How important is sex to you?

[PsychedelicDiamond]

Not important at all. Actually, i find it kinda unpleasant. Don't get me wrong, i see how it's important for a relationship and i obviously wouldn't refuse to sleep with my girlfriend but i prefer the less... sticky aspects of a romantic relationship.

 

[TheSarge1]

People say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but I'm 21, dammit. I've been socially active for the better part of a year now, and everyone I know seems to get laid so damn easily. I'm fairly popular around here, I'm not exactly prince charming, but I'm nice enough, and most people say I'm funny. If there wasn't something wrong with me, it would have happened by now. Of course, I know what that wrong thing is. I'm utterly horrific to look at.

Doclector

I wasn't an actual member I don't think of these forums, but when I saw your post I registered. The reason is, I wanted to say first off, your honesty is refreshing. Seriously. Second off, I'm 23, and although they probably won't admit it, I know a number of mates who are almost certainly virgins. Their not necessarily bad looking or such, but just havn't had it. Thirdly, socially active for "better part of a year" is not a long time. Fourthly, your 21. Your almost a baby (age wise ). Don't worry man. Plenty of time, and good luck. Had to say this cos you seem like a nice fella, and actually (for once) honest. later

 

[TheSarge1]

Quite frankly, I'm desperate for it. Not so much for the act itself, but just for the sake of my self esteem. I struggle to think of more than one person I know who hasn't had sex, and that person's an a**hole, anyway.

People say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but I'm 21, dammit. I've been socially active for the better part of a year now, and everyone I know seems to get laid so damn easily. I'm fairly popular around here, I'm not exactly prince charming, but I'm nice enough, and most people say I'm funny. If there wasn't something wrong with me, it would have happened by now. Of course, I know what that wrong thing is. I'm utterly horrific to look at.

Doclector

I wasn't an actual member I don't think of these forums, but when I saw your post I registered. The reason is, I wanted to say first off, your honesty is refreshing. Seriously. Second off, I'm 23, and although they probably won't admit it, I know a number of mates who are almost certainly virgins. Their not necessarily bad looking or such, but just havn't had it. Thirdly, socially active for "better part of a year" is not a long time. Fourthly, your 21. Your almost a baby (age wise ). Don't worry man. Plenty of time, and good luck. Had to say this cos you seem like a nice fella, and actually (for once) honest. later

 

[sapphireofthesea]

I'm a nympho, so very very important. Though it is only good sex when the other person is into it. If other person is wooden, kinda takes the fun out of it.

 

[The Funslinger]

I enjoy sex. A lot. It is a big part of my life and I openly admit that. Some people call me a slut because of that. I dont care.

How do you view sex in your life?

Edit: Captcha: "do it now!"

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I agree with this perfectly. My philosophy is: Slut = someone with an incredibly low standard/doesn't keep to standards, and uses sex to validate themself.

Someone just having sex for fun, with a standard they keep to, and they remain in control is fine, and shouldn't be looked down on at all.

 

[Sporky111]

I don't know what everyone else in here is talking about, but sex is extremely important to me. Hell, it's probably the cause of my biggest grievance in life.

I get around a bit. I don't hook up with random people, but I have a couple of very "friendly" friends. I get pretty miserable when there's long spaces between sex, though it's not just about sex. I hate being lonely, and I really crave the feeling of being around someone. But I can't have that often because I'm in a long-distance, open relationship. It's hard to stay committed to someone in another country, even though I love him, when what I want most is a regular relationship where we can actually spend time together.

 

[Nickolai77]

Quite frankly, I'm desperate for it. Not so much for the act itself, but just for the sake of my self esteem. I struggle to think of more than one person I know who hasn't had sex, and that person's an a**hole, anyway.

People say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but I'm 21, dammit. I've been socially active for the better part of a year now, and everyone I know seems to get laid so damn easily. I'm fairly popular around here, I'm not exactly prince charming, but I'm nice enough, and most people say I'm funny. If there wasn't something wrong with me, it would have happened by now. Of course, I know what that wrong thing is. I'm utterly horrific to look at.

To compliment TheSarge1's post, i'm 21 years old and a virgin and not afraid to admit it. I'm not a fat, ugly, basement dwelling social retard. (and i'm sure your not either) I'm a socially active university student. I've got plenty of friends, and i get the impression i'm generally well liked but i've never get laid. If i'd been less fussy in the past then things would probably be different, but we live with the choices we make.

Now i don't know what you look like physically, but i've seen plenty of guys who arn't exactly Johnny Depp get with girls (in their league note) so in all likelihood i reckon you could get laid if your looking in the right places.

A word of advise though- don't leap into the arms of the first girl who expresses an interest in you just so you can lose your virginity. My friend did that when he first went to uni and ended up in a relationship with a girl who was really into him but he simply wasn't interested. To do that is simply unfair on the girl as you've used her as a means to your end. Also, don't lower your standards so low you end up with a needy man-hunter *****. That happened to me once.


captcha: modern love

 

[iAmNothing]

Sex is something I can love but also cast aside as if it's nothing. If I'm really in the mood for it then it's the best thing in the world and I'll try and get my girlfriend in the mood as well so things can get going.
But other times I find it can end up just getting a little bit tedious and feeling like too much effort for something that only gives a relatively short period of pleasure compared to, say, watching a really good film that I enjoy (which can go on for hours, unlike myself)

 

[Charli]

Doesn't interest me... even the few times I've attempted being sexual, my prevalent thoughts have been: "Wonder if I can go and buy some ice cream tomorrow..."

I am aware it is entirely possible I haven't found the right person yet, but at this rate I may never, so I may as well just accept that until an epiphany strikes me in the head, I'm pretty asexual. I don't find much attraction in people past friendship. :S

(I try to make that abundantly clear with my friends both male and female, friend-zoning is an asshole past-time and I don't like being a ***** who does that. You know me? You are permanently friended. Don't like? Gtfo.)

 

[RanD00M]

I don't put on a pedalstool like its some great big deal though

Spoiler: Pedalstool?

OT: Don't really care about it. I wouldn't get any even if I tried, good thing I don't really care.
I have my right hand and that works for me.

 

[yookiwooki]

It's funny, usually the possibility of having sex is the most exciting thing in the world to me, but when I actually am doing it, it's not that big of a deal...

It's like how going without food will make a cheeseburger seem like the best thing in the world, but then after a big mac or two, the thought of eating a cheeseburger makes you sick.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

It depends. Sex with my partner is great, but sex with someone I don't have feelings for can be a little awkward (I'm not having that at the moment, you'll be glad to know), but it's still a lot of fun. I enjoy it, but I'm not going to go too far out of my way to have it. Seems to be the opinion of most guys I know, except, interestingly, the virgins that I know, who are obsessed with it.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

About as important as tieing my shoes, but then I've never had it so I can't really say for sure.

reproduction is part of survival and survival is the only real "reason" any organism exists so it rightfully should be a large part of your life...

Some people think it should only exist if "love" exists there...

Like me for example.

 

[Nimcha]

Pretty damn important to me. It's one of the most fun things in the world. And it's even better doing it with someone I love.

 

[Random berk]

The act of sex is great, but its not what I miss most about being in a relationship. In general, physical contact, as well as having a person with whom you can completely relax and just be silly and immature with without feeling stupid, thats what I miss, and that combined with sex is pretty damned important to me.

Aw, the captcha thinks I've done a nice job. Thats made my day, it has.

 

[Carbonyl]

I thoroughly enjoy sex. It's awesome. I know that I personally wouldn't be remotely comfortable having sex, or even going past kissing, with someone I didn't care deeply about and trust, but there are a lot of people who don't need a long relationship, or even one at all, to enjoy and feel a connection having sex with someone they don't know. Different strokes (haha) for different folks.
I, myself, am one VERY lucky lady, Boyfriend is INCREDIBLE in bed, and I have a very sensitive sense of touch (although the downside is being obscenely ticklish in non-sexual situations). While it's physically wonderful, the most important part is the intimacy, and I really do enjoy it as an expression of love.

 

[Carbonyl]

Being without cuddles is much harder though.

The importance of cuddles cannot be overstated. Cuddles=BEST THING. Almost on par with ice cream.

 

[Chasing-The-Light]

Sex isn't that important to me. Yeah I enjoy doing it, and I like it and all. But it's the sort of thing, with me, that until I actually start doing it I'm always kind of unwilling. I don't have much of a sex drive, so I don't really have any drive for me to go out and try to get it for myself.

 

[Zen Toombs]

Being without cuddles is much harder though.

The importance of cuddles cannot be overstated. Cuddles=BEST THING. Almost on par with ice cream.

I disagree. Cuddles is MUCH better than ice cream.
It might just be because I'm quasi-lactose intollerant, but still.

 

[Slayer_2]

Call me screwed up, but I can't sleep with a woman I don't know and like. I've tried a few times, but it's always ended in an embarrassing... "failure to launch" when things start getting heavy. After a few times of that, I've given up trying the one-night thing, and since I have yet to find a girl that interests me, and is interested in me, looks like I'm flat outta luck in the sex department.