Poll: Teens sleeping together?

[lettucethesallad]

Ya people need to chill out on this type of thing.

A voice of reason!

As has been stated before, sharing a bed doesn't necessarily mean sleeping together. And so what if it means sleeping together? (When done safe) what's the harm? The whole no sex before marriage thing is in itself just a historical way to controll the sexuality of women, objectifying them and denying them the same rights as men.

 

[lettucethesallad]

What do you mean by teenager? There's a pretty big difference between eighteen and thirteen. Seventeen to eighteen isn't so bad but thirteen to fourteen is a bit bigger of a problem.

Gotta agree with this guy also I belive in reasponsibity. Can you afford a child? If not you better be damn good at keeping you stuff in line cause a single mistake and your going to be paying for that kid.

I'm a 22 year old student and I sure as hell can't provide for a kid for at least another 4 years. Should I stop having sex all together on the off chance that my birth controll pills fail? -_-"

 

[aba1]

What do you mean by teenager? There's a pretty big difference between eighteen and thirteen. Seventeen to eighteen isn't so bad but thirteen to fourteen is a bit bigger of a problem.

Gotta agree with this guy also I belive in reasponsibity. Can you afford a child? If not you better be damn good at keeping you stuff in line cause a single mistake and your going to be paying for that kid.

I'm a 22 year old student and I sure as hell can't provide for a kid for at least another 4 years. Should I stop having sex all together on the off chance that my birth controll pills fail? -_-"

no but it's important to be reasponsable take multiple percausions use a condom and the pills or pull out (but that takes control)

 

[yookiwooki]

I don't have any problem with teenagers having sex whenever they feel ready, but if you're in your parents house I would have some caution. I'd expect it to be a bit awkward for your parents to hear you humping away in the other room, and anyways thats pretty rude to do to anybody. If your parents step out for the day and you're home alone, go for it.

 

[theonewhois3]

Does it really fucking matter?

If they are safe and aren't going to produce a baby or give each other STIs, what the fuck does it matter? What will be influenced negatively by this? What will change? How will it effect your life?

The answers are: No, No, Nothing, Nothing and It won't.

You know why this forum is considered superior to other forums? Because we like to think ourselves as one that thrives in having actual debates instead of the atypical 'throwing shit at each other from across the street', that you mostly see now on 4chan and site like that.

What you did right there was throw shit in the middle of a town hall meeting. Every other post I see of yours is you literally attacking someone elses opinion.

For fucks sake, chill out.

And, to think that a condom or birth control would remotely protect you from an STD is ridiculous.

OP: It really depends in my opinion.

I personally don't trust anyone with sex these days, because all of my friends seem to get way to lenient with safe sex. If I was a parent, I'd at least say no to it to keep them on their toes.

Condoms are actually remarkably effective at stopping STIs as they limit fluid exchange. I think the two points silly was trying to make was that, firstly, when individuals get to a certain age they're capable making certain decisions for themselves. In my country the courts consider it to be 16 years of age. Secondly that sex isn't an awful thing, despite what your country's puritan culture might think. There is nothing immoral about consensual sex between healthy and/or protected individuals that are not in a long term relationship.

 

[rofl jet]

I think you have to word this better, when you said sleeping together I didn't realize you meant literally.

 

[chellybelly]

Ahh if only my mum knew... Now that I'm in my 20s and thinking of having kids of my own I know exactly what teenagers are like and there's no bloody way they're sleeping in the same room, even if it makes me the 'uncool' parent.

Once they've moved out, they can do whatever they like, I can't stop them then. Just prepare them with STD talk, risk of pregnancy and you're set. I'd probably try to encourage oral sex anyway...I mean, if they were showing signs of interest in sex.

 

[Broax]

I think it depends a bit on how old you are... OFC if you are thirTEEN i'ts diferent then if you were nineTEEN... I should have sex when you feel ready. Some parents will pickup on that and won't give you trouble. Some will...

I don't imagine caring if my son sleeps in the same bed as a girl. You're gonna have sex sooner or later. I'd rather you do it safe inside the house (as awkward as it might be) then doing it on a car and having something terrible happen.

OFC you parents might not care but her parents might be more conservative. Or they might still view her as their little baby (not in a condescending way, but in a paternalist and normal way). Sometimes it's just hard to let your kids "go". You need to understand and respect that.

As for sex... Don't be stupid. Use a condom. Aside from the obvious reasons (pregnancy, aids, etc) once you have sex without condom, sex with condom will never EVER be the same again.

It's like a curse... A warm and great little curse that you'll never get rid of. If I knew how good having sex without a condom was I would never tried it. That way protected sex would still be the greatest thing after beer! But seriously... Condom... Use one! Oh... And do plenty of foreplay... Girls love it!

Now go get her tiger! =P

 

[Dark Knifer]

You want to know what I think? I think there are a lot more sex threads on The Escapist then there needs to be.

Is there a quota on how many sex threads we can have? If someone wants to discuss it by all means let them discuss it. Otherwise you can just ignore the thread and find one or make one more to your liking.

OT: Speaking as a 17 year old with a great relationship, I really don't see the problem. It's impossible to set an age where everyone will be mature enough to have sex. Some people mature faster then others and age guidelines don't really account for that. Generally any earlier then 14-15 would be a cause for concern since it's unlikely but it really depends on the individual.

For me, I can't have sex with my girlfriend because neither of our parents will allow it but neither have provided me with a reason apart from 'your too young'. I have no idea why because I love my girlfriend very much and we're both responsible and this is the first relationship for both of us. Really I don't see how us enjoying more intimacy would be a bad thing in any way. Besides, irresponsible adults can have as much sex as they want so why not teenagers?

 

[crudus]

What do you mean by what your brains does after sex? All my brain did was "Huh, that was awkward, but I'd like to try it again and see if it improves".

..what exactly does the brain do after sex that's so scary? I haven't heard anything except that it releases dopamine.

Sex isn't just for reproduction in humans. After you have sex a cocktail of endorphins are released as UserName pointed out. However, it increases the emotional bond between two people. This is all fine and dandy for married couples, but not so for young teens who probably aren't going to be marrying who they sleep with. In the end it causes quite the emotional damage (for lack of a better word) when the break up does happen. Essentially it is why "just sex" never works and why you can get "stage 5 clingers" after a one-night stand.

It's funny... they try to scare you into not having sex but neglect what is possibly the most horrible (and yet at the same time, can be the most wonderful) aspect of sex. Your brain can really fuck with you on that. >.>

I can always count on you to know exactly what I am talking about ^_^

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

So basically I'm asking out of curiosity, should teenagers be allowed to sleep with each other, and also as a side note, is it really SO terrible if they are sexually active as long as they are using protection?

Editº: I'll try to add a bit more discussion value with this; why exactly is it a bad thing for teenagers to have sex if they are protected and educated?

To you, I say "have fun, enjoy yourselves" - seriously, have a good time with it.

In general, I say: teens are going to have sex. If we don't force them to hide it, and if we provide them with protection, then they won't get pregnant or diseased.

So yes, teens should be allowed to sleep together and be sexually active with one another. Anything else is just adults kidding ourselves about what you guys are really doing anyway.

 

[Zacharious-khan]

There's really no downside as long as the teens are intelligent about the doin it they are doin, really as long as no one contracts any diseases or the babies its essentially the same as loosing a night to an addictive video game.

 

[kickyourass]

As long as both participants are consenting, using the appropriate protection, and over the age of 15, I say go on ahead, have fun.
Ohh, I should also add that if you're not willing to take responsibility for it if something happens, you're better off not even sharing the same ROOM let alone the same bed.

 

[Nieroshai]

Thee poll didn't cover my opinion, so here goes.

I believe age isn't what matters, it's the level of commitment you can bring to the relationship. I know teens who are awesomely loyal to their partners, and middle-aged adults who are cheating bastards. My position overall is that if you preserve your sexuality for someone you actually want to bond with, that's best in the end. Yes I do believe we were wired to mate for life, I've seen the effects off cheating and promiscuity and whether they're visible to the individual doing it or not, it's usually pretty obvious they start treating sex like a toy.

I just doubt anyone younger than 17 is emotionally mature enough to commit to a single partner.

 

[smithy_2045]

Preventing them sleeping in the same bed will only move the sex to other locations.

 

[Blastinburn]

I always hate how people assume "sleeping together" implies sex. No, there is nothing wrong with 2 people actually sleeping together.

 

[Canid117]

I am guessing you started this thread so that you can feel reassured that what you are doing is the right thing. In the future you should know that the escapist trends towards a more liberal "Go for it" attitude so just go ahead and do it in the future as long as you feel you are ready.

 

[Julianking93]

I can always count on you to know exactly what I am talking about ^_^

I like to be of help

Also to the rest of your post and to the other people questioning it...

Sex isn't just for reproduction in humans. After you have sex a cocktail of endorphins are released as UserName pointed out. However, it increases the emotional bond between two people. This is all fine and dandy for married couples, but not so for young teens who probably aren't going to be marrying who they sleep with. In the end it causes quite the emotional damage (for lack of a better word) when the break up does happen. Essentially it is why "just sex" never works and why you can get "stage 5 clingers" after a one-night stand.

This can be dead-on accurate or completely false depending on who you're talking to.
Think about it from the standpoint of those types who only have one night stands. There's a reason they do that; they feel next to no emotional connection with sex. That's fine, I suppose, for them but you throw someone into that who actually does have emotional connection and that can break them emotionally.
The idea of "just sex" can work but only if you have two people who... well for lack of a better term, don't particularly give a fuck (no pun intended) about each other or don't associate any form of emotional bond with the physical. To say that might be a bit harsh since people do have sex all the time without really thinking about it but I personally believe there's always at least some part of them that has an emotional reaction to the physical action no matter who they are.
I don't particularly get that myself but it's not for me to get really. I have no interest in that. Though unfortunately I have been in that situation before. >.>

 

[MrAkuma201]

WHAT is the big deal if they are of legal age and both are willing why not?

 

[TheLoneBeet]

Meh. Do what you want just be prepared for the consequences.