Poll: Do You Date?
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Nope. I've never ever been on a date in the first place. I'm on the fence about dating, anyway. I mean, if I could find someone perfect to date, then I would, but otherwise I think I'll stay single. Like it or not, my standards are quite high, perhaps even unrealistic. However, I'd rather be alone than with someone and unsatisfied, y'know? If I'm unsatisfied with a relationship because of my own idea of what it should be like, it's not fair for the person I'm with to have to deal with it, either. Compromising is a bit of an issue for me, as well; if I could just compromise my idea of what a relationship should be, then I would have already. Lowering my standards, especially for something like this, isn't as easy as it sounds. Besides, I don't want a "good enough" relationship. That wouldn't be fair, either; no one likes being second best, or third best, or simply just "good enough", and just being "good enough" would mean that my partner would take a back seat to my own fantasies.
TL;DR: I've never dated. If I find someone who fits my criteria, I'd date them, but I'd rather be single than compromise my standards or impose my standards on others.
TL;DR: I've never dated. If I find someone who fits my criteria, I'd date them, but I'd rather be single than compromise my standards or impose my standards on others.
23 years old, never been kissed or on a date. I've tried asking women out but it just doesn't work.
No. I wouldn't know how to go about doing that if my life depended on it. So yeah put me down for Forever Alone.
Such a delightful of variety of specimens we have here!
Don't worry, I'd love to study/interrogate/dissect each and every one of you!
Such a high proportion of abnormality warrants at least some inquiry. I'd wager that each and every one of that has forsaken relationships has a different story to tell, and I would love to hear it. I have earnest interest in putting research into this phenomenon, particularly when there is such a high degree of commonality between the subjects of interest.
So come, put your faith in BQE and we can do so can do so much science together.
[sub]*sinister eye twinkle*[/sub]
Don't worry, I'd love to study/
Such a high proportion of abnormality warrants at least some inquiry. I'd wager that each and every one of that has forsaken relationships has a different story to tell, and I would love to hear it. I have earnest interest in putting research into this phenomenon, particularly when there is such a high degree of commonality between the subjects of interest.
So come, put your faith in BQE and we can do so can do so much science together.
[sub]*sinister eye twinkle*[/sub]
Funnily enough i've never used a date as a means to initiate a relationship. Only times i've been on what you'd normally call a "date" it's been with a girl i was already in a relationship with. I've more used dates as a relationship reinforcer, really.
I went on one date, while I was in High School it was some dance. It was sort-of fun but not really anything particularly special. I am not very good at social niceties and would sooner do without. So until I get so lonely that I must find a significant other, I am just going to live my life happily forever alone.
I have far more important things to do before I can even think about a relationship, and casual dating sounds pointless and expensive.
I have far more important things to do before I can even think about a relationship, and casual dating sounds pointless and expensive.
Never been on a real date at all. I've had a couple long-distance relationships that I barely count as relationships. I'm certainly not in a hurry to date anyone, but if an opportunity presents itself I'll probably take it. Still enough hope in me to believe there's someone out there willing to put up with me.
I should try that. Last time I tried to pick up a girl I damn near broke my back and stuff.Daystar Clarion said:
OT; I don't date, no. I see it as a bit of a waste of time currently. My priorities are elsewhere, basically. I used to, though. Sometimes it was fun. Sometimes it was not as fun.
I've never been on a single date. I've had two relationships worth noting so far. Both started very differently.
Gah, I don't know if I'm a person dating would work for. I don't like formulaic social interactions.
Gah, I don't know if I'm a person dating would work for. I don't like formulaic social interactions.
Not one date. Not one relationship. Not even a first kiss.
So no.
I've got vidya gamez and this more attractive then life dog to fill the void.
That and I'm much more concerned with finishing community college at the moment. I have no time for beautiful wenches, maybe i'll find my type at my eventual 4 years in art school and take her somewhere nice, until then i'm going lone wolf.
So no.
I've got vidya gamez and this more attractive then life dog to fill the void.
That and I'm much more concerned with finishing community college at the moment. I have no time for beautiful wenches, maybe i'll find my type at my eventual 4 years in art school and take her somewhere nice, until then i'm going lone wolf.
Nope, and that's completely fine with me. Dating culture hardly exists over here, meaning that if I and another person like each others, we don't have to dance through a set of arbitrary rules before we conclude whether or not we want to pursue a further relationship. We just go with it. Way less complicated that way.
Me and my current girlfriend used about twelve seconds to figure out that "okay, these drunk makeouts aren't just because we're drunk", and things have mostly worked out great. Yay, go us. :3
Me and my current girlfriend used about twelve seconds to figure out that "okay, these drunk makeouts aren't just because we're drunk", and things have mostly worked out great. Yay, go us. :3
I mean, I just got out of a long distance relationship with a girl in NYC...because of the distance, we often met, but didn't really have a formal 'date' for a few months. Finally, we discussed an official first date, even though we had already gone all the way sexually and didn't really have any first date "so what do you like to do?" awkwardness. It actually made it more fun, and less "Gotta get to know her". We went to Coney Island, did the coaster, the ferris wheel. Was good fun.
That said, I always tell my gfs that if we ever marry, or at least live together and have steady income, I'll do with her what my parents do, a weekly date night, which can be as simple as dinner or a movie, but at a minumum it's alone time with me and her, not "in the bedroom" alone time, but just time together that we share, just us and no-one else.
To be fair, I've never had a traditional 'first date' experience. For example, this girl I met from New York, I was drunk on New Years, went through my friends phone, saw a picture of her, decided "she's hot" called her up, and told her about how I was gonna take her to Olive Garden, and just bone her in the salad plate. Not romantic, but fortunately, she was drunk too, and so a sloppy conversation led to a relationship. But I've never had the traditional 'first date' with a stranger or a girl I vaguely know. Even when I met this girl in person, I had already been Skyping her for almost a month.
That said, I always tell my gfs that if we ever marry, or at least live together and have steady income, I'll do with her what my parents do, a weekly date night, which can be as simple as dinner or a movie, but at a minumum it's alone time with me and her, not "in the bedroom" alone time, but just time together that we share, just us and no-one else.
To be fair, I've never had a traditional 'first date' experience. For example, this girl I met from New York, I was drunk on New Years, went through my friends phone, saw a picture of her, decided "she's hot" called her up, and told her about how I was gonna take her to Olive Garden, and just bone her in the salad plate. Not romantic, but fortunately, she was drunk too, and so a sloppy conversation led to a relationship. But I've never had the traditional 'first date' with a stranger or a girl I vaguely know. Even when I met this girl in person, I had already been Skyping her for almost a month.
I think we're cut from the same cloth. >.>Daystar Clarion said:
My girlfriend and I were accused of harassing one another. I somehow find it weird that "harassment" is something two people can mutually and amicably do, but whatever.
I don't know. "Dating" activities tend to involve things I don't do with friends. And the extra things I have done with friends.kurokotetsu said:
My friends play video games and watch movies at home while drinking. This may be someone's definition of a date, but....
Damn, this post is going to end up being long.Raikas said:
I don't know, though, that seems like an incredibly loose definition of dating, but maybe that's just me.
My ex seemed to manage it....>.<BloatedGuppy said:
That's the thing. I seem to just sort of end up in relationships most of the time. My ex of eight years the one I "dated" and the same one who cheated on me, she was really the only one that I did "date." And we were kind of pushed on one another by mutual friends who are now married. Honestly, I think they knew they were too insufferable to be on a date alone, so they wanted to double. >.> Nah. I've known the guy for most of his life, and the girl was my ex's best friend since childhood. Obviously, we're not indifferent to them.Colour Scientist said:I've never been on a date.
Apart from teen "relationships", I've only ever had two long-term relationships and we never dated.
It was a more casual thing and then "oh, well, I suppose you're my boyfriend now.'
Otherwise, yeah. With my current, it's the same as most of my exes. Just like, over time, something happens. We didn't set out to "evaluate" one another, as per Guppy's definition or even really try and be romantic, but at some point, yeah. And there's no definitive time we really became a couple. So we chose an arbitrary date for when people ask. Hooray arbitrary dates!
I would, but my girlfriend might take exception. If she found out. Which she would. Because she browses/posts here occasionally. And because I will almost certainly link her to the thread.
HOW DOES SHE ALWAYS KNOW WHAT I'M UP TO?????
Apparently, there's no agreed-upon definition of dating 'round here. I figured as much.Fappy said:
I mean, you're still closer than I am.
Depends on whether it's by choice or force, I guess. >.>Red X said:
Not that they passed a local ordinance or anything....
Will it hurt?BQE said:
As for the rest, I can't help but wonder if the results here come from a change in the social structure as much as anything else. Even in the case of the "forever alone" answers, people feel less beholden to pair off these days. But the non-dating folk also seem to be getting together with other people, just maybe not in the traditional courtship sense. This is my fourth long-term relationship, and I've had shorter ones, but I've never dated.
Or we could chalk it up to gamer stereotypes.
I have not before. But I imagine I will.
Not exactly sure how I'd go about having a relationship without regularly dating.
Not exactly sure how I'd go about having a relationship without regularly dating.
I used to yeah, whenever someone i found reasonably interesting asked me out on one. I haven't been on a date or dating for well over a year now and I don't really see myself doing it again soon. Every relationship I have end in disaster after not particularily long, so I can only asume I'm incredibly annoying or unpleasant to be around in the long run X3.
I spend my time alone at home with a bucket of ice cream and videogames *cries*.
But seriously, I really can't seem to hold down a relationship, especially with a man. My only male relationship lasted until the first time we had sex, and after that I NEVER saw him again X3. Not a phonecall, no texts, not even him passing by in his car yelling "hey, thanks for the sex!" even. From this experience I have decided to conclude that 100% of males are pigs and leave it at that. Yes, I am petty X3.
I spend my time alone at home with a bucket of ice cream and videogames *cries*.
But seriously, I really can't seem to hold down a relationship, especially with a man. My only male relationship lasted until the first time we had sex, and after that I NEVER saw him again X3. Not a phonecall, no texts, not even him passing by in his car yelling "hey, thanks for the sex!" even. From this experience I have decided to conclude that 100% of males are pigs and leave it at that. Yes, I am petty X3.