Here is the thing Shamus, a key point that pretty much torpedos everything those who want to "examine" this issue instantly and irrevocably, and is also why people have reacted to Anita on this level:
Men and Women aren't that differant and they want pretty much the same things. Yes, those strong female characters might titillate men, but then again girls want to be attractive to men (or each other if that's actually their thing) the same way that men want to be attractive to girls.
In fantasy both genders reach towards a physical ideal, portray their characters in what amount to fairly outlandish outifts at times, and have them doing over the top things.
We sit here and point to games like Lollipop Chainsaw, Bayonetta, Lara Croft, and others and say "well yeah, they are strong characters, but they also appeal to men so they don't count, especially given some of the attached innuendos", but your not considering that those characters are EXACTLY the kinds of characters most women will create for themselves, or for products aimed at women. Seriously, look at artwork produced by female fantasy artists, or actually read fantasy novels directed at women, and you will notice there are absolutly zero differances except maybe tonally in how the story is told. In the end you have some gorgeous babe (whether she sees herself that way or not) dressed in a way only a few people could pull off, kicking massive amounts of butt. Anita Blake, Rachel Morgan, Dante Valentine, and other popular female protaganists created by female writers for a primarily female audience (even if it has crossed over) make the point 100% better than I ever could, and pretty much demonstrate that there is no issue here at all.
Heck, if the above point doesn't do it for you, take the time to read some abyssmal fan fiction written by teenage girls, and then tell me what your literal "Mary Sue" resembles. A big hint, it's going to probably nail at least a dozen or more of those "tropes" being complained about. Not because of women being conditions, but because it's how things are. It's also exactly the same thing you see with the he-men of fantasy.
Like it or not the bottom line is simple. Those who complain about tropes, or support people like Anita, are generally nerds who have no luck with girls at all, or happen to be in a relationship with a domineering woman (whether they admit it or not). The idea is that by taking an ignorant "anti-exploitation" angle they effectively make themselves more sympathetic, and thus more attractive to female attention... or pretty much please the woman they are with by making an over the top demonstration of how their attention doesn't wander.
Now there are exceptions to the above (no need to rant if you, or anyone else reading this happens to be one of them) which amount to someone simply being wrong without the underlying motive. That's still the general gist of things though, and why it's a non-issue.
Anita got attacked, and I think it came from BOTH genders (women are even more vicious than guys when it comes to things like rape threats, a point most people tend to overlook, I wouldn't be surprised if someof the most intense threats came from girls acting anonymously or in male guise), because what she's doing is basically a threat to fantasy in general, especially if she was to acheive the platform she was after (which sadly she did). The concern being her, and the deprived nerds she's catering to for attention and a pedestel creating a voice that might actually convince publishers that there is some validity to
what she's saying. The last thing we need is the perception that users want more political correctness in gaming, when it's already wrecking things, games aren't quite the avenue of free expession that they should be, and tend to walk a fine line of staying out of taboo territory unless it's only "taboo" in the sense that it's a recent avenue of attack for the political correctness brigade.