Sorry, gotta side with sheppy here.darji said:Yeah English is not my native language and I am sorry if you dont get my point.itsthesheppy said:I'm sorry, I'm not entirely sure what you're trying to communicate to me. If English is not your first language, I apologize. But from what it sounds, you are bringing up an objection I've addressed before, and I suggest reading through the thread. This has been covered.darji said:So and I am gonna kill you is not as specific as I am gonna rape you? There are more people who saw someone getting killed than someone beeing raped. So why is rape so special? A criminal and violent act is still the same and the victim will again be as much traumatized as someone who was beeing raped.itsthesheppy said:Absolutely nobody that I am aware of is suggesting that. In fact in the reply I posted above your post here, I make a point to say that everyone's trigger words are to be respected; however, some words, like 'kill' are so general and multi-purpose in our language that it is less likely to cause severe offense than the much-more-specific word of 'rape'.snowplow said:This and similar recent topics on rape on this forum are proof: you're victims because of rape, while physical violence is just a normal part of life. Your wife and kids were murdered? Tough break champ, as long as its not sexual assault YOU'RE FINE.
I mean if I use the word "We beat them", the word 'beat' is very general. It's less likely to trigger someone, though if it did, I would certainly owe them an apology and be mindful around them in the future. The word 'rape' however is not multi-purpose. It means sexual assault. It's a much more specific word that calls to a specific trauma, and moreover, it's unnecessary to everyday gamer parlance. It can be omitted without losing anything of value, and doing so make the community that little bit safer and more inclusive.
nobody is saying the word should be illegal to use. All that's being said is that using it causes hurt; you're welcome to ignore that hurt, as I am welcome to consider you to be an insensitive person, and I reserve the right to make it clear that insensitive people are not welcome.
I am just saying that you can hurt alot more people by saying "I am gonna beat you" than by saying "I am gonna rape you" Tons of people where abused as a kid so that they are now traumtized. why is it ok to say that while the change to hurt someone with "I am gonna Rape you" is much much lower than the "I am gonna kill you" or the I am gonna beat you" talk?
Rape should not be handled as something special. You should openly talk about it, you should be able to show it in any form of media and you should also stirr controversy about this topic so people are getting more aware of this. Trying to keep it a special and very delicate will not help anyone. Not even the victim itself.
"Beat" is not specific enough to count as a trigger. Heck, even in sports it's ok to say a team "beat" the other. Mass-media usese "beat" quite frequently. A team can beat the odds, a politician can beat his rival (in the election). However, I have yet to heat a case of someone saying "Team A raped Team B" or "McPolit raped his rival".
There's a notable difference right here.
And if you want to trigger someone who has suffered abuse, then you would have to get quite specific, as "beat" has several meanings.
And "I beat you, just like your unloving parents did" is not only quite wordy for an insult, but also very, very insensitive.
Same goes for "Killing".
There are several different ways "kill" can be used as a word:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/kill
And it is frequently used even when not referring to the act of taking somone's life.
An example:
I killed a shitton of beers - No problem.
I am going to kill you / I killed you - NOT ok in any circumstance, yet unlikely to triggger anything.
I am going to kill you just like I killed your parents, ripping them away from you.
NOT OKAY and possible trigger.
"Rape" on the other hand has different meanings, but it is rarely used for anything but describing the act of sexually assaulting another human being.
The widespread use and the different meanings of words like "kill" and "beat" make the difference.