I want to have sex, but I see the repercussion's it can have, so I save it till I am deeply invested in a relationship.
How important is sex to you?
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When I was a teenager, I fucked everyone who shuffled into my field of vision. And being Bi-sexual that amounted to a whole helluva lot of people. Now I really don't care so much, which isn't to say that I don't still enjoy sex. I do quite a lot. And It is my opinion that sex helps build good relationships. I just don't have to have it every other day like I used too.
I enjoy sex, and I used to enjoy it quite often a few years ago. But then I made the personal choice to not be intimate with someone unless I actually liked them, and they liked me. Sex for sex's sake stopped being fun to me -- little things that you can ignore with someone you care about are glaringly obvious with someone you don't. And I don't necessarily mean some perfect lover person that you are in love with ... just someone you actually LIKE. Beyond physical attraction. It came to a point that right after the act was done, I would think "wow, I would have enjoyed myself more if I had been playing my Playstation/watching Lifetime/pleasuring myself". So I just stopped. I don't miss it all that much (I feel that the longer you go without it, the easier it is to deal), and when I do feel raunchy, I take of that on my own time.
So sex isn't all that important to me now, mainly because I'm not having it. I do still think the act is awesome, I'm just jaded off of my previous sexual encounters, so I'm looking for something a bit different.
So sex isn't all that important to me now, mainly because I'm not having it. I do still think the act is awesome, I'm just jaded off of my previous sexual encounters, so I'm looking for something a bit different.
I'm going to awnswer this question, with a very simple statement.
I'm 16.
S'all that needs to be said.
I'm 16.
S'all that needs to be said.
I enjoy sex, but it's not an all-consuming thing for me. Although being in a committed long-distance relationship can get frustrating on that score occasionally.
If I had the ability to reproduce asexually, through mitosis, I wouldn't. Then I'd have 1 person to interact with that didn't want to be there in the first place. I prefer limiting my social interactions to fragging noobs and leading 25 raiders against THE BIG BAD.
I find the question strange. I have sex. It's a great way to maintain the relationship I have with my boyfriend. I enjoy it. If I were removed completely of my sex drive, I would only really mourn it so far as it would be much harder for me to satisfy my boyfriend, though.
About the Aldous Huxley quote, entheogens > sex every time for me, and I think it highly likely he was referring to same having read 'Doors of Perception' and 'Heaven and Hell'.
Not important at all. Actually, i find it kinda unpleasant. Don't get me wrong, i see how it's important for a relationship and i obviously wouldn't refuse to sleep with my girlfriend but i prefer the less... sticky aspects of a romantic relationship.
People say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but I'm 21, dammit. I've been socially active for the better part of a year now, and everyone I know seems to get laid so damn easily. I'm fairly popular around here, I'm not exactly prince charming, but I'm nice enough, and most people say I'm funny. If there wasn't something wrong with me, it would have happened by now. Of course, I know what that wrong thing is. I'm utterly horrific to look at.
Doclector
I wasn't an actual member I don't think of these forums, but when I saw your post I registered. The reason is, I wanted to say first off, your honesty is refreshing. Seriously. Second off, I'm 23, and although they probably won't admit it, I know a number of mates who are almost certainly virgins. Their not necessarily bad looking or such, but just havn't had it. Thirdly, socially active for "better part of a year" is not a long time. Fourthly, your 21. Your almost a baby (age wise
). Don't worry man. Plenty of time, and good luck. Had to say this cos you seem like a nice fella, and actually (for once) honest. later
Doclector
I wasn't an actual member I don't think of these forums, but when I saw your post I registered. The reason is, I wanted to say first off, your honesty is refreshing. Seriously. Second off, I'm 23, and although they probably won't admit it, I know a number of mates who are almost certainly virgins. Their not necessarily bad looking or such, but just havn't had it. Thirdly, socially active for "better part of a year" is not a long time. Fourthly, your 21. Your almost a baby (age wise
). Don't worry man. Plenty of time, and good luck. Had to say this cos you seem like a nice fella, and actually (for once) honest. laterDoclectorDoclector said:
I wasn't an actual member I don't think of these forums, but when I saw your post I registered. The reason is, I wanted to say first off, your honesty is refreshing. Seriously. Second off, I'm 23, and although they probably won't admit it, I know a number of mates who are almost certainly virgins. Their not necessarily bad looking or such, but just havn't had it. Thirdly, socially active for "better part of a year" is not a long time. Fourthly, your 21. Your almost a baby (age wise
). Don't worry man. Plenty of time, and good luck. Had to say this cos you seem like a nice fella, and actually (for once) honest. later
I'm a nympho, so very very important. Though it is only good sex when the other person is into it. If other person is wooden, kinda takes the fun out of it.
I agree with this perfectly. My philosophy is: Slut = someone with an incredibly low standard/doesn't keep to standards, and uses sex to validate themself.The .50 Caliber Cow said:
Someone just having sex for fun, with a standard they keep to, and they remain in control is fine, and shouldn't be looked down on at all.
I don't know what everyone else in here is talking about, but sex is extremely important to me. Hell, it's probably the cause of my biggest grievance in life.
I get around a bit. I don't hook up with random people, but I have a couple of very "friendly" friends. I get pretty miserable when there's long spaces between sex, though it's not just about sex. I hate being lonely, and I really crave the feeling of being around someone. But I can't have that often because I'm in a long-distance, open relationship. It's hard to stay committed to someone in another country, even though I love him, when what I want most is a regular relationship where we can actually spend time together.
I get around a bit. I don't hook up with random people, but I have a couple of very "friendly" friends. I get pretty miserable when there's long spaces between sex, though it's not just about sex. I hate being lonely, and I really crave the feeling of being around someone. But I can't have that often because I'm in a long-distance, open relationship. It's hard to stay committed to someone in another country, even though I love him, when what I want most is a regular relationship where we can actually spend time together.
To compliment TheSarge1's post, i'm 21 years old and a virgin and not afraid to admit it. I'm not a fat, ugly, basement dwelling social retard. (and i'm sure your not either) I'm a socially active university student. I've got plenty of friends, and i get the impression i'm generally well liked but i've never get laid. If i'd been less fussy in the past then things would probably be different, but we live with the choices we make.Doclector said:
Now i don't know what you look like physically, but i've seen plenty of guys who arn't exactly Johnny Depp get with girls (in their league note) so in all likelihood i reckon you could get laid if your looking in the right places.
A word of advise though- don't leap into the arms of the first girl who expresses an interest in you just so you can lose your virginity. My friend did that when he first went to uni and ended up in a relationship with a girl who was really into him but he simply wasn't interested. To do that is simply unfair on the girl as you've used her as a means to your end. Also, don't lower your standards so low you end up with a needy man-hunter *****. That happened to me once.
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Sex is something I can love but also cast aside as if it's nothing. If I'm really in the mood for it then it's the best thing in the world and I'll try and get my girlfriend in the mood as well so things can get going.
But other times I find it can end up just getting a little bit tedious and feeling like too much effort for something that only gives a relatively short period of pleasure compared to, say, watching a really good film that I enjoy (which can go on for hours, unlike myself)
But other times I find it can end up just getting a little bit tedious and feeling like too much effort for something that only gives a relatively short period of pleasure compared to, say, watching a really good film that I enjoy (which can go on for hours, unlike myself)
Doesn't interest me... even the few times I've attempted being sexual, my prevalent thoughts have been: "Wonder if I can go and buy some ice cream tomorrow..."
I am aware it is entirely possible I haven't found the right person yet, but at this rate I may never, so I may as well just accept that until an epiphany strikes me in the head, I'm pretty asexual. I don't find much attraction in people past friendship. :S
(I try to make that abundantly clear with my friends both male and female, friend-zoning is an asshole past-time and I don't like being a ***** who does that. You know me? You are permanently friended. Don't like? Gtfo.)
I am aware it is entirely possible I haven't found the right person yet, but at this rate I may never, so I may as well just accept that until an epiphany strikes me in the head, I'm pretty asexual. I don't find much attraction in people past friendship. :S
(I try to make that abundantly clear with my friends both male and female, friend-zoning is an asshole past-time and I don't like being a ***** who does that. You know me? You are permanently friended. Don't like? Gtfo.)
It's funny, usually the possibility of having sex is the most exciting thing in the world to me, but when I actually am doing it, it's not that big of a deal...
It's like how going without food will make a cheeseburger seem like the best thing in the world, but then after a big mac or two, the thought of eating a cheeseburger makes you sick.
It's like how going without food will make a cheeseburger seem like the best thing in the world, but then after a big mac or two, the thought of eating a cheeseburger makes you sick.