What would you have done in my situation?

[Pirakahunter788]

From my point of view, you seem more of an asshat than he does.
It's one thing to not help someone who's done you harm. It's another to laugh about it as though he deserved it.
If you choose to go down the road of revenge, be prepared to dig two graves.

Revenge and spite are two very different things, just saying, that saying is pretty out of place.

Hmm, good point.

 

[Senaro]

Paraphrasing something Bill Cosby once said, "This is not the same person I grew up with. This is an old person trying to get into heaven."

 

[wekill]

simple answer who cares just ignore him
most people with cancer get enough "support" so theres really no point in trying to help him out also he should stop being so arrogant now that there is a high probability he is scared of death

 

[thecoreyhlltt]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

Obvious troll is obvious.

4/10

if you say so, but i guess the same could be said for your comment as well

 

[Red Right Hand]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

Don't change your opinion of him, no. But do you honestly think that your response makes you a better person?

 

[archvile93]

I probably would've just given a flat no, maybe adding "he's an as*****" at the end. That's the power of lacking consideration for others.

 

[Socks and Shoes]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

Obvious troll is obvious.

4/10

if you say so, but i guess the same could be said for your comment as well

No actually, it cannot.

BTW, your grammar is awful. You should fix that up.

 

[UnmotivatedSlacker]

dying doesn't suddenly make someone a nice person, but still, I would at least donate SOMETHING.
an asshole's an asshole, but a human being's still a human being.
I wouldn't jump on the "HE'S SO BRAVE" wagon, but I'd at least feel a little bad for him...
No, cancer doesn't make him a hero, but... well... IT'S CANCER. if the guy's in school, that means he's at most in his mid-upper twenties. that's not even half of the average life expectancy (I'm goin by US numbers here, so around 75-80 something years old I think). Imagine that, your life isn't even half over, and boom, you're told you're going to die. Unless this guy was literally Adolf Hitler, I'd show a little bit of compassion. do you have to praise him? no. do you have to like him if he pulls through? no. would he do the same for you? who knows. but I atleast know that I'd feel good helping someone in need, asshat or not.

This is closest to my reaction. It doesn't matter if he's a jerk, it's still cancer, and being an ass to a guy with cancer makes you just as much of a jerk. You don't have to like him, but you do need to respect him.

Why? Why does he have to respect someone who has been nothing but a dick to him? Because he got cancer? No, fuck that shit. OP has no obligation to help someone he doesn't like. If I got cancer, I would not expect anyone I had been a complete dick to to suddenly help me out.

Why? Honestly... it's just the right thing to do. If people could be a little more magnanimous, a little more forgiving, especially in these kinds of situations, this world might just be a bit of a nicer place to live.


And that, ladies and gentlemen, was the sappiest thing you will read all week.

The right thing to do is subjective as you can see from all of the people for or against the OP. And sure the world would be a nicer place if people were more forgiving. It would also be a nicer play to live if people weren't dicks to each other in the first place.

 

[Carlston]

I call that you made your bed sleep in it.

It sucks he has to face a end of life realization now. I mean after school most all people see what pricks they were, normally apologize down the line at a reunion how big a prick they were.

Sorry if he was a terrible person, I would wonder how he behaves now and see if he's changed. If not, just keep walking away. But sometimes it's good to give that last chance.

 

[dkyros]

Is it fun to dance on someones grave?

 

[Sassafrass]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

I never said he should change how he feels about him. I just suggested he should've worded his reply better so he didn't come off sounding like a douchebag. That's all.

 

[thecoreyhlltt]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

Obvious troll is obvious.

4/10

if you say so, but i guess the same could be said for your comment as well

No actually, it cannot.

BTW, your grammar is awful. You should fix that up.

i probably should, but i probably won't. not a big concern of mine

 

[thecoreyhlltt]

It was more the way you replied, I think.

If you had said something along the lines of "No because of *Insert reason here*, but I wish him well.", instead of going "Haha, not a chance.", you probably wouldn't have received the response you've gotten.

see i disagree, given the fact that he's a total douche cancer or not you shouldn't change how you regard him.

i would've said the same thing, probably throw a "fuck that guy" in there somewhere, but then again a lot of people have told me i can be an asshole sometimes.

YA DUN GOOD KID

I never said he should change how he feels about him. I just suggested he should've worded his reply better so he didn't come off sounding like a douchebag. That's all.

yea... idk, i guess it just all kinda depends on what kind of "haha" it was, you know?

 

[Kurokami]

If I were you, I would've donated.

One of the things that make Humans so different from Anamalia, is that we have the ability to overlook what one has done in the past, and do something for the greater good. This guy may have been arrogant before, but maybe this whole thing has changed him a bit. Not donating money that could save his life could make people think you were no better than he. Good people do good things to help others, even if their previous actions may not make it look like they deserve it. But one of the best things about being human is that we can always give people a second chance.

I get the whole benevolence thing as a concept, but in your mind that's what makes us human? The ability to forgive and forget? I've never really seen an animal hold a grudge, they just aim for self preservation. I mean, yeah you're right we have the ability to overlook transgressions, but I wouldn't go and say "there's one of our defining aspects" any more than I would say that doing basic mathematics is. It's simply a feature of our ability to think and consider, which animals cannot.

As for people being benevolent, everything a person does is in self interest, that's not something they should be ashamed of, it's our only setting because we can only see and experience our own points of view. Your argument about it being for the 'greater good' holds up, sort of, but donating in this case is more of PR deal, rather than anything else. Donating would represent his willingness to help to others rather than actually assist in anything imo.

 

[Dr Snakeman]

dying doesn't suddenly make someone a nice person, but still, I would at least donate SOMETHING.
an asshole's an asshole, but a human being's still a human being.
I wouldn't jump on the "HE'S SO BRAVE" wagon, but I'd at least feel a little bad for him...
No, cancer doesn't make him a hero, but... well... IT'S CANCER. if the guy's in school, that means he's at most in his mid-upper twenties. that's not even half of the average life expectancy (I'm goin by US numbers here, so around 75-80 something years old I think). Imagine that, your life isn't even half over, and boom, you're told you're going to die. Unless this guy was literally Adolf Hitler, I'd show a little bit of compassion. do you have to praise him? no. do you have to like him if he pulls through? no. would he do the same for you? who knows. but I atleast know that I'd feel good helping someone in need, asshat or not.

This is closest to my reaction. It doesn't matter if he's a jerk, it's still cancer, and being an ass to a guy with cancer makes you just as much of a jerk. You don't have to like him, but you do need to respect him.

Why? Why does he have to respect someone who has been nothing but a dick to him? Because he got cancer? No, fuck that shit. OP has no obligation to help someone he doesn't like. If I got cancer, I would not expect anyone I had been a complete dick to to suddenly help me out.

Why? Honestly... it's just the right thing to do. If people could be a little more magnanimous, a little more forgiving, especially in these kinds of situations, this world might just be a bit of a nicer place to live.


And that, ladies and gentlemen, was the sappiest thing you will read all week.

The right thing to do is subjective as you can see from all of the people for or against the OP. And sure the world would be a nicer place if people were more forgiving. It would also be a nicer play to live if people weren't dicks to each other in the first place.

Well, duh. Of course it would. But the OP only has control over his own attitude, not that of the dying asshole in question.

You should care about your fellow man, particularly if he's dying. You don't have to like the guy, or consider him your friend, but a little sympathy for a cancer victim is kind of par for the course if you want to be a halfway decent human being.

 

[Daveman]

Just because he's not the nicest guy doesn't mean you can't feel the slightest bit sorry that he's dying. I mean FUCK, you won't go to a charity event because you dislike this guy? I could understand apathy more but this is just malice. Personally I wouldn't care if the guy punched me square in the face, I still wouldn't want him to get cancer and die.

He's a teenager for Christ sakes, of course he's an asshole, almost every teenager is by any objective adult measurement.

Honestly, by saying you won't support his fight against cancer because he's a prick you have far eclipsed him an any way you can measure it.

Also this.

 

[binvjoh]

A plain "no" would have worked just as well and saved you any possible trouble.

No one deserves to die, whoever they are are, whatever they've done. I know some MASSIVE pricks, but I would never wish death upon them, and even if I wasn't going to this fundraiser, my prayers would still be with him and his family, no matter how much I hate him.

He didn't wish death upon him, he simply chose not to intervene in any way. By that logic I'm currently wishing death upon every starving kid in Africa right now.

 

[eternal-chaplain]

So, you're not going to a charity event for a guy with cancer... because you don't like him? Ever heard of being the better man?

If I had the ability to potentially kill off one of my enemies without lifting a finger...I dunno, the guy who wrote this doesn't seem like he'd be hurt with a guilt-trap.