actually you really are changed psychologically when you have sex (especially the first time), though everyone is affected differently. Also, the actual act of sex is not immoral, but it really depends on the circumstances. I'm not going to get into a big long debate here, but I'd say casual sex is very immoral. For the sake of clarity, well say immoral means "socially and emotionally destructive"Vault101 said:
Is it that hard to find a virgin?
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again I want to ask the same question I did beforeMad World said:World's a sick place. So many people don't seem to value morals. Too many people only care about sex. They don't know what true love is.
I'm not saying that a person shouldn't want to be with someone who has had sex, but this thread in general makes me think about how morally corrupt some people are.
Personally, I want a girl who is a virgin; I believe that sex should wait until after marriage. But if you truly love someone, I think that it's all right if they're not a virgin. Concentrate on the future; not the past.
why is the act of sex imoral? am I somehow more "moral" because ive never had sex? if I do have sex will I lose some kind of "purity" that Ill never get back?
anyway Im surprised at the mount of "moral" people here
I dont drink much or do drugs...mainly because I dotn care for that kind of crap and never had the chance anyway
BUT Im not about to pretend Im any more morally rightious than others, I self indulge just as bad if nto worse (on videogames and caffine)
Well, I'm 16 right now and I can tell ya that I've never really done any of that stuff. I don't mind them wholistically as alot of my friends have either done or do semi-regularly one or more of those things (but I've always had a hard time believing most guys around me talking about their sexual conquests, hard to know where the swag ends and the truth begins).
As for how such things colour my perception of others ('specially the fairer sex), I'd like to think they don't. The only thing I hate is those guys who try and hype the fuck out of it, acting like they're hot shit because they smoked half a joint they bummed off some dude twice their age over the weekend.
As for how such things colour my perception of others ('specially the fairer sex), I'd like to think they don't. The only thing I hate is those guys who try and hype the fuck out of it, acting like they're hot shit because they smoked half a joint they bummed off some dude twice their age over the weekend.
yeah, thats why you dont have sex unless you know youre "ready" for it and dont give in to peer preasure..blah blah blahaxlryder said:
what about just doing whatever works for you personally?
anyway I find it kind of insulting some self rightous ass would think less of me if I had sex with a few people (I mean realtionships over a long perios of time) that wouldnt make me a bad person, that would make me completley and utterly NORMAL..its NORMAL to have sex if your in a realationship...if said relationship ends then you move onto the next one
we arnt all going to be with our soulmate first time around
you definitely seem to be in the minority but your not alone in being there...I've never done drugs, or had sex but I have gotten drunk before and though only on occasion I do smoke cigars/cigarettes. I have given up on the idea of finding a girl who like me is a virgin, the one girl who I know is or at least I am fairly certain to be one is 3-4 younger than me and is not the least bit interested in me from what I can see.
Again, I don't want to debate it because I don't feel like dragging out scholarly articles and such, but I will say being normal doesn't mean what you're doing is right. That's an appeal to the majority and rather fallacious. Also, just because you think something "works" for you doesn't mean it's healthy for you. That being said, someone thinking you're somehow less than them because of a mutual action you took with another person is a rather commiserable sentiment. However, it is their prerogative to feel it nullifies your candidacy for being their partner and I'd say they could be justified in feeling that way (there's a lot of variables between the two of you at that point, though). It was nice chatting with you.Vault101 said:
Do you have really high standards for girls, too? You sound like the type. If so, dream on, very few girls that are hot and that age are virgins to either sex or drugs/booze. And the few that don't either won't live near you, or won't be into you. Try realizing that just because a person has had sex or done drugs doesn't make them a horrible person. In fact, safe experience with sex is a plus for me.
I'm 21, still a virgin, but I'm male lol.
Haven't drunk, smoked or whatever.
I support people who refuse to drink or smoke (though I may try pot one day myself, i'm not against it), but staying a virgin for moral reasons just seems a little arbitrary to me.
Basically, I support people who don't drink or do pot because I support people who value self-control. Beer and pot eliminate self-control and cause all sorts of problems concerning responsibility.
Usually when someone does something stupid while drunk, then comes to me the next day afterwards and apologizes to me, the apology means essentially nothing. He/She wasn't in control, so why shouldn't I expect it to happen again?
Haven't drunk, smoked or whatever.
I support people who refuse to drink or smoke (though I may try pot one day myself, i'm not against it), but staying a virgin for moral reasons just seems a little arbitrary to me.
Basically, I support people who don't drink or do pot because I support people who value self-control. Beer and pot eliminate self-control and cause all sorts of problems concerning responsibility.
Usually when someone does something stupid while drunk, then comes to me the next day afterwards and apologizes to me, the apology means essentially nothing. He/She wasn't in control, so why shouldn't I expect it to happen again?
some people treat sex like the simple self indulgence it can be AND are perfectlty fine (main word being "some")...now who are we to say otherwise? we dont know what goes on in their headaxlryder said:
its just like any other self indulgence...videogames, alchohol or whatever