I like the idea of adopting in the future, but no WAY am I having my own children. I've been subjected to the 'lovely' sight of birth before. There is nothing magical about pushing a watermelon out of my vagina. 'Sides, so many unwanted kids in the world
Anyway, it would be a bit awkward if the man I wanted to be with wanted kids of our own, but hopefully they would be the kind of person that can accept the fact that I personally would rather adopt.
I like the idea of adopting in the future, but no WAY am I having my own children. I've been subjected to the 'lovely' sight of birth before. There is nothing magical about pushing a watermelon out of my vagina. 'Sides, so many unwanted kids in the world
Anyway, it would be a bit awkward if the man I wanted to be with wanted kids of our own, but hopefully they would be the kind of person that can accept the fact that I personally would rather adopt.
I myself don't want children, so occasionally meeting women that don't want children either is a turn-on. I think most people want to have kids because society tells them to. I prefer my women very independent and career-minded. It does get frustrating though, when women turn you down based on this one particular area, and MOST women I've met want children.
I don't HATE kids, I think they're cute, funny, and at times brilliant and surprising; but they just cost SO MUCH MONEY and take up time I could be using to do other things. When you have kids, you lose a LOT of freedom, and that for me is the main reason I don't want any.
Yes and no. If they just don't want kids immediately or the near future, then I'm open to that. If they don't ever want to have children, like ever, then that might lessen my interest in them, i.e a turn off. But doesn't mean that I wouldn't want to go out with them. Just means that them that I dislike.
I go back and forth about whether I want kids. On one hand, reproduction is one of the most basic functions of living beings and it would seem weird to skip such an integral step, but on the other, I just don't see what it good about having a five-year-old run up to me and tell me he wants apple juice and will cry if he doesn't get it. I also don't know why I'd want a five-year-old to tell me he loves me; love is cheap when you're five. Right now, if my next girlfriend told me she didn't want kids, I'd take it as a sign we would be good together. And no, I don't date women I wouldn't marry, so that doesn't come into play.
Right now it wouldn't as I do not want children. In the future that may change. If I ever want children and I'm not already in a relationship I can see how meeting a woman that doesn't want to have them would be a turn off. To me a relationship is working, at least potentially, towards marriage and that's the only time I would intentionally bring a child into this world.
Yes, it definitely would. At some point, years from now, I'll be wanting kids. If she doesn't, then it would definitely affect how long our relationship would last.
I had this exact conversation many times with my now ex-girlfriend. She is hell bent on getting preggers and I absolutely refuse to have children because they just downright plain old suck ass, not to even mention the fact that they drain every dime of wealth out of you. Long story short, I'm no longer with her after much hissy fitting, crying, and whining from her.
If I met a woman that refused to have children it would be a dream for me, I never want any spawn, I couldn't think of something more of a turn on than a woman that wanted to NOT have kids!
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, but I would tell him that up front just because it's rather rude to get married and then drop that little tidbit afterwards. Wouldn't make for a happy honey moon.
It's not that I hate them it's just I've seen the 'most beautiful act' before and it doesn't even remotely interest me. I would adopt though, a friend of mine was adopted and has told me horror stories of orphanages, so I would go that route instead.
I like the idea of adopting in the future, but no WAY am I having my own children. I've been subjected to the 'lovely' sight of birth before. There is nothing magical about pushing a watermelon out of my vagina. 'Sides, so many unwanted kids in the world
Anyway, it would be a bit awkward if the man I wanted to be with wanted kids of our own, but hopefully they would be the kind of person that can accept the fact that I personally would rather adopt.
I know plenty of couples who can reproduce yet they choose to adopt purely because of the fact that there are so many children who are unwanted.
As for me, I don't care. I'm definitely not interested in having children ANY time soon. If and when I get to that point in my life I think adoption would definitely be something I would consider. I would much rather bring hope to a child who is already alive than one who has yet to be conceived.
No problem, don't want kids and I don't think I ever will. And since it can't happen the 'natural' way for me anyway, the alternatives are too much of a hassle to consider.
If I am just in the relationship for fun, no. However if there is at all a chance of it turning into a serious relationship then yes it would be a turn off. I want to have children. I am a redhead, we are dying out, I want to spread the gene as well as I can. Not to mention although the though of raising a kid is not very appealing, at the same time I am rather curious and it would be a great opportunity to experiment a little with the human mind and see if I can't create a person that I actually like and respect.
I'm supposed to be studying for a chemistry mock exam today, so as per the laws of nature and studying I've ended up only being able to think of matters not even tangentially related to that.
Today's thoughts are as follows:
Would the fact that a prospective partner does not want to have children, ever, affect your desire to initiate a relationship with them?
Say someone with your preferred set of genitalia has asked you out. The first few dates have gone swimmingly, and you are reasonably attracted to them. You are both interested in pursuing something more long-term. We're not talking marriage plans here though; just a regular boyfriend-girlfriend thing. There's commitment involved, but you don't consider them to be "the one", in other words.
However, the prospective partner just revealed that their plans for the future contain exactly zero offspring. Are you still interested in pursuing a somewhat proper relationship with this person?
The purpose of this poll here is to see how someone's stance on children will affect another person's choice of partner for a relationship that's not expected to make it to the point of marriage/civil union/relationship state where having children would be natural/whatever equivalent you feel like, jeez.
Basically: Whether the partner wants children or not is in reality largly irrelevant to the relationship, but I suspect their choice not to procreate might still turn many off the relationship; particularly women.
Because I'm a sexist pig, I guess.
Make note that I am not referring to a casual relationship. It is important that even though neither party honestly believes it'll last 'till marriage there is still commitment involved.
[sub]Yes, I am aware that the results will be rather skewed because of the escapist community.
Fucks given: Zero.
I'll compensate or something.
And I just realized my original poll options don't make sense in their formulation. Drat.[/sub]
I'd probably be like "Okay, cool." and carry on with my day knowing the person in question wouldn't forget their birth control.
I'm 16. Why would I care about the person wanting to have kids or not? Kids don't seem fun, but I shouldn't even think about having them until I'm at least 30.
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