Why bother making 'friends'?

[zehydra]

I problem is that I don't care that much about friends (though I have close friends who I really am good friends with, but not much beyond that), but I also have a great desire for a significant other.

It's hard to find a girlfriend though, when you're not friends with a lot of people.

 

[The_Blue_Rider]

BECAUSE FRIENDSHIP IS MAGIC, (BIATCH FOR EMPHASIS).

Also grow up, im going to assume your around my age, 14-18 and are going through that phase where cynicism and misanthropy are cool and edgy. I went through it briefly and when you take off the shit coloured glasses and look at the world and the people around you, it all becomes amazing

 

[Dreamer of Theaters]

High school kids. A source of endless entertainment.

Thanks for making me laugh.

I feel exactly like you do. Does that make me a bad person?

No it doesn't. XD

 

[squeekenator]

Never lose faith in your friends. They can be an amazing source of strength, and can help you overcome even your greatest fears. Always expect the best from your friends, and never assume the worst. Rest assured that a good friend always has your best interests at heart. Friendship isn't always easy, but there's no doubt it's worth fighting for.

 

[SSoSFAGTiaCaGwaP]

Yes, you are the only one who feels this way. The rest of the human race are idiots. All of them.

*Sigh*

Without my friends, life wouldn't be half as good. I love my friends. I can't imagine losing them. I pity those without friends.

 

[Shycte]

How old are you? For reference.

Yeah, this. I have a feeling you're going through that phase. Everyone knows it. And if you are, you're lying to yourself, and you'll lie to yourself about lying to yourself and so on.

It's an endless cycle of lies, just like friendship!

Anyway, pull yourself togheter man. Nothing needs to end like you say it will, that's some real bull you made up yourself.

 

[Yopaz]

Yeah, why connect with someone just for a few months or years of happiness. Hell, why do we eat? It just goes a few hours and all the work making the food is useless and we get hungry again.
I don't make friends however. I have friends, but I don't know why. My oldest friend and I have been friends for about 18 years so it can actually last longer than a few years.

 

[Shycte]

This thread is so stupid that I'm not gonna respond to the question. I WILL however, read the hilarious responses from other people who can see through this misanthropic bullshit. Honestly, misanthropy is pathetic unless your Daria. (then it is hilarious) Go Daria!
Tell me, do you play Korn or Disturbed at full volume in your room? GO LISTEN TO SOMETHING ELSE! (perhaps Zeppelin, Yes, Sabbath, Metallica, Slayer, Beatles, Blur, Jethro Tull, Deep Purple etc.) I suggest Jethro Tull and Beatles, they are uplifting and happy. At least MOST of their stuff.

WE ALL LIVE IN A YELLOW SUBMARINE! (that got bombed by Jimi Hendrix when he was snorkelling underwater on a pony) See Yahtzee for that last part.

I RATHER SEE YOU DEAD LITTLE GIRL THAN TO BE WITH ANOTHER MAN.

And when you get to the corus you cut yourself. While naked. In the shower. On the floor.

 

[LiliumSnow]

*reads the OP, bursts out laughing* Aw man, that was good one! xD

But seriously, just because something is temporary doesn't mean you shouldn't have it, friends included. Some friendships don't last forever but it's not about how long it last, it's about the fun you and your friend(s) had during the time you had together. And not all friendships are temporary - my father still hangs out with his friends from high school (and he's 60-years-old-ish).

 

[Shycte]

I declare this thread lulz worthy. Good job mates!

 

[Dreamer of Theaters]

This thread is so stupid that I'm not gonna respond to the question. I WILL however, read the hilarious responses from other people who can see through this misanthropic bullshit. Honestly, misanthropy is pathetic unless your Daria. (then it is hilarious) Go Daria!
Tell me, do you play Korn or Disturbed at full volume in your room? GO LISTEN TO SOMETHING ELSE! (perhaps Zeppelin, Yes, Sabbath, Metallica, Slayer, Beatles, Blur, Jethro Tull, Deep Purple etc.) I suggest Jethro Tull and Beatles, they are uplifting and happy. At least MOST of their stuff.

WE ALL LIVE IN A YELLOW SUBMARINE! (that got bombed by Jimi Hendrix when he was snorkelling underwater on a pony) See Yahtzee for that last part.

I RATHER SEE YOU DEAD LITTLE GIRL THAN TO BE WITH ANOTHER MAN.

And when you get to the corus you cut yourself. While naked. In the shower. On the floor.

Mate, what the fuck are you on about?

 

[NoNameMcgee]

Of anything I've learned in my short stay on this planet its that people are temporary, disposable, and possibly garbage. Knowing this makes it hard for me to want to bond with people knowing that given a few months to a couple of years I will never see or hear from them again. I wish it wasn't this way, but I've learned though pattern recognition that making friends is pointless, to the point where 'friend' becomes a misnomer.

I'm wondering what others think about this (and I know I'm going to get a shit-storm of people who are going to be all 'you socially-misaligned misanthrope' on this.) I admit that I sometimes feel lonely and I do have a few people I hang around with, but I'm not friends with them: I just hang around them. There is no sense of comradely or connection, and I don't think I fit in with them anyways. There will be no hard feelings when it comes that I never see them again. I have formed emotional bonds with people before, and at best I had to feel the heartache of never seeing someone I was close to again, and a worst had this relationship betrayed, so why bother anymore if its just going to end in pain?

It's probably because you're not exactly a great person to be around. At least thats the impression *I'm* getting.

Also, I'm about 90% sure you're about 15 or 16 right? Yeah you'll grow up eventually.

 

[Legit101]

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[lacktheknack]

There is absolutely no part of your post I can take seriously. That's a true first.

 

[peruvianskys]

Sir, everything is temporary.

Everything.

You could say there isn't even a point to living, since it's going to end. Yet here you still are, living.

Thank you, Buddha.

He's right. All things will eventually disappear and your attachment to them is what will bring you sorrow. Enjoy your friends now without clinging to them or needing them; simply enjoy them for as long as you have them and then don't mourn when they're gone. You'd be surprised how free and joyful a relationship based on compassion instead of clinging can be.

 

[Jun_Jun]

I think this is somewhat relevant to this thread
Why do you have pets with such short lifespans? To enjoy what little time you have together. I think this applies to friends and family as well somewhat.

 

[LiliumSnow]

I think this is somewhat relevant to this thread
Why do you have pets with such short lifespans? To enjoy what little time you have together. I think this applies to friends and family as well somewhat.

This is full of win. And very true.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

When all's said and done, all people are just stupid useless fleshbags, including you, so why not find some other useless fleshbags that are the same kind of stupid as you and have some fun, after all ain't nothing to life but the constant flow of time till ya die, fit as much enjoyment as you can in while you still have most of your bodily functions under non medically supervised control, after all the longer you live the more of your bits don't work right, thus the harder it is to have fun.

 

[Quazimofo]

Because they make that short time of your life more enjoyable. I had a friend all through primary school. I don't see him much anymore but he made 7 years of my life the most fun I ever had.

yeah, i had a best friend through kindergarten, first grade, and second grade. the good times we shared were innumerable, yet after that year he changed schools, and i rarely if ever saw or heard from him (the fact he never answered his phone for the first 3 years after he transferred did not help). and now that i realize i can use facebook to keep in touch with people (i use it for planning events and other contact information usually), he really doesn't care about me anymore, nor i him, and i'm fine with that.

they say true friendship is a kind of love, and the only true downside to love is eventually, it ends. yet does this deter the vast majority of people? hell no. why bother do anything if all you care about is what happens when it ends?

so yeah, long story short, during the time you have friends, it makes life just that much more worth living.

 

[ckam]

How old are you? For reference.

Probably a high schooler going through one of those phases.

But just to humor myself; friends are made to make life experiences better and more bearable. Yeah sure, there are break-ups, but it's better to have the experience than to never have it at all. Also...

People ask me, "why do you drink red wine? doesn't that make your head hurt?"
Yeah, at the end. But the beginning and middle parts are amazing!

That's like asking me, "hey Mitch! you want an apple?", "No. Eventually it'll be a core".

...I have nothing to add to that.

Well, never-fucking-mind. Somebody already said it better than me.