Are you a "nice guy"?

[rokkolpo]

Kind of.

But my platonic girlfriend seemed to secretly like me as much as I liked her :3
Imagine that.

(NO MORE PLATONIC FOR ME)

EDIT: For reference I got over all my confidence issues and having people walk over me.
Fuck that nonsense, kick back. (not literally...hopefully)

 

[King of Wei]

I'm kindhearted but I'm not a "nice guy" by that definition. I go out of my way to help people, give good advice (from what I've been told) and am generally a courteous person, but I'm also damn blunt and speak my mind. Nice through actions, assertive (or arrogant, depending) through words.

That being said I still have a -100% success rate in the dating department.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

I'm not really a 'nice guy' and I'm not genuinely nice in a sense that isn't entirely motivated by my romantic desires either. I've been the stereotypical 'nice guy', shoulder to cry on and all that but that was back when I was roughly 15 with a girl I was obssessed with but didn't have the 'I want to be friends' ending I just never made a move and we kind of drifted apart. I'd say I'm more of a nuetral person, I'm reticent, I try to keep my head down, I don't go out of my way to help people but I'll offer assistance should they ask and I don't give people a hard time for my own satisfaction because I'm not that hollow and pathetic. I haven't been romantically involved with anyone for a while and I don't deserve to be either, there are people more appealing and people more worthy, I'm just an average loser.

Tl; DR: I'm more of a nuetral guy.

 

[CrazyGirl17]

Hard to say. I care about people... but I have, over time, developed an angry, anti-people persona along with it. So... eh. Sorta.

 

[Genericjim101]

Dear lord no, only girl I dated had the same mindset where you shouldn't be nice for the sake of it. This is not license to be an asshat but more about not being insincere. As for "nice guys" well really if one's ulterior motive is to be nice to get a girl to like them and possibly be with them that's not nice as much as subversive. Be a friend as you would anyway and if they like you so be it, don't act differently as if you plan to date a girl.

 

[Captain_Fantastic]

i kind of have that problem but the thing is i do have alot more female friends but im not interested in any of them and the one or two that i have been have moved fairly far away and after a horribly failed long dist relationship im not doing that anytime soon the only other i was interested in ive grown to be the "brother" to and i honestly enjoy the position so everything is peaches and cream

 

[nunqual]

I'm a nice guy, but that's helped me get girls, not inhibited me... I have a girlfriend of a year, and I don't think I would have gotten her if I was an asshole.

 

[KaosuHamoni]

Well, I don't know. I'm polite, courteous and respectful, and will go out of my way to help people, but I'm also rather assertive, stubborn, and, should someone not reciprocate my niceties, and act the arsehole, I'm a complete and utter arse right back.

I also tend to be the first one to do things, like "Hey, lets jump into that mountain stream that's just above freezing", or "Hey, let's jump through the roof of that two story construction site"

So, yes and no.

[sub][sub]Both those examples are true stories. And I wonder why I have so many scars... =P[/sub][/sub]

 

[pppppppppppppppppp]

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I agree with you on a lot of those things, but not entirely.

First of all, I'm way past the blaming "jerks" and other women phase. I know that it's me who's the problem, not "jerks who always get the girl". I have friends who are good at picking up women, but are really nice too; they're just not the doormat that I am, and I don't resent them for having lots of relationships.

It's not that I don't value friendships from women; there are a lot of girls I'm close to in a strictly platonic way. It's just that I'm so used to just being friends with women that I can't express myself romantically. It's not some plot to turn a friendship into sex as much as an inability to be anything other than friends with someone.

I don't see why being consistently nice makes someone any less of a person. It's not like I don't have a personality. When I'm with someone, I'll share jokes and stories and opinions and whatnot, I don't just smile and nod like a lifeless robot. You don't need to be a "Jerk With a Heart of Gold" or something to be a three dimensional person. [small](ah, tvtropes, you never fail me when I need terminology)[/small]

I don't like people who whine about not having a girlfriend either. In fact, I'm kind of hating myself for whining on this forum in the first place, sorry about that. [small](oh wait, self hating, that might be the problem here...)[/small]

 

[Da Orky Man]

I don't ever force niceness. I simply am. Yeah, I have my ruthlessness as well, meaning I can be rather Machiavellian when I need to be, but I always aim, and usually get, a good ending. Hence my avatar.
The only way that I could be called assertive is through my humour, which is quintessentially British the whole way through.
And I don't tend to blame 'The jerk' for anything relationship-related. I'm happy in a relationship, but I'm also happy without one.

 

[mysecondlife]

I'm much nicer online than I am in person. Escapist mods will cyber-slap me if I don't play nice.

In person I can be rude and sarcastic prick who would say and do anything to get a laugh.

But I do show courtesy here now and then.

 

[Zhukov]

Hm. Not really.

I mean, sure, I have the whole completely-hopeless-with-women thing going on, but it's not because I'm a "nice guy".

I've got a healthy dose of vicious arsehole in me, but I do my best to keep it down. I tend to come across as surly and aloof. I'm also extremely soft-hearted, which always comes as a surprise to people.

Someone once drunkenly described me as a great big teddy bear covered with armour plating and spikes. Heh. I quite liked that mental image.

 

[draconiansundae]

Don't get rid of the "niceguy" persona. You stick with it. Ladies love the dorky nice guy.

Indeed. Some of us really do.

 

[KingofallCosmos]

Yeah, I am a nice guy. I have learned throughout the years though that just being nice doesn't cut it. You can be frank and clear, say things that are on your mind and people around you will appreciate it. If you never do those things, people won't take you seriously once you're really annoyed. Also, allowing yourself to get mad sometimes really helps, and doesn't do as much damage as you might think. With some people it's even necessary.

 

[Frankster]

There was a time when I a nice guy, thank god I managed to man up and see the pusiness of my ways.

I was. Now I'm an asshole. It's not much fun. Trying to find a middle ground somewhere. (Yes, it is possible to realise that you've become a worse person. It's a horrible revelation)

Being honest with ourselves is a good step on the road to becoming a better person ^^

Don't get rid of the "niceguy" persona. You stick with it. Ladies love the dorky nice guy.

Indeed. Some of us really do.

Wouldn't you agree you're in a tiny minority though? I've certainly never seen it happening in rl.

 

[Gazisultima]

I'm nice to those who deserve it. I'm horrible to those who dont. It serves me well.

 

[BoredRolePlayer]

I'm nice in a way of not being a assjack, but I'm blunt as shit with my thoughts on people and my jokes are harsh as hell.

 

[Phasmal]

Nice guys tend to actually be `Only nice cause they are trying to get into your pants but whining about being friend-zoned as soon as they realise that isnt happening` guys (we'll call them dickheads for short).
I'm not saying all nice guys are dickheads, but some definitely are.
And being nice is good, but being nice as in pretending you want to be just friends then trying to worm your way to boyfriend is just creeptastic. Be nice, but be upfront, let them know you like them.

 

[rembrandtqeinstein]

I'm good, but I'm not nice. explanation here [link href="http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/GoodIsNotNice"]Good is not Nice[/link]

Doing the right thing and having strong convictions doesn't mean you have to kiss everyone's ass. Because lets face it, the people who are offended most stuff are generally the kind of people who deserve to go around feeling offended all the time.

Also important link for current nice guys, read it and weep, and I mean that literally.

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/spineless.shtml

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

I seem to be. All the indications of nice guyisness is in my life.