better in a long term relationship. I have nothing against those
Save your virginity or not doesn't bother me. But be careful of thinking that the person you lose it with will be around forever because shit happens, usually to good people.
It's not anything inherently sacred to me, but odds are I won't have sex until I get married. And my girlfriend feels the same way. Again, it's nothing special. It's called being smart.
Why smart exactly? I don't see how that's a factor. You basically just called anyone who has had sex with more than one person stupidMacgyvercas said:
Pretty much this. The idea that you want someone's virginity (A non-tangible thing, which does you no good apart from you passing judgement on others) as a gift, should be a sign your thinking is backwards.manic_depressive13 said:
I figure, there's a limited period where you actually have the freedom to do what you want, so go out and have fun. Anyone who wants, or desires, the virginity of others is acting insanely creepy, judgemental and if it's a religious motivation... I think you need a better motivation.
If you don't want to do it, don't, but by all means, if you have the desire to do it, and you find the right partner, fire away.
Generally speaking, no, virginity is not something particularly special, aside from a guarantee of an awkward experience. Nothing especially wrong with saving it for the person you decide to commit yourself to, except for that placing undo importance on both a civil joining of two people and the act of sex.
Don't get me wrong, it should be important. Personally, I hope to do that with someone I love dearly. But to hold onto it like it is some dear, precious thing seems unhealthy. All it really is is the inexperience to treat a partner how they really ought to be treated - to pleasure them like you should.
Don't get me wrong, it should be important. Personally, I hope to do that with someone I love dearly. But to hold onto it like it is some dear, precious thing seems unhealthy. All it really is is the inexperience to treat a partner how they really ought to be treated - to pleasure them like you should.
I don't see the point. It's healthy to have sexual relationships, you shouldn't wait for some arbitrary 'permission slip'. It's a normal part of being human, and I've always found it odd the way that virginity is viewed, especially in women. I'm sure it relates to some idea of 'purity' but I do wish these views would go away. Or at least people would keep them to themselves, rather than telling their children what they should and shouldn't do.
Then I'm wording it wrong. That wasn't my intent. I should have said smart for what is in my best interests.Moonlight Butterfly said:Why smart exactly? I don't see how that's a factor. You basically just called anyone who has had sex with more than one person stupidMacgyvercas said:
Point is, I'm in no financial condition to risk pregnancy, and neither is she. Yes, I know birth control options exist, but there are always chances that they fail. So quite frankly it's a hell of a lot easier to just avoid the whole possibility.
As for people who have sex with multiple partners, far be it from me to judge. Hell, go for it. Have a blast. Just be responsible about it. STDs are not to be fucked with (pun completely intentional).