I say No, but do what you want as long as you don't force your ideals upon everyone else or look down on those of us that choose to lose our virginity sooner. People are too repressed about sex, especially in America.
Sorry to hear that.Moonlight Butterfly said:Nope, saved my virginity for the guy I was engaged to, he turned out to be a wife beating bastard.
Not to be cynical and bitter but people live much longer than they used to. Expecting someone to be the same person and never change for 50 odd years is pretty crazy. Not to mention you might change too.
That said sex gets much better in a long term relationship. I have nothing against those
Save your virginity or not doesn't bother me. But be careful of thinking that the person you lose it with will be around forever because shit happens, usually to good people.
I dont remember where I heard this quote, but I think it applies here. Goes something along the lines of:uzo said:However, that said, my wife is pregnant with my second child now - a daughter. For all my talk of 'bah humbug that's old fashioned nonsense!' you can guarantee that I, as her father,
WILL BE WATCHING HER LIKE AN UNLIDDED EYE WREATHED IN FLAMES AT THE SUMMIT OF A BLACK TOWER
That's another point of view no one seems to be considering - sure, virginity is an individual's choice ... but as the soon-to-be-father of a girl I'll honestly tell everyone here that I'd be a lot more suspicious of her boyfriends than I would of my son's girlfriends (presuming they are both hetero of course). I don't care if you call me a hypocrite - at least I'm an honest one.
You don't need to feel the need to save it for a spouse or some "perfect" person but feeling as though it is something you need to be ashamed of or throw away as quick as possible is just as wrong. When a good opportunity presents itself then give it up but don't feel pressured and certainly don't do something you'll regret. Once it is gone, it's gone after all and while it might not be a tangible thing, it is very much a part of who you are, whether it becomes a source of strength and pride or a source of weakness and shame are completely up to you and how you choose to live your life and perceive things. I think it shows an incredible moral character to be willing to refrain from sex despite having no religious obligations holding one back. These are of course just my personal beliefs and while I might not agree with some of the concepts in your religion, I certainly respect what you have chosen for yourself and wish you the best of luck.BangSmashBoom said:Me and my family have a saying, ¡§Marriage and Christmas have a few things in common, unwrapping your present before the big special day is a ¡§VERY BAD IDEA!¡¨ So obviously us all including me say yes, it¡¦s definitely worth saving, and I¡¦m still planning on saving my ¡§Virginity¡¨ for my future wife, and for countless other reasons of course, but obviously I¡¦m probably the only that feels this way, so I ask you guys¡K Do ¡§YOU¡¨ personally feel that your virginity is worth saving, and why?
I was also wondering if you guys also feel that most wives would appreciate the fact that their husbands saved their virginity for them as a gift to her of loyalty, patience and self-disciple; and same for the husbands appreciating the fact that his wife saved her virginity for him as a gift as well.
Last thing where I come from, we believe that fornication is just as bad as Adultery, don¡¦t ask me why, I didn¡¦t write the Bible, I¡¦m not trying to guilt or convert anyone, I¡¦m just trying to help you guys understand my belief system; the only way I can understand that it says that fornication is just as bad as adultery is, for me I believe that if you have sex before you¡¦re married, your cheating on the one that God has planned for you, so I don¡¦t know about you guys but for me I love my wife as much as I can love another person, and I¡¦ve never even met her yet ¡§as least I don¡¦t think so¡¨, because I believe that if God wants me to marry, that he¡¦ll reward me with the wife that I so dearly desire, as long as I stay faithful to him. ?º