Phasmal said:
That sounds pretty bizarre to me. I don't see anything wrong with dating only people you are attracted to- isn't that part of the point of dating? `Shallow` or not.
I agree it's bizarre. Or maybe it's just that "I want a guy/girl with similar hobbies, interests, and a witty sense of humor, but I'm only going to give a chance to good-looking ones" sounds a bit odd, because it makes it sound that while you want X, you'll base your decision on Y, which might confuse people, or something.
What I'm talking about, though, is that if you're straight with "Yeah, I'm going to go for the good-looking ones" you're going to be met with adversity, called "shallow", "a *****/dick", or accused of objectifying the other gender because "what, is that all they are to you"?
Again, there's nothing wrong with not being attracted to people you're not attracted to. There just seems to be some kind of social illusion at work that states there's something wrong with it. Just an observation on my part, really. As you said, bizarre.
Well, similarly, looks will probably give you a leg up initially.
You probably wont be interested in getting to know someone better (in a dating sense) if you aren't attracted to them all. I don't see how that would make someone a bad person.
It wouldn't. But there seems to be enough frustration with rejections among people of all walks of life that it kind of got distilled into that illusion I mentioned up there.
But you got it right on the "leg up". To put it in gaming terms, I suppose it's a bit of a "level one" thing. No matter how hard you'd destroy "level two" once you enter it, no use if you can't get past the first one.
A date is when you both agree it's a date I guess.
The only person I go on dates with is already my boyfriend so I'm not much help there.
Sounds a bit self-serving (as in, to the expression, not the people involved). But, no matter, really. Just one of those things I don't quite get I suppose.
People can call it "dates" all they want, I'll just have fun spending time with someone I enjoy spending time with and not beat myself up over linguistics ^^