Oddly, at least one of the women who are as I mentioned (they expect a man to pay) were raised similarly, and they would preach the idea, but when it came to a meal they thought it was "less romantic" if the man didn't pay. They felt as if the man "didn't care enough" if he didn't pay.Phasmal said:Just seems strange to me.AngloDoom said:It does happen in a surprising amount of people. I assumed that, since a lot of the girls I knew were all for equality amongst the sexes, they'd be fine with paying half for their meal.
Nooope.
They would say they didn't want to be paid for, but if I didn't I'd hear about it in a month's time in an argument telling me 'I'm cheap'. The fact that I wasn't springing surprise holidays and meals out on my ex girlfriend every other day was one of the reasons she gave when she broke up with me. It's...oddly important with some people.
I've always been raised to be independant and fair, so all my dates are either on 50/50 basis, or `I'll get this one, you get the next one`.
Naturally, they all revealed later on to be mostly horrible people, but it got to the point where I used to try and pay for everything even with girls I was convinced don't care - just in case they turn around and throw it in my face later on. Thankfully, I've realised those women aren't the type for me and I shouldn't bother with them, but there are a lot of issues that have arisen like that in a few areas I've lived in.
Hell, half my girlfriends have tried to hit me when angry and when I told them I'd hit them back they burst out crying. Some people are still going through the growing-pains of cultural change, I guess.