Poll: was i out of line?
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You were fine until you twisted their ears and caused them discomfort if not pain which you yourself admited to. That wasn't necessary at all, a firm hand on a shoulder or arm would have surficed. You have no right to do that since it's not your kid, if it was my hypothetical child then I'd be pissed at you too, can't believe a significant majority find this is okay either. (72% voted no as of this post)
The mother was overreacting. If possible you should have found another way to escort the kids off your property.
From her point of view it's her child and she doesn't want anybody touching her child. protection things and all, we're not the only animals that do it.
It's good that the husband was understanding though.
From her point of view it's her child and she doesn't want anybody touching her child. protection things and all, we're not the only animals that do it.
It's good that the husband was understanding though.
Sure I can, I remember it. I know for a fact what I'd do at that age - I was actually disciplined. Then again it might differ from person to person; I lived in a pretty rough area, and my dad likes nothing better than ranting off life lessons.Delsana said:
No you are not out of line.
Sometimes children are idiots and don't listen to reason.
Heh, I've had my ear twisted. It stings a little, but its not like its going to permanently damage me or give me long-term trauma.
Some of the stuff I see kids do,(once I saw a kid go to the toilet in a photobooth, while I was serving his mother on the checkout), and they just get away with it.
My parents were fairly strict, and I was a little scared of them.
And thats good, a little fear, some knowledge of boundaries, a bit of a reality check. Its what kids need.
(Else they'd end up causing chaos and mayhem like in Lord of the Flies! XD)
At least now, they will be very wary of where they play ball (if they aren't, then they are pretty stupid kids).
Sometimes children are idiots and don't listen to reason.
Heh, I've had my ear twisted. It stings a little, but its not like its going to permanently damage me or give me long-term trauma.
Some of the stuff I see kids do,(once I saw a kid go to the toilet in a photobooth, while I was serving his mother on the checkout), and they just get away with it.
My parents were fairly strict, and I was a little scared of them.
And thats good, a little fear, some knowledge of boundaries, a bit of a reality check. Its what kids need.
(Else they'd end up causing chaos and mayhem like in Lord of the Flies! XD)
At least now, they will be very wary of where they play ball (if they aren't, then they are pretty stupid kids).
They are not your kids, you should not be taking it upon yourself to punish them. They damaged your property, you have the right to demand compensation from their parents. They trespassed into your property, you have the right to escort them out (personally I would've just dragged them by the arm to their parent's house). You have the right to be pissed at them, you have the right to get into a shouting match with their mother, but you don't have the right to physically harm them (even something as minor as twisting their ear). If I were the mother, I'd be pissed at you too.
Fuck no. You weren't disciplining her kids, you were getting them off your property after they trespassed. Remind her that you could have just as easily called the cops, had them arrested and pressed charges for trespassing and vandalism and I bet she'll shut up right quick.spartandude said:
If that doesn't work, point out that you still could.
I can't believe the number of people who are supporting the mother here. Obviously people who have neither children nor property.
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I, for one, don't see any rpoblem with what you did. It was just an ear twist, for God's sake! You didn't spank them or anything else. In my eyes, it is a more harsh way to get the kids to their parents and explain what they did. The parents should be pissed at their kids, for breaking your window and trespassing.
Were you out of line? Legally, yes you were. Modern society tries to protect everybody and tends to be ridiculously lenient on most punishments.
Morally and logically, you were perfectly in line, just unfortunately morality and logic aren't accounted for in most legal systems.
By the way, the paint you want is called anti-vandal paint or anti-climb paint. Where you can get it is dependant on where you live.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-climb_paint
Morally and logically, you were perfectly in line, just unfortunately morality and logic aren't accounted for in most legal systems.
By the way, the paint you want is called anti-vandal paint or anti-climb paint. Where you can get it is dependant on where you live.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-climb_paint
I'd say you might have gone over the line, but then again... See, in America at least, you could've called the cops and even sued if you were so willing. In that light, what you did wasn't the bad option. Also relevant, I've heard of someone who escorted a kid from their garage by pulling their arm, caused a bruise and got arrested, even though the kid was stealing.
Parents will ALWAYS see the more compassionate side when it comes to kids. When I was a kid, this would've made it clear I did wrong. I personally am a child of spankings, and learned the rules darn fine, thank you.
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Parents will ALWAYS see the more compassionate side when it comes to kids. When I was a kid, this would've made it clear I did wrong. I personally am a child of spankings, and learned the rules darn fine, thank you.
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Take ball, stab it with knife, give it back.
: I said no in the poll, unless you really damaged them (to me that is if they started bleeding or got bruises on/around their ears. Scaring kids so they piss themselves is quite easy too...and fun
: I said no in the poll, unless you really damaged them (to me that is if they started bleeding or got bruises on/around their ears. Scaring kids so they piss themselves is quite easy too...and fun
Doubtful.spartandude said:
Still, you have the right of your own property, and they were trespassing and destroying it.
Probably shouldn't have twisted their ears though. Just escort them back to their parents personally next time without any trivial violence against the kids.