Question about sexuality.

[MasterOfWorlds]

LOL How can you masturbate to a dude and not realise you like sausage? With me it was basically that I was pretty much born with a very "feminine" personality. My stepdad used that as yet another reason to hate me, alongside my OCD and that man-child competing with me for Mom's attention. I LOVED jewelry, still do. I used to wish I was born a girl. Of course, LONG before I even felt sexual urges(how old was I in 7th grade?) girls made up most of my friends. I just didn't feel comfortable around other guys. I had tons of female friends and 3 guy friends. My first attraction was to a girl around my freshman year, but when she put me down I noticed I had a thing for guys too. Being religious I obviously tried to suppress it, but you know how futile that is. I often have to excuse myself from a room where there's a guy that catches my attention because I'll turn red otherwise. But I've never been able to love a guy, any guy really, which is why I ultimately ended up with a girlfriend. Pretty much no one but her knows I'm inherently bi. I tell the internet because none of you will ever meet and recognize me, lol.

You do realize that most porn out there is between a guy and a girl...right? If you look at it a certain way, if you masturbate to any porn with any sort of penis use, be it actual penis, strap on, or whatever, it is, in a way, masturbating to sausage.

And sure we'd recognize you. You're that guy with the glowy eye that looks vaguely like Rouroni Kenshin. XD

 

[Nieroshai]

LOL How can you masturbate to a dude and not realise you like sausage? With me it was basically that I was pretty much born with a very "feminine" personality. My stepdad used that as yet another reason to hate me, alongside my OCD and that man-child competing with me for Mom's attention. I LOVED jewelry, still do. I used to wish I was born a girl. Of course, LONG before I even felt sexual urges(how old was I in 7th grade?) girls made up most of my friends. I just didn't feel comfortable around other guys. I had tons of female friends and 3 guy friends. My first attraction was to a girl around my freshman year, but when she put me down I noticed I had a thing for guys too. Being religious I obviously tried to suppress it, but you know how futile that is. I often have to excuse myself from a room where there's a guy that catches my attention because I'll turn red otherwise. But I've never been able to love a guy, any guy really, which is why I ultimately ended up with a girlfriend. Pretty much no one but her knows I'm inherently bi. I tell the internet because none of you will ever meet and recognize me, lol.

You do realize that most porn out there is between a guy and a girl...right? If you look at it a certain way, if you masturbate to any porn with any sort of penis use, be it actual penis, strap on, or whatever, it is, in a way, masturbating to sausage.

And sure we'd recognize you. You're that guy with the glowy eye that looks vaguely like Rouroni Kenshin. XD

LOL!
You do have a point, I just figured based on your post that it was specifically and obviously guys only.

 

[Hamster at Dawn]

I'm heterosexual but I don't find other guys disgusting at all, which made me wonder if I was bisexual at one point. Most people seem to dislike seeing people of the same gender naked but nothing like that bothers me at all.

 

[ReservoirAngel]

Thinking back now, I can figure out my progression to it.

At age 4 I started showing signs of being of the more feminine attitude
At age 8 I began showing signs of liking guys. Back then it was just REALLY being friends with someone, but still
At age 9 I had my first fantasy about being someone's boyfriend
At age 12 I had my first 'innapropriate' fantasies. This was the same time I discovered masturbation
At age 13 I finally began to think I might be gay
At age 14 I actually properly realised it
At age 15 I finally accepted it and decided it wasn't the end of the world
At age 16 I came out, to find that most people I came out to already knew anyway.

And on the 'does sexuality matter' thing, I don't think it does. Sexuality should ONLY influence your sex life, and maybe certain aspects of your social life. If you let your sexuality control and dictate every aspect of your personality, then you're putting too much stock into your persuasion. Deep down, sexuality is just one part of what makes you who you are.

LOL How can you masturbate to a dude and not realise you like sausage?

The masturbation and the fantasies about guys were pretty much two seperate things. Very rarely did they overlap. I never masturbated to fantasies about girls, but I didn't masturbate to fantasies about guys either. I just...masturbated. Never had anything really in my mind. The two activities only overlapped when I was 13, which was when I started thinking "holy on...maybe I like dudes..."

 

[vato_loco]

Let's see. Heterosexual male. As far as my memory goes, my interests have always been girls and games (one of which is sexual interest, I'll let you guess which. Oooh you naughty wireless controller, you).

I don't really think sexuality matters much. There's only one thing that pisses me off, and that's the flamboyant gay. You know, the one that is so openly gay and loud that even the ilegitimate clone-son of Liberace and Prince would go 'dude... you need to chill'.

Other than that, no problem with sexual orientation.

 

[CrimsonRegret]

Bi. A while back I had a sexual experience with a friend, and it confused the hell out of me. Since then I had started to watch and read pornography from both orientations, and over this past summer, I realized I was bi, and stopped acting like what I was watching and reading was a "test" every time. I don't really find sexuality that important, in fact I haven't come out. The truth is I'm not afraid to, I just really don't find it a big enough part of my life to bring it up.

 

[Zechnophobe]

As I'm sure many of you have seen, there are a ton of threads about sexuality on here. Now, I'm not trying to start a flame war or anything, but I'm genuinely curious about sexuality and the average person, whether that person be hetero, homo, or bisexual, as well as transgender, pansexual, omnisexual, and the like.

My question is fairly simple, I think. When did you realize that you are the orientation you are? Were you always that way, or did you wake up one day and realize that you were one or another?

As a former psychology major and current sociology major, I find this question very interesting since sexuality seems to be a hot button issue. So I'd like to increase the discussion value of this thread by adding, "Does sexuality really matter?" to the mix.

Please, do try to be calm and reasonable. If someone says something that offends you or tries to troll you, just report them, and don't flood my thread with meaningless semi-thought out rants.

So, I suppose I'll start first. I'm a heterosexual male, have never had any interest in men sexually, and have always (at least as far back as I can remember) had an interest in women. As for the sexuality and it mattering? I don't see how it should affect me unless someone of non-heterosexual orientation hits on me, in which case, I politely decline. I don't see the huge fuss about it.

Been straight as soon as I hit puberty. I definitely can appreciate a guy being handsome, and realize it is nicer to look at, but I don't exactly turn my head in the car, or squint for a better view, like I do with a nice shapely woman.

Some interesting info: According to OKCupid's blog, most young men who call themselves 'bisexual' only EVER persued other men, and most young women who call themselves 'bisexual' only EVER persued men.

It is a pretty cool thing to see on paper. It reinforces my, and many others, suppositions on the matter. Namely that young girls try to look more attractive by putting on the show of bisexuality, and many men try to look less 'gay' for the same reason. Not sure exactly how it works for guys (Maybe being bisexual feels more socially acceptable? Dunno).

 

[aenimau5]

I really am not entirely sure at the moment and no it shouldn't matter in the slightest what sexuality you are

 

[Evil the White]

Pansexual, and comfortable with it. My friends are too. And my girlfriend.

No-one really seems that bothered by it, so that works out ok with me.

 

[BabySinclair]

Never thought about homosexuality til in earnest until I got most the way through middle school and into high school, or women for the most part either. Puberty was pretty much over when I sat down to think things over, just the way my head is, and it was, okay self, are men physically attractive? No. Women? Some. Guess that settles that.

 

[Shadowfaze]

I realised i was straight when i was about 12, I felt very uncomfortable talking to girls about anything. I was a little confused but then once i got up the courage to really get to know one, i realised that spending time surrounded by female company was certainly not a waste of my precious time.

 

[Ohhi]

Well to be completley honest I would have to say I am a straight male with bisexual tendancies
but hey I'm not complaining it's fun why stop.

 

[GroovyV]

Started off straight as a 13 year old, looking at the plethora of dirty movies on HBO whenever the rest of my family was asleep, and then, i guess i found me some pr0n of the non-hetero variety.
I'm currently bisexual, though i guess on that sexuality scale (kensey? or something) i'm leaning more towards the gay. Mostly cuz most of my relationships have been with dudes. (only had a barely there handful with both genders all in all). Still, I could also just be a sexual deviant who likes... sex.

 

[funguy2121]

What would be the diff. between omni- and pan-sexual?

 

[MaxRaine]

I'm a bit late to the party but what the hell =P

I guess you'd call me bi-curious, though I'm not really that curious xD
I know that for any sort of relationship I'd need a woman, it's probably the same with actual sex. I do fantasize about gay sex though but so far gay porn is as far as I've gone, though sometimes it just works better than "regular" porn. I watch porn empathetically, it's my mind simulating what the persons in the video feels that gets me off really, I guess that's why gay stuff works better at times, I can relate to guys while women are eternal mysteries =P

Added to this is the fact that I draw a lot of gay stuff for other people which does make one curious in the long run.

Sexuality should not matter to other people but the sad truth is that it does. Personally I'm awfully open minded though, it takes really obscure things to faze me =)

As for when I realized my sexuality... hmm... I know I was definitely aware of the pleasure part of the concept of sex at age 9, probably before that as well, I even masturbated back then. I guess I just figured out that going pee-pee wasn't all you could use it for earlier than most =P Don't worry though, I figured all that out on my own, I wasn't "taught".

What would be the diff. between omni- and pan-sexual?

I guess Omni means you love everyone regardless =P

 

[Doctor Glocktor]

I realized I was straight when Pam Anderson gave me my first boner.

Good times.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

As I'm sure many of you have seen, there are a ton of threads about sexuality on here. Now, I'm not trying to start a flame war or anything, but I'm genuinely curious about sexuality and the average person, whether that person be hetero, homo, or bisexual, as well as transgender, pansexual, omnisexual, and the like.

My question is fairly simple, I think. When did you realize that you are the orientation you are? Were you always that way, or did you wake up one day and realize that you were one or another?

As a former psychology major and current sociology major, I find this question very interesting since sexuality seems to be a hot button issue. So I'd like to increase the discussion value of this thread by adding, "Does sexuality really matter?" to the mix.

Please, do try to be calm and reasonable. If someone says something that offends you or tries to troll you, just report them, and don't flood my thread with meaningless semi-thought out rants.

So, I suppose I'll start first. I'm a heterosexual male, have never had any interest in men sexually, and have always (at least as far back as I can remember) had an interest in women. As for the sexuality and it mattering? I don't see how it should affect me unless someone of non-heterosexual orientation hits on me, in which case, I politely decline. I don't see the huge fuss about it.

I'm an asexual. I realized I was an asexual the day I forced myself to be that way. I used to be heterosexual, and I'm a male.

 

[SwimmingRock]

I fully realized I was bisexual at 17 when I developed my first crush on a guy. Before then, I had fantasies, but wasn't sure I wanted it to be anything more than that.

As for "does sexuality really matter?", I'll go with no. Why? Because I can't get laid anyway and I only hang out with the kind of friendly, open-minded people who don't care one way or the other. It literally has zero effect on my life other than when it's fap-o-clock.