SmashLovesTitanQuest said:
Just out of interest, what would you consider to be slut shaming?
Because I got a lot of shit for being turned off by women who were... Well, lets call them promiscuous. I dunno guys, I just cant go into a relationship knowing the woman next to me has slept with more than 20 men, some of them at the same time. It just aint fucking sexy man. I dont want to pressure every woman into being a fucking nun until she meets me at which point she should drop her pants faster than a guy who had taco bell for lunch, but I think a little self control (and respect) isnt always amiss. Just to be clear, I dont refuse to sleep with anyone who is not a virgin like some men out there, but you know.
Ah, the infamous "but then is what I like okay?" question. On one hand, attraction is a funny thing. For example, I am attracted to guys who are funny, smart and understand the meaning of the word kyriarchy. Does that mean I have to date everyone who comes my way, even if they believe that women are meant to be pregnant, bare-foot and so submissive that it's difficult to differentiate her from the doormat? No. At least in my version of democracy, I have the right of free association, which means I can pick and chose who I am friends with, even if they are arse-holes.*
On the other hand, "the personal is political". Basically, if is very, very difficult, if nigh impossible, for humans to remove our beliefs, thoughts and feelings about the world from the world. Which means that even if you are the most rational person alive, one can still be influenced by the world around them. For example, you wrote "but I think a little self control (and respect) isnt always amiss" in referrence to those who have a large number of sexual partners. But feminists have argued that this is a false association; not every woman who attends an orgy is doing it because they feel even a little bit bad about themselves. However, not your fault. This is a common trait in society and makes you a normal, average person who did a normal average thing.
tl;dr: Kid, you're fine.
*Which is not to say that I cannot be shunned by everyone else. I have the right to freely associate, but not the right to be accepted by everyone else without reserve.