Your current relationship, be honest, Did you "settle"?

[Flailing Escapist]

I am currently single because my hand does a better job than any woman ever has. lolol

 

[Outright Villainy]

When I was young I contemplated it, since I had gone so long without a girlfriend. Well, thank christ I didn't, since I ended up with the most amazing girl I could ask for. And yeah, I'm being sappy, but it's been nearly 5 years now, and our relationship is stronger than ever. She's pretty much the most important person in my life.

 

[Fern Williams]

I didn't settle. My boy friend is perfect. However he might have settled for me.......

 

[p3t3r]

um no i haven't really had a girlfriend there are some people who i suppose i could have gone out with but didn't. but they were way like over there. so ya never settled

 

[bojac6]

Every relationship involves some settling. That's the nature of life. As Dan Savage always says, there's no settling down without settling for. The fact is, you can get better than you deserve, you can get better than you over thought you could do, but there still will be something wrong. Maybe you're practically the same person and agree on everything, then it gets boring, or maybe you're too different and nothing keeps you together. The perfect personality never has the perfect body, etc.

But none of that matters. You love them and that's why you settle. That's why you stop looking for the ideal and take the one that's great.

 

[Gildan Bladeborn]

That would be impossible, because I'd have to be in or have been in a relationship at some point in the past, and I've never not been single. Nor do I have any real desire to change that - I actually like being single, the prospect of being alone forever sounds, to be perfectly frank, freaking awesome.

Most people would find that depressing I suppose, but I'm looking forward to dying a bachelor. Well, not the dying part so much, just the bits leading up to that point in the hopefully distant future.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Not at all, look at my DP for Christ's sake.

We 'ponyfied' one another I edited it into one picture, then she drew it.

She's beautiful, dorky, spazzy and watches MLP with me. She loves me, I love her. I'm getting her to watch Firefly with me, she finds my grandiose gestures cute, she's better at Halo than me, she makes me cake for no reason she also makes me a lunch box full of ham sandwiches despite her being a vegetation vegetarian (including 'GAY BACON' strips in a packet alongside). We sit in a field aside a lake and do naught but cuddle (until she wants some ice-cream). I'm happy.

Pretty much, we are awesome together 90% of said awesome comes from her.

/gushing

Spoiler: For Meggles

Love you muppet. Oh and thanks for noticing that I called you vegetation.

 

[Ham_authority95]

Hell no I didn't. If you settle, you won't be happy unless you like being someone you're not and being pushed around.

 

[Snowalker]

I don't mean did you clam down from being wild or being a "bad" person. No, I'm talking about how in Movies and stuff, they paint the picture your perfect companion is out there, and all you have to do is find them. Obviously, reality doesn't always pan out that way. So, did you settle for someone less than perfect, how did it work out? Are you happy anyway? and does your partner know?

I'm currently single, however, in my last relationship I did in-fact settle. I wasn't very happy, and I think the breaking point was when she kinda realized that I had settled for her and knew neither of us would be really happy.

Hell no I didn't. If you settle, you won't be happy unless you like being someone you're not and being pushed around. Period.

Maybe I misunderstand you, but you realize, I didn't accuse you of settling, merely asked... hell, you didn't have to answer.

 

[Ham_authority95]

I don't mean did you clam down from being wild or being a "bad" person. No, I'm talking about how in Movies and stuff, they paint the picture your perfect companion is out there, and all you have to do is find them. Obviously, reality doesn't always pan out that way. So, did you settle for someone less than perfect, how did it work out? Are you happy anyway? and does your partner know?

I'm currently single, however, in my last relationship I did in-fact settle. I wasn't very happy, and I think the breaking point was when she kinda realized that I had settled for her and knew neither of us would be really happy.

Hell no I didn't. If you settle, you won't be happy unless you like being someone you're not and being pushed around. Period.

Maybe I misunderstand you, but you realize, I didn't accuse you of settling, merely asked... hell, you didn't have to answer.

Oh, sorry that wasn't directed at you...I shouldn't have quoted you.\

EDIT: Fixed.

 

[SuperSuperSuperGuy]

I may have to. I will probably never find someone who fits my standards in my entire life. I'm currently single and unsure whether to pursue a romantic relationship. Sometimes, I feel lonely and/or socially obligated to get a girlfriend, but I'm also constantly worried that I may be unhappy if I settle for just anyone and that the person that I do settle for won't understand me and what I need as an individual.

 

[DinkumFair]

To be honest you get what you deserve for the most part... If you are settling, she probably is also. It turns out that is the reality for most people and you can be happy like that, but there are exceptions that seem to work out like the movies.

 

[CrashBang]

I always have two mindsets going into a relationship:
1. I honestly believe this girl and I are almost destined to be together
2. I'm unsure of how it'll play out but I look forward to finding out

Now, my last relationship was one of the latter and we had a great relationship, got along really well and had fun but, at the back of my mind, I always wondered whether I'd ever marry her etc and, in the end, I broke up with her after a year-ish
My relationship before that was with one of my best friends. We had been mates for years and eventually got together. Because of how close we were and the way we got together (and the fact that she was gorgeous), I really thought we were made for each other. However, as it turns out, she was a total prick and we eventually broke up after eighteen months of having a very bi-polar relationship

Now I have a huge crush on a girl (and she knows it) who has never had a boyfriend and has built up this perfect Disney view of relationships and I think she's scared of being with me in case she's settling and her prince charming is out there somewhere... but she's coming around, I know it (because I am awesome!)

EDIT: Not sure I actually answered the question... um, I guess my second category is the closest I've come to settling but I wouldn't class it as settling, just being less sure about the relationship

 

[FallenRainbows]

I may have to. I will probably never find someone who fits my standards in my entire life. I'm currently single and unsure whether to pursue a romantic relationship. Sometimes, I feel lonely and/or socially obligated to get a girlfriend, but I'm also constantly worried that I may be unhappy if I settle for just anyone and that the person that I do settle for won't understand me and what I need as an individual.

Never sell yourself short my friend. Don't be together from societies demands, be together for a desire to, don't settle, Ms Right will come along.

 

[emeraldrafael]

I didnt, I quite enjoy her (I know no one's perfect, and that perfection can quickly turn to not perfection), but I know she settled for me. She's beautiful (long legs, beautiful long hair, deep soulfully sweet eyes, a rather curvy figure), intelligent (she averaged a 3.94 in highschool and could have gone literally anywhere), great personality, she's perfect and she could have been with anyone, but she chose me.

<spoiler=... Oh god did she settle>http://i56.tinypic.com/6rhx4y.jpg

 

[Snowalker]

Never sell yourself short my friend. Don't be together from societies demands, be together for a desire to, don't settle, Ms Right will come along.

But don't we all beckon to societies demands at some point? Yeah, it makes for a feel good expression to say otherwise, but honestly, it happens, a lot and to most of us.

That kinda leads into a trend I see starting in this thread that's pissing me off. McCa you didn't do this, but I will state this.

Don't be pretentious when you say you didn't settle. There is absolutely nothing wrong with settling, and sometimes it must happen for good relationships to form.

 

[lolandrew4]

I'm not perfect, so why should I expect her to be?

 

[sgwee]

here's a query, who is settling for you?

 

[TheLaofKazi]

I've learned not to expect perfection out of a relationship, because your standards can very easily change. When you find someone, they're rarely what you were looking for.

I agree with this statement!

Although I've never actually been in a relationship, so there's a good chance that what I'm saying here is incredibly stupid.

I don't feel that relationships need to be this idealistic, "magical" thing. There are so many people with this attitude of waiting for the 'perfect' person to come along, and so they avoid actually getting in a relationship with many people to see how things work out because they aren't 'perfect'. The thing is, if you just avoid all relationships like that, you won't learn. You won't actually know what you want. So I'll settle for people, but not because they aren't ideal, but because I don't know what ideal is, and I don't think I will ever know. So I'll give people a chance.

 

[Trivun]

I'm single, so this doesn't really apply to me. However, I don't think I'd settle, to be honest. If I don't really love a person and am only with them because no-one better has come along, then that's not fair on either of us, and the relationship would simply be doomed from the start.

Interestingly enough, this is a major conflict in a story I'm writing, or going to write if I ever get around to it. On of the main plot elements is that a girl is in love with her male best friend/bandmate, and he's with someone else, so she ends up settling for her other best friend, a lesbian who's in love with her (the main character is bi, by the way ). Later it turns out that the guy is starting to fall out of love with his girlfriend and more in love with the main female character, and ends up ending his current relationship fairly early after his realisation purely so he can try to salvage their friendship anyway, since he knows if he leaves it too long it'll be harder to break his current relationship and it'll just make both him and his girlfriend unhappy . Don't worry, it all ends up okay, but it's a pretty bumpy road xD