Why bother making 'friends'?

[electric_warrior]

I barely know how to respond to this crap. Here's my view: if friends drift way its because you let them, if friendships end its probably just as much your fault as theirs, and if you don't want friends you won't have any. My advice? Get over this dark, misanthropic phase of yours and grow up because the slow, creeping gnawing pain of living without any friends will kill you far quicker than any pain you might feel from losing friends.

 

[Lerasai]

people are temporary, disposable, and possibly garbage.

I'm pretty sure that attitude right there is what is driving people away, not the inherent pointlessness of friendship. Most people can tell when someone else thinks they are "possibly garbage".

Besides that, you have plenty of time to find people you actually like to be around. Maybe it'll "end in pain", but there's a bigger chance that you'll just drift apart painlessly and then look back on your time together with a copious amount of nostalgia.

 

[Flailing Escapist]

I make friends because I talk to people (or don't not talk to people). And when you talk to people who you see often enough at school, work or the weekly orgy you inevitably become friends. It doesn't really matter where I am I like that little pleasent feeling of social interaction and good conversation.

And how old are you anyway?

 

[DarkRyter]

"Get money, fuck bitches." ~ Emily Dickinson.

It's all part of life, man. Sometimes you get hurt. Sometimes, you wonder if it's even worth it. But even if it isn't, you do it anyway cause what the fuck else you got to do? Friendship is magic, ************.

 

[smithy_2045]

Yeah, most people suck, but the select few who don't make it worthwhile.

 

[sketch_zeppelin]

well okay lets say in your case that friends are only temporary. aren't those few months to several years better when you have friends around? i've had mates move away and i've had a few that i just fell out with but that doesnt' mean i didn't enjoy the good times while i had them.

crap if i know that my friends aren't going to be around forever that just makes me want to get out there and make more.

 

[TheRussian]

Dexter called. He wants to be your friend.

 

[Athinira]

Of anything I've learned in my short stay on this planet its that entertainment is temporary, disposable, and possibly garbage. Knowing this makes it hard for me to want to play video games or watch movies knowing that given a few months to a couple of years the fun will be over, and i will be playing new games to entertain myself. I wish it wasn't this way, but I've learned though pattern recognition that entertaining yourself is pointless, to the point where entertainment becomes a time waste.

I'm wondering what others think about this

Fixed.

As for what i think about this, if the above sarcasm wasn't clear, I'm going to tell you a startling realization:
You are soon going to learn that all good things in this world exists in a temporary state at best.

- Friends are a temporary luxury.
- Sex or masturbation is temporary pleasure.
- Videogames, movies, stand-up comedy etc. is temporary entertainment.
- Food with great taste is temporary pleasure until swallowed.
- Fun is a temporary state until you get bored.
- Feeling energized is a temporary state until you get tired.
- Vacation is temporary relaxation until you go back to work
- Life is a temporary period that is going to end sooner or later at any rate.

That doesn't mean you can't enjoy these things while they last. So i suggest you do.

 

[gamerguyal]

That's like saying that it's pointless to have sex because that good feeling is going to be gone in a matter of minutes. A lot of good things in life are temporary, but that doesn't devalue them. You just have to carpe the hell out of the diem.

 

[violinist1129]

People have different definitions of what friends are. If you are someone who is generally disliked, then you may be mistaking someone who just doesn't mind you for a friend. Certainly during my "mopey middle/high-school years," I didn't actually have any friends as I was a bit (a lot) of a pretentious asshat, but as I realized that I was the problem, not other people, I became much more personable.

I'm still introverted, but when you have people you actually look forward to seeing/talking to, everything in life gets a little bit easier.

As for falling apart, many of my closest friends live as far as South Korea, but they're people who I can rely on to cheer me up.

As for the "ending in pain" bit, if people "betray" you or abandon you with that much regularity, I'd suggest alcoholism. Depression is a pretty reliable friend. You know...or be a nicer person. Either way really

 

[Twilight_guy]

1. Humans are social creatures. They seek community. It's in their nature.

2. Psychologically it's part of the hierarchy of needs. People need to know other people for their mental well-being.

3. If you really don't like people so much, why do you give a damn what we think?

4. SO MANY SOUR GRAPES! Just look at them, their everywhere!

 

[2xDouble]

People ask me, "why do you drink red wine? doesn't that make your head hurt?"
Yeah, at the end. But the beginning and middle parts are amazing!

That's like asking me, "hey Mitch! you want an apple?", "No. Eventually it'll be a core".

...I have nothing to add to that.

 

[SD-Fiend]

just in case you need someone to die for you

 

[Fusioncode9]

I've been best friends with the same people for years. Maybe it's your fault that you can't keep friends for more than a few months. To answer your question, I think it's because we hate the feeling of being alone. It's great to know there is someone who you can always talk to and depend on. And I didn't mean to offend you or anything with my post.

 

[hashtag]

Why bother doing anything? Well, why not?

/thread

 

[The_Echo]

Sir, everything is temporary.

Everything.

You could say there isn't even a point to living, since it's going to end. Yet here you still are, living.

 

[justnotcricket]

You might just be a 'lone wolf' sort of person. There's nothing wrong with that provided that when you do interact with people, you are polite to them.

However, if you are quite young, then you should probably be careful how much bitterness and cynicism you let yourself in for. Especially if you have no real reason (like, I dunno, your government killed all your children because you spoke out against the regime) to be cynical or bitter.

I've had relationships end very badly, but I refuse to let those sorts of things pull me down. For one thing, it'll ensure that you're never quite equipped to get to know that one person in the future who is right for you - either as a friend or more. And that's a chance I'd be very reluctant to throw away, if I were you. There's always a reason to go on.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Now now, you appear to be confusing "friend" with "acquaintance". The main difference is that the first one is more difficult to come by and usually it takes a lot of time to realize that a person is, in fact, your friend. I'd say wait for a moment of crisis and then it will all be made clear.

Just be nice to everyone and eventually you will get over your phase.