Relationship virgins.

[Firepowered]

I'm 18 and trying to get a girl. So I'm quite average I hear.

 

[mortalsatsuma]

You're not alone. Turned 18 a couple months ago and was about to lose hope of ever getting anywhere with a girl when I end up having my first kiss, which was surprisingly better than I expected. Of course this is as far as I've got so far, unless you count hand-holding and I've done that too (Woot go me.)Despite this I have never been in a relationship myself, though you know what they say; "good things come to those who wait." I hope that's true!.

 

[nonl33t m4st3r]

I just got in a relationship, and we're both relationship virgins. Somehow, she says I'm the one who seems to know what they're doing. This is going to be interesting....

 

[Evil the White]

I'm about a week away from being 18 and My first kiss was a few days ago. It went bad. We were both relationship virgins and had no idea how to kiss. Snuggling on the couch is nice.....

Wait till you try sex. If your erection doesn't fail you the first time, then you have some serious skills, or are drunk/stoned.

 

[Doctor What]

I just got out of a relationship that ended nastily. I wasn't a relationship virgin, but I certainly was a nasty ending virgin. I don't think I have ever seen a relationship end that badly.

 

[Flying Dagger]

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I'd add a stage of asking if she wants to go for coffee sometime before asking her to a film, more chance to find out if she's the dangerous crazy you don't want knowing where you live.

The other stage is to ask her to watch a film at a cinema instead of at your house, seeing as a lot of people here live with their parents. Also, the gesture of paying for it can really make an impact, and will make a girl feel less able to turn you down (most girls, especially if they haven't realised it's a date will say things like "no I can't let you pay" in which case tell them to stop being so ridiculous and just pay while they are telling you how they can't let you)

other then that, seems pretty good advice.

not that i'd in any way be able to follow it, I'm terrible at making the first move, I'm lucky enough to be good at befriending girls to be able to deal with it when they make it an issue.

 

[Random berk]

AlthorEnchantor...meeting someone to making out in a day? Does anyone actually do this unless they're just looking to get laid for a night?

Maybe I'm weird, but I prefer to get to know someone as a friend before starting any kind of physical activity with them, and definitely be in a relationship first.

I got that far with my first girlfriend in two days, and we're still together, in a rock solid relationship. Its not that odd. What he says makes quite a bit of sense, as guidelines in these issues go.

 

[Simmo8591]

I'm 20 and have been single for a few months now..... oh dear this whole thread sounds like an AA meeting.
nether the less I've never had problems talking to girls and (apparently) I'm quite good looking, I also am very into sports so am in pretty good shape and at 6ft am usually seen as a decent height etc.

so my advice from someone who clearly knows everything (sarcasm) is..... neither I nor anyone else on this thread giving out the advice has some kind of lucky genetic jackpot that means we just click with the opposite sex. most of the time girls are just as unsure and shy about these things as you are.

at least 90% of this is just confidence. in my experience the friend zone can usually be avoided if you act early enough, in a very casual way try chatting with a bit of casual flirting. also ask your friends, I'm personally very neurotic and over think a lot of what others say, if a girl makes a certain comment to me I will spend ages analyzing if that was her flirting or being disinterested etc. a good friend will usually say 'mate, just go for it shes clearly not ignoring you and shes a nice person, if you get shot down then who cares?'

at this point you man up, finish your drink and approach her. aside from a very few, girls arent going to be horrible to you if they arent interested. they will most likely say 'yes' or look a bit uncomfortable and mumble something along the lines of 'sorry, no' at this point she is usually as embarrassed as you and not being vindictive and superior. simply say 'hey no problem, hope we can still be friends tho' to which she will (almost surely)jump at the chance to end this awkward conversation and agree to remain friends.

Ive been on dates with a couple of girls that never really took off, most of the time we have remained friends afterward and while it may be a little awkward for a few days it really will go away if you just push through it and don't shy away from them.... tho do this casually in a group, i mean don't avoid her but you don't have to stalk her just to show that your ok.

what you shouldn't do is avoid them for so long that you can then no longer even talk to each other in case you end up being forced together through some deus ex machina event (this happened to me last term, my new partner for a course happened to be the best friend of someone I had a thing with and never spoke to afterward, bad times)



anyway rant over, just go for it, most of the time it will work and if it doesn't then who cares? get over your fear and maybe you will surprise yourself

 

[alexjones89]

nah, it's not that unusual. I'm 21 and the same.
You might want to think about why you haven't been in a relationship yet, though. How's your self-esteem? How shy are you around women? etc.

Why? Homeschooled and no sisters (only brothers) I've spent most of my time now that I'm going to college just figuring out I can speak and interact with females I have no idea how to approach someone with romantic interests.

Do I just go "Hey want to go out sometime?" or get to know them, but then you end up in this legendary "friend zone" I hear so much about.

just talk to them, smile and it sounds weird but agree with girls. It really does work. Most girls are pretty nice anyway so just be polite and friendly and you should be fine.

 

[MrSpunkSponge]

I've had female friends and everything, but I probably end up with a combination of my own fear and what I'm looking for shooting me in the foot, to the point that I am in the same boat, never kissed a woman even, though I could probably say I've been on what could be considered 2 or 3 dates.

I really don't want to just "start" a relationship with someone; I want to have some sort of connection with a girl before asking her out. Just straight up asking out someone you barely know seems really strange to me. Of course, then, what usually happens is that I end up waiting too long and some other factor steps in to prevent any relationship past friendship starting. Most often, I just get comfortable in the platonic friendship or I just wuss out on asking her out. If I do manage to gather the courage, it's then that I find out most of the time that she has some mysterious "boyfriend" I've never met or heard about until now, or else she makes up some other excuse. This has led me to add on another factor to my fear and make me more likely to wuss out on girls later; the feeling that I am undesirable. That the answer will always be "no", and that I am always the problem. This destroys my confidence, which makes her less likely to say "yes" if I do actually ask her out. 'Tis a vicious cycle, but I have vowed that if I am not going into the religious life, I would not live my life alone.

You are pretty much describing my exact situation.

 

[Nagisa94]

Well, i'm 16, and I've never been in a relationship or had my first kiss.
I've asked out one girl and one guy, got rejected both times.
But, I have a long life ahead of me.
But for some reason, i'm the one who gives advice to my friends when they're in a relationship or if they wanna ask someone out -_-

 

[YouBecame]

It's been abou 6 months since my last relationship. By this point don't I basically get my virginity back?

 

[Lord Kloo]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

Hey there, join the club.. we have bingo on Tuesday nights if you want to join..?

Anyway, yeah I know you probably feel weird having not done these things but don't worry yourself over it, its perfectly normal (the papers lie, not all teenagers lose their virginity at 16). Considering you were home schooled as well, I mean I went through all the usual channels of high school and currently college and I'm only just starting to find my feet in the female market..

So my advice to you is try and enter some social fields, ie clubs (even singles clubs) or maybe sports I don't know you so all I can say is you'll get there in the end..

 

[Piction Froject]

Three relationships, never lasted more than a month. First one lasted 1 day, 6 months later found out she dropped out of school and had a kid. Next one was a friend of mine that just didn't work out well, note to everyone dating someone from the friend zone does not work out very well most of the time. Then my last girlfriend lasted about a week or two, but she was a nymphomaniac but incredibly emotionally estranged.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

I am almost 18 and have never even considered having a relationship. I personally just see the time spent dating and pursuing a relationship to be a complete waste. I just see no point in having a girlfriend and having to worry about several thousand things to maintain a relationship. I worry about enough just maintaining myself. Will these view change over time? Maybe, but right now I have more fun being alone than with people.

 

[RabbidKuriboh]

18(original i know) never had any contact bar a couple hugs from friends. Unfortunatly in Ireland the whole awkward game/fantasy nerd thing isnt as popular as you'd might think, and people that i like and girls i would actaually like to try something with(or at least attempt to) are in the vast minority, seriously we're outnumbered like 100-1.

worst thing about it is when i see any of my older brothers or sisters the first thing they ask is "got yourself a girl yet" it gets really annoying really fast, with christmass coming up its going to be terrible. On more than one ocasion my brothers were convinced i had aspergers or some sort of defect

so yeah my confidence is sky-high and the situation shos no sign of resolving any time soon

 

[Thedutchjelle]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

19 here, never was in a relationship either and never kissed a girl or anything.

You're not alone if that's what you think

 

[Bat Vader]

I am 23 and I have never been in a relationship. I have never went on a date before either. The reason I have never been in a relationship is because I don't want to be in one. I don't like children and one reason I stay out of relationships is so I don't become a parent.

 

[Bigsmith]

Am 17, 18 in just over 6 months.

Currently in my first relation ship, been going strong for 6 months, almost at our seventh.

Still a virgin.

Personally, just get out and socialise with the opposite sex. Ask friends if they can introduce you to some of their lady friends. When it come to asking them out on the other hand, I can't really help, as I was asked the one who was asked out.

 

[Kuilui]

I'm wondering how many of you out there have never been in a relationship and are adults (18+) Is this considered weird?

I'm 21 and never even held a girl's hand in a romantic way much less kissed or dated one. I've only asked one girl out and she said she couldn't date. I really liked another girl but she has no interest.
Besides that I've had no social fields to find anyone. (I came from being homeschooled)

How many are like me out there?

Hey hey welcome to the club, im the same as you. 21, etc. Although I went to public school and was asked out half a dozen times I wasn't into any of the girls or blew an opportunity...because I'm a moron After that I don't really go out in public very often. Nothing to do and I'm not really looking for a relationship anyway. No job + No car + no money = no gf