Poll: How Happy Are You Being Single?
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I'm single n fairly happy about it actually. I don't have someone worrying where I've been, why I didn't answer the phone, nag me to take them somewhere/spend time with them and all kinds of other things I can't be assed with 
I'm not happy been single by any means but i'm not unhappy either i guess you'd say i was content with it but if i met someone it's not like i'd beat them off either!
I have no interest in one. I get to concentrate on more important things, rather than the cash black hole, emotional rollercoaster that is a average relationship. Although, my mom desperately wants me to get a girlfriend, and if my parents are anything to go by, it wouldn't be too hard for me to get one (cant decide if the constant remarks about girls liking me are true or not). If I was to get a girlfriend, it would have to be someone a lot like me. I have standards and I would be very picky.
I'm generally happy, but because of my hobbies, such as drawing and writing and posting on the Escapist forums (Like right now! ) But I do very often think of how nice it would be to be in a relationship. At least, so I can learn what it's like. My family tells me it's horrible, but that comes from my parents and married brother, so...
) But I do very often think of how nice it would be to be in a relationship. At least, so I can learn what it's like. My family tells me it's horrible, but that comes from my parents and married brother, so...
Being someone who can't function like a normal, sociable human being without copious amounts of alcohol, being single comes naturally to me. I'm horribly negative, and see the worst in everything, without fail. If I do get hopeful about something, I dash those hopes with doubts that my preemptive happiness will be my ultimate downfall. People like me don't find love, they find misery. I probably look for it (misery, I mean) sub-consciously. I haven't been happy since I was about 9, and the only reason I'm still here is because I'm that depressed, I can't be bothered to do anything about it.
In answer to your question, no, I'm not happy being single. The one relationship I ever had, which was two years ago, brought me to a high I've never felt before. Since then, I've been the worst I've ever, ever felt.
In answer to your question, no, I'm not happy being single. The one relationship I ever had, which was two years ago, brought me to a high I've never felt before. Since then, I've been the worst I've ever, ever felt.
I wax and wane. Sometimes I'm perfectly content, other times it drives me up a goddamn wall. The usual pattern is me getting over-excited, trying to execute every possible means I have to be in a relationship with someone, work myself into an overly stressed state, then realize that I'm being more counter-productive than productive, and back off and calm myself down. I'll return to contented state, stay there for about a month or two, and then rinse/repeat.
I'm learning to deal with myself, so it's gotten better. But I can't say I don't feel a wee bit of social pressure in being single for so long. I'm 22, a theatre major, I went to an all-guys high school, and I've never had a girlfriend. People are starting to talk.
I'm learning to deal with myself, so it's gotten better. But I can't say I don't feel a wee bit of social pressure in being single for so long. I'm 22, a theatre major, I went to an all-guys high school, and I've never had a girlfriend. People are starting to talk.
-Haven't had a single date.
-Never been in a serious relationship.
-Have a great family and friends.
-Getting "A"s and "B"s in school.
-I don't have to deal with the drama of a relationship
Yeah I'm *sniffle* pretty happy. *goes off to a corner*
In all seriousness, I'm pretty content being single.
-Never been in a serious relationship.
-Have a great family and friends.
-Getting "A"s and "B"s in school.
-I don't have to deal with the drama of a relationship
Yeah I'm *sniffle* pretty happy. *goes off to a corner*
In all seriousness, I'm pretty content being single.
Honestly...I'm not sure. Being single can let you do your own thing without worrying about someone else, but I cherish the sense of companionship and love you can gain from being in a relationship.
...I guess I'll go with the many people who just say content instead of something like happy and unhappy.
...I guess I'll go with the many people who just say content instead of something like happy and unhappy.
I haven't been consistently happy about it, but right now? Yeah, pretty much. That's not to say I'd rather be single, but that doesn't mean I have a problem with the current situation.
I'd say no, I'm not really happy being single. I've become more content over the years with it, however, and can say that I feel a lot better about it compared to when I was in high school. The desire to find a real nice girl is still strong though. The fact that I'm so damn awkward around many girls doesn't help, and being an introverted person while holding different interests compared to virtually all of my peers basically doesn't set me up well.
I just hope that something in favor will happen soon. Real soon.
I just hope that something in favor will happen soon. Real soon.
Missing poll option:Jacco said:
It depends.
I personally welcome love in the future, but I'm VERY happy being single right now. I cannot afford a relationship, or children. And I'm not ready to forgo my dreams for being a bread winner.
Everyone gets lonely, but I place my dreams higher than physical pleasure and emotional companionship. It's not easy, but its the best thing for me right now. So, like I said... it depends.
I can say that I'm pretty damn happy. Got a good job, a nice apartment that's full of various kinds of expensive electronics and complete and total freedom to do what I want when I want.
I don't mind doing my own cooking. I'm a very tidy person so there is rarely any serious cleaning that needs done. I have a good group of friends and most nights we either hang at my place or one of theirs. The only real benefit I would get from a full time relationship can just as easily be met by some members of the fairer sex in my town that share my general view on relationships.
I do have friends that are married or in serious relationships and wouldn't trade places with any of them. Even the ones that claim to be happy live in a way that would make me wholly miserable.
The bottom line is I don't like sharing. That includes my things, my money, my apartment, or my time. I'm sure there are people out there that are in relationships and are happy as a pig in shit about relinquishing their freedom. As for me though, I'm perfectly happy on my own.
I don't mind doing my own cooking. I'm a very tidy person so there is rarely any serious cleaning that needs done. I have a good group of friends and most nights we either hang at my place or one of theirs. The only real benefit I would get from a full time relationship can just as easily be met by some members of the fairer sex in my town that share my general view on relationships.
I do have friends that are married or in serious relationships and wouldn't trade places with any of them. Even the ones that claim to be happy live in a way that would make me wholly miserable.
The bottom line is I don't like sharing. That includes my things, my money, my apartment, or my time. I'm sure there are people out there that are in relationships and are happy as a pig in shit about relinquishing their freedom. As for me though, I'm perfectly happy on my own.
So sad to be alone...haha yeah, right. I've been in a loving relationship with a wonderful girl for 11 years come February 14th 15th. (I'd never live THAT mistake down)
Come to think of it, I've never been alone in my entire life. Must suck.
For those of you saying that "a woman would never pay attention to me...I can never imagine being in a relationship with an actual girl and not just my hand", stop being pathetic and keep this in mind.
Women are just people with the same thoughts, reservations, hangups, and worries as you. Stop thinking of them like they're another species or some sort of advanced, god-like race and just relax. I promise...its much easier than it seems.
Come to think of it, I've never been alone in my entire life. Must suck.
For those of you saying that "a woman would never pay attention to me...I can never imagine being in a relationship with an actual girl and not just my hand", stop being pathetic and keep this in mind.
Women are just people with the same thoughts, reservations, hangups, and worries as you. Stop thinking of them like they're another species or some sort of advanced, god-like race and just relax. I promise...its much easier than it seems.