BangSmashBoom said:
Last thing where I come from, we believe that fornication is just as bad as Adultery, don¡¦t ask me why, I didn¡¦t write the Bible, I¡¦m not trying to guilt or convert anyone, I¡¦m just trying to help you guys understand my belief system;
This is a little off topic, but shouldn't you think the question of "why" is a little more crucial than you do? I mean, don't you want to know why you should or shouldn't do things? And can you really say "we" believe X when you apparently don't (can't believe something before you understand it)? Or by "we believe" do you mean "it's a tenet of the religion I was indoctrinated into, and those around me want to keep it, even if they don't understand it either"? Sorry, but... sheeple, man... can't stand 'em.
To answer your poll, that would be a big fat "negatory!"... erm, or "no". To use your Christmas present analogy:
Let's say you wait and wait for your Christmas present, thinking it'll be the best thing ever, and when you finally unwrap it you find the gift itself is pretty underwhelming (maybe it's a book you've already read or something). Now, imagine instead of waiting patiently you went through Santa's sack, checking out what kind of gifts were out there, trying a few out, exchanging them when you felt they weren't quite what you wanted, before eventually settling on a gift that you love and could enjoy the rest of your life. Does it ruin the surprise of finally unwrapping after patiently waiting? Sure, you could say that. But is the thrill of a lucky dip really worth the benefits of road testing to find a gift you know you'll be satisfied with? And if the lucky dip doesn't work out for you, will you regret spending your one and only youth waiting around for Christmas when you could have been playing with your toys all year instead?
When I was younger, I wanted to save my virginity for my first serious girlfriend. I thought it was something special, and I wanted to share it with someone that meant a lot to me. That girlfriend never came, and I ended up losing my virginity to a girl I met online and shacked up with for a weekend on a drive interstate (and she fucking ROCKED in the sack! Couldn't have asked for a better first time, even though I was completely pathetic (as you'd expect)). After finally doing the deed and getting slapped with the harsh reality that sex - like most things in life - requires a bit of practice before you get good at it, the concept of "virginity" as some special gift that you should hold onto and only unwrap it when you're with someone you love faded away. Like anything new it's exciting, and you'll never forget your first time, but I don't regret not waiting (and slightly regret the opportunities before that weekend I'd given up in my quest to remain chaste and pure).
So for all the virgins out there, my advice would be to seize the opportunity when it presents itself. Don't lie about being a virgin though, because then she might be expecting more than a couple of seconds.
Unless she's a real ***** she'll be cool with it and not humiliate you afterwards.