This is something I've spent the past few hours doing but not just the sad ones XD http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8kp6XNflDg "Mr Steele, first name man of"Tizzmarelda said:
Do you believe in love?
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Nope. I believe in infatuation, affection and lust, but not "true" love. And no, I have never considered myself to be in it, but I don't really want to be in a position where I think I am.
The post you quotes was not a post where I said love is a piece of bullshit and isn't real. I was simply explaining the substances that is in our bodies, the basics of smelling and the modern hypothesis around it.artanis_neravar said:
However I will try to give you an educated guess of why these things happen.
Can you remember a kind of food you didn't like when you were a kid, but you like now? Our impressions aren't always permanent. As we live our lives things change, both physically and chemically. I will go deeper into this in my next point.
Did you read the part that certain substances such as birth control may inhibit our ability to smell these substances? There's certainly a possibility other substances we aren't aware of can change it too. There's also the possibility that diet can change not only our impression of these smells, but also change the smell itself.
Cats signal smell over long distances, a cat in heat can be picked up by another cat miles away. As soon as she is satisfied her smell will change and seem somewhat repugnant to the cat who will detach himself from her. However he got an interest in the kittens since those are his DNA and will in many cases return to the female to check on the kids. This is usually not appreciated by the female however.
In short however, can I explain it? No. All the things I said in the post you quoted was not my words, but words referring to several studies on the subject. Love is no doubt a chemical reaction, but does that mean it's not real? No. Pain is a combination of electric and chemical reactions too and nobody denies that pain is real. Love and pain are both two important sensations of our lives. Both are valuable to make sure we actually do live. That doesn't change the fact that they're chemical reactions. I'm not saying it's fake.
Also you reminded me that there's a difference between love and attraction. You need to know there's a difference between love and affection. There's also a difference between love and infatuation.
Not in the poetic love, the "true" love as some call it. But as long as people say there is love, then there kinda is. I don't know if love has a real definition, if its just very strong affection towards another, or something more specific. But what I dont understand is that why everyone is talking as if love is something only felt in relationships. To me that is the most "biased" love there is, because of things like sex, and social acceptanse may drive people into making up these kind of feelings. To me love between friends or a person and his pet ( I dont own a pet, so don't start call me biased) is much more pure, since its more unconditional.
But what do I know, I'm a loner who hasn't met a "girl of his dreams" mayby I'm all wrong, mayby I haven't really felt anything like people in happy relationships have. Mayby I'm bitter and think that because I'm trying to protect myself. But as a human being, where I stand now, I feel there is noway I could feel so strongly for any girl in the longrun that I feel for my family or friends.
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R Bros before ho's, to put it shortly
PS: For all you think of me, dont think of me as a person like some on this forum, people who deny other peoples feelings because of themselves getting hurt and therefore not believing in them. I have some confidence issues, but I do feel myself to be above that.
But what do I know, I'm a loner who hasn't met a "girl of his dreams" mayby I'm all wrong, mayby I haven't really felt anything like people in happy relationships have. Mayby I'm bitter and think that because I'm trying to protect myself. But as a human being, where I stand now, I feel there is noway I could feel so strongly for any girl in the longrun that I feel for my family or friends.
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R Bros before ho's, to put it shortlyPS: For all you think of me, dont think of me as a person like some on this forum, people who deny other peoples feelings because of themselves getting hurt and therefore not believing in them. I have some confidence issues, but I do feel myself to be above that.
I think you're going to be one of those people who cries after they lose their virginity.RAKtheUndead said:
I sometimes doubt it does. In fact, I often do. But without it, I think I'd most likely lose the will to do anything at all.
Of course love exists.
It doesn't matter that it's just a bio-chemical reaction in the brain.
It also doesn't matter that it's rarely permanent.
Love doesn't have to be fairydust.
Sometimes it feels like The Escapist is the single most teenage-angsty community out there, including Emo-forums.
It doesn't matter that it's just a bio-chemical reaction in the brain.
It also doesn't matter that it's rarely permanent.
Love doesn't have to be fairydust.
Sometimes it feels like The Escapist is the single most teenage-angsty community out there, including Emo-forums.
You're wrong.Jacco said:
My parents have been happily married for over 35 years, and either one would be utterly crushed if anything happened to the other. My grandparents were married quite happily until their passing, and I myself am married. I love my wife. It's not a mere chemical reaction, because I love her even when she annoys me. I love her when we argue, I love her when we don't. I love her because of all her virtues, and despite all her faults. And she feels the same for me.
But that's just romantic love! I also move my family! And my close friends as well! My best friend has been my friend since childhood. I love him like a brother. He's got a wonderful wife he loves, and whom I love like a sister. He's got two beautiful children, both of whom I love like my own. I would give my life for them, my family, and my wife in a heart-beat.
I can't rationalize it away with chemical reactions, and I can't even try t be cynical about it. It's the foundation for my relationships, my morality, my theology, and my philosophy. I couldn't imagine my life having worth without it, and my life cannot be worthless with it.
It's love.
It's real.
*Warning* Over dramatic post incoming
Whenever you post something like this you get flak, alot of it. People say they pity you, get pissed off because of what you say, but few also agree on what you say. But you know what i feel? Fear. (I said this was going to be dramatic) As an insecure teenager, what I see in your posts is what I may also become. It is obvious that you have been hurt, what way? I don't know and thats why I feel I have no right to judge you. But what I see is how you have chosen to cope with it. You deny feelings because they did not work for you, and you seem even more bitter for it. I'm afraid that something will happen that will make me do the same. Say all women are worthless because i cant get a girl or say that all relationships fail because mine did.
You are who you are, and cope with things as you choose to. You also have a right to express yourself like everyone else and I respect that. I say this so you know that I'm not attacking you. That was not my point. As I said earlyer, I don't know why I'm opening up like this and to be honest I have no idea what kind of response I'm going to get.
*End post*
You know RAK, as I'm writing this I really dont know why I'm doing this, but prehaps because of spending my evening thinking about the existence of love has left me over dramatic and sensitive.RAKtheUndead said:
Whenever you post something like this you get flak, alot of it. People say they pity you, get pissed off because of what you say, but few also agree on what you say. But you know what i feel? Fear. (I said this was going to be dramatic) As an insecure teenager, what I see in your posts is what I may also become. It is obvious that you have been hurt, what way? I don't know and thats why I feel I have no right to judge you. But what I see is how you have chosen to cope with it. You deny feelings because they did not work for you, and you seem even more bitter for it. I'm afraid that something will happen that will make me do the same. Say all women are worthless because i cant get a girl or say that all relationships fail because mine did.
You are who you are, and cope with things as you choose to. You also have a right to express yourself like everyone else and I respect that. I say this so you know that I'm not attacking you. That was not my point. As I said earlyer, I don't know why I'm opening up like this and to be honest I have no idea what kind of response I'm going to get.
*End post*
yes i do believe in a thing call love, just listen to the rythum of my heart. lol yea i know but it is dangerous thing like drugs honestly
Love is real, but it's just like any other emotion in that it doesn't always last forever; no one is really happy all the time, or constantly angry etc.
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Well I seem to have no knowledge of how to embed a video on this site so I'm just leaving the link and saying yes I do.
Well I seem to have no knowledge of how to embed a video on this site so I'm just leaving the link and saying yes I do.
In a word: Yes!
In more than one word: Yes! Of course! Duh? Is this even a question?
Love isn't just infatuation. It's concern, camaraderie, it's devotion, it is friendship. Lust is perhaps the smallest and least important part of love.
In more than one word: Yes! Of course! Duh? Is this even a question?
Love isn't just infatuation. It's concern, camaraderie, it's devotion, it is friendship. Lust is perhaps the smallest and least important part of love.
You are wrong child.. Love is real, you can't just believe that everything can be explained. Love is real, it is a feeling.
Why on earth wouldn't it be real if it's tempory? I've felt left love for many people only to say goodby within a short time never to see them again. What makes that less real.
The thing is in many cultures (America espesially from what I've seen) most people don't commit to realations out of love, but out of cultural presure. The idea that everyone could find someone to spend the rest of their live with is simpely absurd. For those people love is often not real, just like you said it. They commit to a relationship for a sense of security and sometimes just sex.
But that doesn't mean it is not real! It is there and people experience it. But to feel it you'll need to earn it and be open for it. And you'll probably need to love yourself as well for it. Again a thing many people don't do. But if you have all of that you'll notice that love is everywhere.
The thing is in many cultures (America espesially from what I've seen) most people don't commit to realations out of love, but out of cultural presure. The idea that everyone could find someone to spend the rest of their live with is simpely absurd. For those people love is often not real, just like you said it. They commit to a relationship for a sense of security and sometimes just sex.
But that doesn't mean it is not real! It is there and people experience it. But to feel it you'll need to earn it and be open for it. And you'll probably need to love yourself as well for it. Again a thing many people don't do. But if you have all of that you'll notice that love is everywhere.
