bahumat42 said:
Melanie McGreevey said:
bahumat42 said:
Melanie McGreevey said:
Monkeyman O said:
No way in hell. I am not gay. And if I ever did date a post op job and he neglected to tell me until after we crossed the physical line then I would have no problems with beating him into the ground.
You wanna do that sorta shit, thats fine. Just do not try to get me involved.
the definition of a bigotry fueled hate crime.
whilst his reaction is an over reaction i feel its only fair that people should be made aware of it pre "the act". Just courtesy. As far as lying goes thats a pretty big one.
agreed, but honestly is it lying? or just not revealing the facts, to me those are different.
See with small facts that would be the case, but with the big stuff (std's.cults,gender status, evil exes) id expect a little advance notice. Now we all have different views on these things, but personally i usually go in with an open attutide and tell them anything which could be considered important.
It is a personal issue and people will act differently with it, but im quite in the mindset of do unto others as you would want done onto yourself.
See, on a practical level, I'm terribly conflicted about this. For my own safety, especially around idiots that say they'd threaten violence about something like this, I'd have to say something in advance.
Yet, assuming it doesn't stand out like a sore thumb that I'm not a normal woman (and if that were the case, would I really nead to explain it?)
In any event, it's difficult to know when the right moment is to mention something like this, because it's not something most people really need to know.
For that matter, on some level I find the idea of telling you is me tacitly going along with a view on the matter that I simply don't agree with. Which is to say, I'm normalizing an attitude to the matter that I find reprehensible, and somewhat disgusting.
But whatever. I can't stop people reacting badly to it, so I have to consider this for my own safety, if nothing else. I just wish I didn't have to.
Anyway, every time this subject comes up, you get a whole brigade of people saying "You're not really a woman", based on some really bizarre reasoning, that, when you really examine it closely makes very little sense.
When you ask them to explain it, you rarely get an explanation that has any real factual merit, and usually degenerates into some kind of magical essense of gender that people supposedly have with no real practical basis to it.
To begin with the number of people that can't even seem to spot the difference between sex & gender is quite embarrassing. (Here's a clue. Gender is quite trivial to change, when you realise what it actually refers to. Sex is what all the surgery and hormones and the like are about.)
But when it comes to actually getting a definition of either out of a person, you soon realise they'll quote you all manner of half-truths, and details that sound great on paper, but are completely inconsistent with actual reality.
I have yet to hear a definition that doesn't make a mess even of regular, ordinary people that don't have any gender identity issues whatsoever. Let alone ones that account for those that do.
But hey, if any of you think you have a definition that makes any actual sense, by all means. Surprise me. Just remember, think carefully about how you actually determine who is who on a day-to-day basis... Because if you think it through you might be surprised by the implications.