Poll: Isn't crying about the deceased pointless?
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You do it for yourself not for the deseased, pretty much like the funeral, the deseased doesn't mind/know if you throw him/her on the back yard. I just recently lost a nephew he was about to turn 1 year, first grandchild for my mom. He had a corrective hearth surgery and didn't came out of intensive care, he had several heart attacks, it was brutal. He was the cutest little thing. *tears*
1: Incorrect use of the phrase "begs the question" in the OP
2: Heaven forbid anyone do anything that isn't logical and functional. Yes, you do not necessarily have to feel bad if someone dies. But if you do and you cry, then I see absolutely nothing infuriating enough there to write forum based rant, seemingly functionless though the crying may be.
2: Heaven forbid anyone do anything that isn't logical and functional. Yes, you do not necessarily have to feel bad if someone dies. But if you do and you cry, then I see absolutely nothing infuriating enough there to write forum based rant, seemingly functionless though the crying may be.
Crying is firstly a autonomic response, its not something we consciously decide to do or not, I've spent too much time at funerals lately but not all brought tears to me. However yesterday I stood in a place my father and I had spent a lot of time as I was growing up and broke down, with no warning.
It truly does serve a point though, much like laughter, crying is a way to expend emotion, to let it pass through and leave you refreshed. We need to expel our inner turmoil in order to keep absorbing the new data we receive daily.
So maybe the action of expelling salt water through holes in our heads is fairly useless adaptation, but the physical representation of sorrow or loss is there to explain our situation and and needs to the society in which we live, we're social animals and we communicate in more ways than language.
It truly does serve a point though, much like laughter, crying is a way to expend emotion, to let it pass through and leave you refreshed. We need to expel our inner turmoil in order to keep absorbing the new data we receive daily.
So maybe the action of expelling salt water through holes in our heads is fairly useless adaptation, but the physical representation of sorrow or loss is there to explain our situation and and needs to the society in which we live, we're social animals and we communicate in more ways than language.
i like physics.
really, when i was younger death bothered me allot but the more i thought on it the more i realized, you cant actually die.
you simply return to the stardust you were originally contrived from
your energy will de unify and effect other things in the world eventually
really, when i was younger death bothered me allot but the more i thought on it the more i realized, you cant actually die.
you simply return to the stardust you were originally contrived from
your energy will de unify and effect other things in the world eventually
If I think a person either goes to hell or heaven after they die or if I think there is nothing else after one dies then it is pointless. If a person goes to hell it's because they deserve it defeating the purpose of crying over them, if a person goes to heaven they're better off and if there is nothing afterwards the person won't suffer and they have stopped suffering in the shit stained cess pit that is society. Even then we will cry because it's a natural reaction to stressful situations. We are selfish creatures by nature, we don't cry because they died, we cry because we don't have those people in our lives anymore. Also, we are vain and we hate not being in control of everything around us.
I haven't cried in a good long while. I take that back, I cried a few months back at the end of a game. Prior to that I haven't cried in a good while. I just think there are better things to do than cry. I don't think a funeral is a time to mourn a loss, but to celebrate a life. Funerals should be full of laughter, but I always get the worst looks when I say that at the funeral.
The schism between what humans know is logical and what they feel in their hearts is one too great to be explained by lesser men such as myself.
The latter is kind of jarring though - if you attend a religious funeral and don't believe in a God yourself; everyone's happy around you and has made their peace with the fact that said person is dead, but all you can think about is how their wake is really the last thing you'll ever do together.drosalion said:
I'm confused why you needed to ask this question to be honest - unless you have a learning disability that makes it difficult for you to understand others (and even then, I know people with autism who understand why people cry over death), it just seems strange that you're trying to analyse it logically.
Also, am I the only one who's a little disturbed by the amount of people who never cry according to the poll? I understand some people are much more stoic than I but NEVER? It's a natural response and sometimes involuntary, how can you not even sniffle, not even once at the death of someone close to you?
Losing someone you care about actually has a negative impact on your health.
Catharsis is thereputic and helps heal the damage done by this negative damage.
So no, not pointless.
Catharsis is thereputic and helps heal the damage done by this negative damage.
So no, not pointless.
I quite thoroughly second this.Hoplon said:
When one starts debating the value of emotion based on utility, I start worrying a little. It might be a little embarrassing, but it's there for a reason (Just not a totally utilitarian one).
As pointed out, it's a way to let out stress. Plus, it's pretty well known that you feel a little better after a good long cry. Perhaps not MUCH better, but you feel like just a bit of a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
As for me, I cry a lot, though I usually don't when in mourning. At least, I may not cry WHEN the died or AT the funeral. But at some point I'll remember them, and if I had a strong connection I may have to let out some tears.
I also have a problem that if I feel REALLY sad or regretful, I can barely hold my tears back. It's a little embarrassing when this happens at school because everyone starts asking you what's wrong, and I never wants to say.
...Derp.
As for me, I cry a lot, though I usually don't when in mourning. At least, I may not cry WHEN the died or AT the funeral. But at some point I'll remember them, and if I had a strong connection I may have to let out some tears.
I also have a problem that if I feel REALLY sad or regretful, I can barely hold my tears back. It's a little embarrassing when this happens at school because everyone starts asking you what's wrong, and I never wants to say.
...Derp.
