Poll: Lying to get laid is OK?

[Hagi]

Lying is never OK.

But it can be the lesser evil.

Giving a false compliment isn't OK. It's just better then being rude and not giving a false compliment in some cases.

Relationships, even if only one night long, are messy, you'll sometimes find that there's no good thing to do. Only bad things. One of those bad things, like lying, will often be better then the others. But don't ever confuse this for you doing the right thing, you didn't.

 

[TheModWolf]

Yeah I don't really have a problem if it's truly for a one night stand with someone you've never met/never going to see again, really where's the harm. Unless you're lying about future relationships with them. ie - i'm a millionaire and i invented the moon. fair enough to lie about.

i love you and i'll call you tomorrow (if you don't and have no intention to) probably more of a dick thing to do.

 

[Adrian Neyland]

I don't need to lie, I'm just that awesome.

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Really what it comes down to is, is it ok to lie? Im not sure, but lying is certainly interesting.

 

[Angerwing]

I lie for personal entertainment. For example, I tell Muslim taxi drivers that I'm Jewish. When my hair gets kind of long (as it is now), it gets slightly curly. I just find it hilarious. No idea what gets me to do it.

I also randomly tell people that I used to play the Ruckman position in AFL. This kind of works, as I'm 6 foot, but I used to be the shortest person in my year when I said I played Ruckman. I also say I'm studying to be an Actuary. I don't really try to hook up using these, I just do it for entertainment. I'll probably never see these people again, so I make stuff up.

If I'm trying to get with someone for real, then I won't lie to them at all. It's not worth it, and I'm better than that.

 

[dyre]

What? You mean like saying, "I think I really want to start a relationship with you," then dumping her the next day?

Or saying that you're a nuclear physicist who happens to be an Olympic marathon runner to impress a girl who you'll never see again, but want to get into bed with?

Or do you mean saying, "I don't have herpes" :\

No matter what, I think it's an utterly douchebag thing to do.

edit: hmm, seems I was ninja'd by the guy on top of the page

 

[The-Epicly-Named-Man]

Where's the option for "Only if there only stupid enough to fall for it".

 

[Spy_Guy]

I consider lying, or any other form of abusing trust to be one of the worst things a person can do.

In other words I voted "No" and I'd like to append ", and people who do are the worst kind of scum" to the poll option.

 

[Denamic]

This is one of those things everyone does that no one admits to.
I've never seen a guy not lie through his teeth while making his first impressions.

 

[Lazy Kitty]

Lie to get sex?
Would that even work?
Seriously, who would fall for that?
And what kind of lie would work?

 

[Deadcyde]

lie to get sex?..

as long as my lie doesn't break the law...

then yes..

society created this monster... now it can have sex with it.

 

[Thamian]

I would say it depends on exactly what the lie is. For example, if you have STDs and say you don't, if you're not on contraception but say you are, or pretend like it's not just a one night stand when it is, etc, then yes, lying is wrong.

If it's something about the number of previous sexual partners you've had or your abilities in bed (or of course, their abilities) then I really can't see anything wrong with adjusting the truth a bit. Always seems to be the way the game's played.

In short, if it's something which could potentially physically or emotionally harm the other person that you're lying about then you should never lie about it. And in the case of whether or not it's a one night event, it's worth going out of your way to make sure that they realise it, and making sure they really are ok with that.

 

[Clarkarius]

I'm going to go with the answer, just because you can does not mean you should. I live in a university town and the people who go for 'one night stands' will go to stupid lengths to stand out and beat competition when on the pull, lying being but one of them. But these people are only looking for sex and these escapades tend not to lead to anything else as there ones who go with them have a similar agenda.

On the other hand if you are after a relationship then lying is the worst thing to do as you have immediately labelled yourself as a douche bag whose key prerogative was just to sleep with them, once the truth is revealed (which it most certainly will).

So yeah the choice is yours, whether you choose to follow the upright or the reversed path of the lovers is up to you, as long as you are willing to live with the consequences of your actions.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

I've been thinking about this subject for the past few days, is lying to get yourself laid OK? I'm not saying you should lie about everything to everyone, just for one night stands and not excluding the possibility that you may actually like someone and want a deeper relationship with them.
I've been talking about this subject with my friends, some agree, some don't and I can't really get a conclusive result. So, I'm asking you, the people what do you think.

So, should you lie to get laid: on a one night stand and/or when you actually like someone?

EDIT: From what I've seen, people are getting the impression that I'd lie to get laid. No, I'm asking about your opinion only.

EDIT 2: On the Hot Thread list, hell yeah!

What are you lying about though? I don't think it really matters, it's up to the other party to make the decision to fuck you in the first place. So yeah go for it

EDIT: There's no "yes" option? Hardly makes sense...

 

[Crusnik]

Here's my opinion:

Lying when it has any potential health implications ("Why, no. I don't have any STDs.") is a straight up scumbag move.

Lying to someone you actually care about and/or would be interested in having a relationship with is stupid, because the lie will be found out, and it's also a scumbag maneuver.

Lying about a career to boost your chances of a one night stand is NOT necessarily a bad thing. Saying that you're an architect when you're actually a construction worker doesn't hurt anybody. All you're doing is making the woman slightly more inclined to sleep with you. If a relatively small and difficult to verify white lie is enough to push her over the edge, then she was probably already 95% of the way there already, and the next morning, it won't matter, because there is a high probability that you won't see her again, hence the one night stand.

Then there are the ridiculous lies which, if believed, indicate that she is too stupid for whatever that lie might be anyway ("I'm a billionaire hanging out in this dive bar." "I invented toast." etc.) and would likely be willing to sleep with you regardless, providing everything else is there. At that point, it likely that she wouldn't actually care what your career is.

 

[gbemery]

It really depends on what the lie is. I mean everyone lies at some point in a relationship whether it be just a small fib to a huge ass planned out lie. I mean if you have to lie about your favorite color then why the hell not. I don't know why what your favorite color would have to do to get you laid but I have heard much more weirder things. Now if the lie is something like you aren't seeing anyone but you are, or you don't have a STD but do then that is not okay.
I assume though you're talking more along the lines of saying stuff like "Why yes I am a doctor and I saved 23 deaf, blind school children who were injured on a bus after it was attacked by terrorists." That still isn't bad because if the person wouldn't sleep with you unless you were a doctor or lawyer or something than they aren't any better than you are morally.

 

[Crusnik]

Lie to get sex?
Would that even work?
Seriously, who would fall for that?
And what kind of lie would work?

You really need to hang out in different places, or with different people, if only to diversify your social experience.

 

[Richard Eis]

If you are willing to lie in such situations then you aren't yourself a very nice person. So the question is, do you want to be a nice person who shows at least some respect and empathy for the people around them.

Also don't forget that the more you lie, the more likely for that pattern to repeat itself across your brain for next time. Plus because you know that you lie for certain reasons, you will probably start to assume that other people are lying to you.

 

[Crusnik]

Oh, I've got another one:

Lying about scars is okay.

Did you have you're appendix removed? Boom, it was a motorcycle accident.
Facial scars from that time you faceplanted during your first and last time on a skateboard? No, it was a fight.
Hooked collar bone from when you broke it rolling down a hill after getting black-out drunk? Now it's a skiing accident.

 

[Dumori]

Any major lie is a no go for me. Minor exaggerations of things about me fine. Playing a bit heavy on the compliments fine. Massively false lies as a joke fine.

I might say I'm better at X than I am by a small margin. But I'm not going to pull elaborate or huge lies. So while I might not be 100% truthful and who is all the time? I'm not going to push believeability far and the truth less so.

Is being liberal with the truth to come across better really the same as majorly changing ones appearance/identity to get laid. In my books no. If you think they are the same you must never trust anyones word.