Don't worry about it, I have a thing for She-Hulk (Red She hulk mostly). Nothing like a strong warrior woman to make a man go DAAAAAYUM!IrisEver said:I've been using these forums for a while, but have changed my SN to break away from the people who don't share the same values. Start afresh, if you will.
I'm going to be straight with you guys. I'm not a calm, well-behaved lady. I can be quite fiery, quite aggressive, and you know what? I'm happy with that and who I am.
What I've found is, though, that people are not happy when women show even one ounce of strength or conviction in who they are. Even less so when they're aggressive rather than a pacifist. It's like men, in particular (if we're talking romantically) are looking for a relationship in which they are mothered. I'm not that sort of person, and don't want to be with someone who needs mothering. I've tried it once, it ended in disaster and I deviated so far from who I was, I just wasnt happy and neither was he. The relationship became monotone because I was so stifled by having to portray the 'expected' version of me.
So I come to you. What do YOU think about women with a more violent and hot-headed nature than the norm? Do you prefer women to be subtle? Mother you? Why do you prefer this? I'm supposing a lot of you play video games with particually 'strong' minded (and bodied) women, so when it comes to real life.. why do you want me down on my knees? (Hey, careful, I dont mean in that sense).
I'm not saying that I would go shank someone in the street or be completely irrational. I have a head on my shoulders. But I like violence (as play in a relationship, or as a happy relationship dynamic). I get a rise from it. And I'm fine with who I am.
Is it really so scary to men? I'm not looking for advice here, even though I do despair at the lack of relationship prospects for me. I can handle myself. I want insight into why so many men seem to need and expect passive women.
It's kind of a thing.
However on your note on play fighting, define.
If you're talking about like kids do, then I think you'd be a little odd honestly. It's not bad or anything like that but it's pretty off the wall for a twenty something.
If you mean just taking a dig in the arm and giving one back, minor stuff like that then yeah sure.
You remind me a lot of someone I know anyway whom I haven't spoken too in a while, must find a way of saying hi to her.