Lil devils x said:
I too unfortunately, was violently raped before the age of 14 by a 24 yr old man I had never spoken to. I Have had other family members raped as well as many friends. Hell, one girl in my school was gang raped in the parking lot during a football game and nothing was ever done about it although the whole damn community knew about it at the time. People heard her screaming for help and no one would help her.
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I am sure I probably forgot something there but tried to include what I could remember off the top that I thought would qualify.
EDIT: To be clear I am going to add reported or not reported by each to be clear to make sure this is not confused.
Just curious: what's the deal with your neighborhood? Is it the illegals or just failure of rule-of-law (for the record, I'm Hispanic; I'm just asking because I legit want to know)? That stuff is seriously f***ed. Reminds me of the ghetto I moved to for college. Girlfriends from out of town would always think i was nuts when I wouldn't let them walk the neighborhood alone at night. I'm DC born 'n' raised and everybody knows that girls don't take the Green Line alone at night.
Glad you're armed at least! Friendly reminder: just keep training until it's muscle memory! Stay safe! I'll be saying a prayer that, if you ever need to use it, you'll shoot true. <3
EDIT:
2 things:
1) I understand your point about victim-blaming, but respectfully disagree. Yeah I think it's BS when people are "liek omg get a gun!" But, at the same time, I'm a fundamentally science-driven person and the science just isn't behind the gender feminist practices of "changing men" to get them to "stop raping." Rape is kind of like murder; it's the kind of thing you stop/avoid rather than prevent through positive discourse. I don't blame anyone who's been raped for being raped, but that won't stop me from taking and encouraging tangibly proactive steps to keep women from getting raped in the future.
I had a life-changing experience a few years ago: a girl at a club, drunk as all get out, literally walked up and passed out in my arms. I was carrying her around the godawful place trying to find her friends when a guy walked up claiming to know her. I asked him her name and he guessed wrong. I'm guessing you can imagine how much I've wanted to murder this piece of s*** in the most violent emotion I've ever felt.
I move on because I'm busy taking care of the girl and, after the bartender tells me "oh yeah we don't do cab calls or let patrons use house phones" (the filthy bastard), I take her outside. There I call her a cab, direct the cabbie to her house, make sure she pays him in advance, then take a picture of his badge number and text it to her best friend in case he gets any ideas. She gets in the cab and everything's ok.
Then my girlfriend loses her s*** at me. Let's call her Social Justice Warrior Princess. She went ballistic on me for abandoning her during fun party time to "help some stupid drunk slut," her own previous devotion to the "anti-rape movement" be damned. I literally kept a psycho from making off with this girl and all she cared about was her own petty jealousy. I learned two things that night: the "abuser is the only one to blame" schtick is often used by people too lazy to stick their necks out for victims AND sometimes the best anti-rape defense isn't a gun, but someone who gives a f*** about you watching your back (though a .40 S&W JHP isn't the worst friend in the world either). That's why, no matter how lost I get at a party, I'm always keeping an eye out for people who are vulnerable: because I know in my guts that ideology prevents a lot less rape than nosy Boy/Girl Scouts like me who do the right thing at the wrong time.
2) Probably the reason why you scare off nice guys and attract creeps is a combination of attractiveness and an aggressive aspect/aura. The nice guys can't take the heat and the creeps want to fuck with you because you're a symbol of how worthless they are by comparison. I'm sorry, but it's not an easy problem to "fix." One of my best friends is the same way (totally hot and totally badass) and she managed to reliably connect with nice guys by learning to identify them and be a little more vulnerable with them than she's used to being. Takes practice, but she says it pays off. =)