Ace of Spades said:
The inconsistency of feminism and chivalry. I'm really tempted to just sit down, fold my arms, and demand that the female species collectively decide whether it's acceptable for me to hold the door open for a woman. That and the romanticized view of alcohol that most of my peers seem to hold. I'm quite tired of being told that I'm uptight or boring because I don't see the appeal in being drunk.
Read my posts in the thread. Women want to be treated with respect. If you try to actively do that, you're fine. But specifically:
This is not something that is inherent in women. It is inherent in HUMANS. ALL people do this. All people are hypocrites.
Also, wanting FAIR and EQUITABLE treatment =/= special treatment. The fact of the matter is, women have traditionally gotten less than equitable treatment.
The next time you think a woman is demanding fair treatment, try to place yourself in her shoes, and use something called the pile-on-principle. Throughout the course of any day, as woman, I usually encounter several individuals (male) who in one way or another think I am incompetent. They don't trust me with certain work loads or tasks. Now imagine this happens for hours on end. And it's hard to say anything in the position you are in - things keep *piling* on (this is a key word).
Now imagine that woman is walking towards a door, and you, as a man, open it for her. That's not a bad thing to do - it's quite nice. But all day long, she's been feeling like men have been assuming she's incapable of doing anything for herself. She's been *piled on*. Just the simple act of opening a door for her can be upsetting, because it's just one more thing that it seems men are assuming she can't do.
Do you see how she could be upset? That's not saying she's entirely in the right. But try to think next time, before you disparage a woman for requesting 'special treatment' or exerting independence, that perhaps she's had experiences that have made her feel inconsequential do to members of your gender.
I hope that makes sense.
But, again, I ultimately will go back to my last point: maybe some women will ask for special treatment regardless of their experiences. The point is, MEN do to. All humans do; we innately think we are deserving of certain treatment in some contexts at some points in our lives. Unfortunately, in this topic at least, only women are being called out for it.