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Riobux

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I don't utter a word, I wait for them to show interest in me. Less embarrassing that way.
 

Gmans uncle

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Jarimir said:
Gman said:
Better question:
How do you ask another guy out when you're not 100% certain he's gay?
Going through that problem right now as a matter of fact...
How homophobic is he? If not, then you could just ask him and he'd be flattered. There is still the risk/fear of rejection, but as has been pointed out and should be obvious. There is no reward for not facing that risk.
He's defiantly not homophobic, he's in the same gay rights group I'm in, I've just never asked him directly about his sexual orientation. I think I'll take that advise though, thanks.
 

Composer

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get to know them first
getting into a blind relationship is hella hard
save yourself some awkward moments


(especially if you dont know they're allergic to peanuts, save yourself from that terribly awkward monent...=C)
 

KingGolem

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Jarimir said:
I think I would be more comfortable if you could just admit to being selfish and egotistical rather than unfairly (and conveniently) blaming logic for your lack of growth as a person.

For me this is becoming more of an occasion to defend the virtues of logic than to help you enjoy what life has to offer. I still dont know how much more involved I want to get into it, however.
Fine. I'll admit that I am indeed a selfish and egotistical man. It still doesn't change a thing. I stand by the logic of my initial assessment, and all you can do is disagree.
 

NeonOranges

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Face to face is the best way to go with things for me, but that's because I'm about as subtle as a moose on the railroad tracks. Normally I just start chatting with someone and ask if they're free for lunch, if lunch goes well, I ask if they'd like to meet up again.
 

Guardian of Nekops

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Written words work pretty well if you can't get your mouth working and know your way around a pen, but for heaven's sake put them on paper. Write carefully and neatly, fold it properly, put it in an envelope, and hand it to her in person. That way you can be sure to get everything you want to say down, without worrying about going all bashful on her halfway through.

Not that she won't know what's going on when you hand over the envelope, but if you're stuck looking at your shoes after that it's sort of okay, because it's all written down.
 

Total LOLige

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The escapists are such jokers never taking anything seriously, chloroform and vans. Just hit him/her with a spade.
 

Moonlight Butterfly

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Any guy I'm vaguely attracted to the universe turns off any and all attraction for me that they might have. While the horrible jerks seem to think im some sort of goddess.

So I don't bother anymore. It's not worth the heartache.
 

z121231211

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KingGolem said:
I am able to relieve my sexual tensions alone, much faster, more reliably, and without the risks and sacrifices of a relationship.
You say you try to deny your animalistic side, yet still masturbate?

Your logic just seems to be "to follow the Id wherever it may go except when it involves having to share or otherwise adapt to something."

I seriously want to know what your end goal in life could be and how having a meaningful relationship could compromise that.
 

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Girl I Like: Hey whats up.
Me: I kinda have a personal question.
GIL: Sure ask away.
ME: Well you see I really like you, your beautiful, smart, funny, I had never met someone until I liked being with all the time until I met you but I have a problem.
GIL (starts to blush): Whats that?
Me: I have absolutly no idea how to ask you out, do you have any suggestions.

Works everytime.
 

KingGolem

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Jarimir said:
Now is it logical to be selfish and egotistical? Especially egotism... Logic dictates that the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few (thank you Mr. Spock!), so there goes selfishness...

I contend that it is the illogical part of your brain that needs to feel important. It is also the illogical part of your brain that is justifying the way you are by slapping the label "logic" on it. It is only a label now because logic denies the need to feel anything. It is not logical to need/want to be important even to one's self. It is not logical to fear compromising one's self or one's capital to another. I assume you'd rather not have to go to work yet you do and for what? Money. Money that in most societies has no intrinsic value. The value of a dollar only exists because we insist that it does.

As for having to split capital with a potential partner? Ever heard of a prenuptual agreement?
Ugh, this is becoming tiresome. The logic of the GROUP dictates that the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, but the logic of the individual would beg to differ. I am not concerned with what is best for "the many" if it means that I am disadvantaged. My logic is that what is best for me is best for me, and if "the many" requires me to make a sacrifice for their benefit, then that is not best for me. Egotism and selfishness are, in my opinion, the only logical positions. After all, nobody (or very few, I guess) goes to work because they want to help their fellow man: they do it for the money that they need to help themselves. What is so mystifying about that?

As for the prenuptual agreement: Not only do I doubt that a woman would agree to my idea of a prenuptual agreement, but that also does nothing to mitigate the other risks and sacrifices of marriage. Thus concludes my final word on the matter.

z121231211 said:
You say you try to deny your animalistic side, yet still masturbate?

Your logic just seems to be "to follow the Id wherever it may go except when it involves having to share or otherwise adapt to something."

I seriously want to know what your end goal in life could be and how having a meaningful relationship could compromise that.
Ah, but you see, I only try to deny my animalistic side when it stands to do me harm. Masturbation, however, is not only harmless but beneficial, as it provides a means to placate the animalistic part of my brain.

As for my ultimate goal, I intend to become as wealthy and successful as possible, and have nobody else to take from me my wealth and success or tell me how to enjoy it. Women are very good at both, I've noticed.
 

quantumsoul

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I talk to her a bit. See if we connect and then ask her out. If she says yes, then great! If she says no or makes and excuse, then I movie on. That's all there is too it. A girl will no if she wants to date you that quick.
 

Dunkerloop

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Simple, Face-To-Face, as there is likely a larger chance of getting rejected through other services.
 

KingGolem

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Father Time said:
Not all women want a family. And hey if you're that worried, get some form of permanent birth control. Problem solved.
I already have a form of permanent birth control. It's called a vow of chastity. If you've been following along, you know that I place no value on sexual intercourse and see unecessary risk and sacrifice in a relationship. Problem solved, indeed.
 

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KingGolem said:
Slayer_2 said:
This guys is amazing. Honestly, the fact that he comes across dead serious takes the cake.
Pardon me, but did you mean that out of awe or incredulity?
Not quite awe, per say, just interest. A fascination of sorts. Quick question: do you enjoy humor, or find it to be a waste of time?
 

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See, this is kind of rough for me because I need to get to know a girl pretty well first so usually I'll just ask her to hang out, and this can be done through texts or whatever really (I actually have a 'hang out' set up for Monday that we set up through facebook), usually this means I'm interested but I'm not at the point of wanting a date. Now I might move the relationship up during one of these hang out but more likely is that I'll keep it platonic ask them on the date towards the end that way we have rapport built up so it's easier for both of us to tell the other is interested.

And frankly I'd advise any guy interested in a girl to do the same, but remember to keep it platonic so you can get an accurate judgment of how much you like them and visa-versa. One other small thing: never be afraid of rejection, it's better to try and shutdown than to keep it bottled up. I've seen one too many wonderful women walk out of my life for my lack of saying anything.