MarsAtlas said:
You know its funny you say that all you need is their word.. I'm not too familiar with David Bowie, to be honest, but I'm familiar enough with sexuality to realize that sexual orientation and sexual conduct do not correlate absolutely. I checked his Wikipedia page and, surprise, he said that he wasn't gay or bi and just screwed some guys because he was curious about it. He made this statement over three decades ago. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Bowie#Sexuality] So yeah, not gay or bi. Keep walking because you've found an example that actually hurts your case, not helps it.
I already acknowledged that David Bowie's own understanding of his sexuality developed and changed over time. Now I think you're right in at least so far as that it is dreadfully important that everyone else acknowledge his last statements regarding his sexuality as the truth. However the fact that David Bowie went on to describe his early behaviour as that of a 'closeted heterosexual' does little to excuse the rest of us of the important moral obligation that we should generally believe others when they make claims regarding their own personal sexual orientation.
I'm not even really claiming that the concept should be taken to the most ludicrous possible extreme. Just take people's word for it unless you have compelling evidence to believe the contrary. I do not think that it is a difficult distinction to grasp.
MarsAtlas said:
Think of it this way. I find black hair arousing. Having sex with a person who is blonde does not change that.
And I respect that. I will also respect a new claim should your circumstances change, without thinking any less of you.
Whether you've come to a new realisation that you can no longer live a lie by continuing to conceal and suppress your sexual cravings for pheomelanin-endowed redheads, or your crippling existential fear of the oblivion has curdled your wits and made you believe in an omnipresent imaginary friend that sternly disapproves of the amount of eumelanin present in the hair of your sexual partners.
Heck, I will even respect your choice to fancy bald people.
You monster.
MarsAtlas said:
If the quotations on the Wikipedia page are anything to go by he, and those around him, have a pretty shitty understanding of sexual orientation, defining sexual orientation by voluntary action rather than involuntary attraction. Its just plain factually wrong and generally describing sexual orientation in that manner is usually used to demonize non-heterosexuals for not being heterosexual. See "ex-gay" people as an example. They're all still very much gay. They're all still attracted to the same sex. However, they drank some nutcase kool-aid telling them they're only gay if they engage in homosexual activity. After all, if sexual orientation weren't a choice then homophobes would just be gigantic assholes to people who've done nothing to deserve it. Can't have that, so we have to declare it as "sinful", sin being a voluntary choice, to justify mistreatment of them.
This is no doubt going to infuriate you to no end, but I'm generally pretty chill with people choosing to make what I think are bad personal decisions for silly reasons. In the age of widespread internet adoption anyone who can read English enjoys the opportunity to properly educate and inform themselves on the topic of their own sexuality. Yet this tiny minority you've mentioned continues to either disregard or ignore all of that every single waking moment of their lives, in favour of seeking out alternatives such as pseudo-scientific therapy and sending positive thoughts to an invisible despot. I would say that you can't lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink, but I'm fairly certain that the horse is offshore and completely submerged at this point. They're clearly seeking an irrational answer to an irrational problem. So commanding them to be well on the back of rational thought, reasoned arguments and scientific evidence is not really ever going to help them resolve the conflict between their sexuality and their religion.
I would draw the line at when parents make their children attend conversion therapy. You can't keep adults from willfully choosing to harm themselves with bad ideas, but you can certainly protect their children from child abuse. On the whole I am generally quite skeptical of any ideologically motivated interference with childhood, simply because it takes a very long time for the results to completely manifest themselves.
MarsAtlas said:
If you knew more about sexual orientation and the presentation of it you might realize that a lot of gay people have relationships with members of the opposite sex and vice versa for heterosexual people. Hell, if you read this very thread you'd know that. Its usually done for the sake of putting on a face to avoid being mistreated for not being straight.
Edit: What I was referring to when I said that there were already examples of orientation not equating to activity in this thread. [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/7.933141-Controversial-Fire-Emblem-Fates-Scene-Dropped-From-Western-Releases?page=2#23483720] Additionally, there's all sorts of kink that is commonly mistaken for making the participants LGBTQ. Forced bi [http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=forced%20bi] is older then Bowie and there's a decent chance that thats what it was. It doesn't make one bisexual, however, anymore than genderplay [http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Genderplay] makes a person transgender.
That is pretty grim to be honest. I've always been told that the Japanese are a largely conformist people despite their hundreds of fascinatingly weird subcultures, but marrying someone just to keep up social appearances is a pathological display of internalised conformity. There is a sad but very interesting parallel between how this anonymous man was coerced by peer pressure and the presumed threat of social ostracisation to modify his own behaviour to not cause offense to his cultural surroundings and how Nintendo as a company has reacted by preemptively censoring the English version of their game to also avoid causing offense. Neither Nintendo or the man are ashamed of their actions. He campaigns for gay rights. Nintendo never altered the original Japanese version. Yet they're both willing to preemptively censor their own behaviour to avoid troubling others. Nintendo might not be going home at night to a sham marriage, yet the very fact that this level of oppression is even possible demonstrates the danger inherent in promoting a culture where conformity and self-censorship are championed as virtues over individual freedom of expression or choice.
Now I can accept that within its native cultural context that the scene from this game can be interpreted as being part of a wider cultural suppression of sexual diversity in Japan. But any potential North American or European audience would experience it within their own native cultural context. Within such a native context and when held up to the light of scrutiny it is transformed rather anticlimactically to be a somewhat clumsily presented bad idea.
I'm not afraid of bad ideas. I'm far more afraid of the people who claim to want to protect me from bad ideas.