Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[Thomas Eshuis]

Sure I would date a transgendered person, of either sex/gender.
I'm primarily attracted to a persons personality, not their bits.

And to all people failing to understand transgender issues:
From the American Psychological Association±
`Many experts believe that biological factors such as genetic influences and prenatal hormone levels, early experiences, and experiences later in adolescence or adulthood may all contribute to the development of transgender identities.`
As you can see, it´s not just an idea these people have. There are actual biological indicators.

`A psychological state is considered a mental disorder only if it causes significant distress or disability. Many transgender people do not experience their gender as distressing or disabling, which implies that identifying as transgender does not constitute a mental disorder.`

Before you judge people, do some research on the situation...

 

[JoesshittyOs]

Uh... no. Not a chance.

I'm gonna loosely quote Justified here. "People are entitled to do what they want to themselves. And I'm perfectly entitled to think they're creepy"

If that's a life choice you wanna make, go for it. I think women are attractive. Hell, I even appreciate a good looking guy from time to time. But there isn't anything that turns me off more than a penis on a girl.

 

[drisky]

I respect the opinions of everyone on here, however I view this in the same light as Creationism. Please don't say it's "factual" that a person is "born in the wrong body". There is no science that proves the case for transgendered individuals claiming I'm a x in y body. None. No empirical facts, no note worthy studies, no hard, honest, scientific discourse. The same scientists who claim science backs this up are the same people who claimed 200 years ago that the world was flat, leeches cure diseases, dragons exist, and a 400 year old zombie Jewish male died on a cross for all man kind. I wonder what "science" will proclaim in the next century.

I have no, NO, problem with you chopping off body parts, adding new ones, changing you name from Susannah to Shaun, and taking hormone injections. I have no problem if you go out and sleep with anyone you want to, granted you do it safely. I have NO problem if you want a society that tolerates these types of choices. Get married, life together, sleep together, go nuts. But don't claim there is evidence to support x person was born in the wrong body. Because it's all about FEELING. And FEELINGS don't belong in science.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causes_of_transsexualism

It's wikipedia, but it has links to case studies and medical journals. That is what it is based on. The brain seems to be structured opposite to that of their body, do to having or not having the testosterone wash males are supposed to have. Among other possible causes, possibly psychological. Still we aren't just making it up, we get it form somewhere.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

I don't think I would date them. No disrespect intended though, its just not my deal. I do hope that one day there will be a way for people to become whatever type of person they want to be and lots of options for body modification.

 

[TheVioletBandit]

Okay so: pleasure trannies sexually, call them whatever they want to be called, and don't expect honesty out of any relationship with them or else I'm intolerant and might as well go around chopping up mixed race couples. Got it.

What? I don't understand you statement. Can you clarify?

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Date a transgendered person? Sure, I don't see the big deal in it. I'd be perfectly fine with it.

 

[dorkette1990]

I'm pansexual - for me, attraction can transcend gender. For that matter, I'd date a MTF as well. Not picky in those regards

 

[Macgyvercas]

No, for two reasons:

1) Just knowing that I'm dating a transgender would freak me the hell out (nothing against them, if they want to have the surgury to change gender, more power to them, I just wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone who was born male)
2) I want my own kids someday, and that wouldn't be possible in this situation.

 

[8bitlove2a03]

I'm male and selected that I would date an MtF in the poll. For the record, that's only because you left out the "I would date anyone" option.

 

[DarthSka]

Nope. If someone wants to dress a certain way and express themselves in a way that does not conform to what is associated with their actual gender, more power to you. But if you've got a Y chromosome that is being expressed, you are a male and I want no involvement of that kind. We can still be friends though.

 

[Naleh]

There might be an issue with physical attraction, but emotionally it wouldn't bother me.

 

[Bomberman4000]

Because I have never met, encountered or had any extended interaction with a transgendered person, I feel comfortable saying that I would not. I'm sure they're good people, but ultimately I wouldn't be able to get past it.

What about children? Transgendered people may have the "appropriate parts" but they're not functional. A male becoming a woman can't have children and vice versa. I try not to get into any relationship without thinking about where it could end up. To me I wouldn't be able to do it.

 

[Naleh]

I respect the opinions of everyone on here, however I view this in the same light as Creationism. Please don't say it's "factual" that a person is "born in the wrong body". There is no science that proves the case for transgendered individuals claiming I'm a x in y body. None. No empirical facts, no note worthy studies, no hard, honest, scientific discourse. The same scientists who claim science backs this up are the same people who claimed 200 years ago that the world was flat, leeches cure diseases, dragons exist, and a 400 year old zombie Jewish male died on a cross for all man kind. I wonder what "science" will proclaim in the next century.

I have no, NO, problem with you chopping off body parts, adding new ones, changing you name from Susannah to Shaun, and taking hormone injections. I have no problem if you go out and sleep with anyone you want to, granted you do it safely. I have NO problem if you want a society that tolerates these types of choices. Get married, life together, sleep together, go nuts. But don't claim there is evidence to support x person was born in the wrong body. Because it's all about FEELING. And FEELINGS don't belong in science.

Psychology is a science. Neuroscience is a science. Brains are physically extant objects. We are learning to understand neural structure and development. We are learning to understand the role of chemicals in controlling emotions, especially with regards to drug and pharmaceutical use.

Feelings do, in fact, belong in science.

Sure, they're hard to analyse, but it's hard to analyse the seafloor beneath all that water, too. (We have better maps of the moon than the seafloor.) That doesn't stop it from being scientific. It just makes it more difficult and theoretical.

 

[airrazor7]

Pretty sad results on the poll, if not unexpected.

Come on now, (not trying to offend) you can't have it both ways. You can't say that transgender people should have the right to live and be as they please like anyone else only to later disagree with the choice of people who refuse to consider a relationship with a transgender person. They have a right to their choices as well.

Well, I'm technically a hermaphrodite and I was married to a MTF transgendered person, so, there you go.

If you truly 'love' someone, what they are isn't going to matter. I loved her before I knew what crockery was in her cupboards and when I did know I didn't care. Why would I? She was what she was and I loved her for the person she was, not the thing. She was a gamer, a geek, a fetishist and a dancing fool with a great sense of humor and some sense of social propriety. I fell in love with those things, not her genitals. It's always seemed so ridiculously shallow to me that anyone would care about something so trivial.

"was married..."

It seems like you were really in love with that person and the relationship that you two shared. It's a shame that your relationship is now in past tense. You've piqued my curiosity. If you don't mind sharing, how and why did it end?

 

[Bomberman4000]

So you wouldn't adopt? My folks adopted myself and my brother. Not because they were sterile, but because my father has a genetic disorder of some sort (never exactly figured it out- but all his siblings have it), and didn't want to pass it on to his children. Adoption is a great option.

I agree, adoption is a great option for a lot of various reasons. And I certainly do not want to sound like adopted children and parents don't love each other because I know that could not be farther from the truth.

However, I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I want to have children in the conventional sense. And before anyone brings it up, I know there are circumstances and situations where normal (I felt weird typing that, I really don't want to offend anyone) people can't have children but that percentage is far lower than the 100% of transgendered people who can't have children of their own.

I'm sure I could love an adopted child, but I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't feel a little incomplete without having fathered a child.

 

[aPod]

The Don Quixote in me says yes
The Sancho Panza in me says no

For those who haven't read that masterpiece do it; but i'll explain. Idealistically, yes I would. Realistically, no I wouldn't.

I could try and defend myself but I don't think I have too, just like I don't think transgenders need to defend themselves for being who they are.

 

[Womplord]

Most likely no and I voted no, but after thinking about it I think I would say yes. It isn't likely to happen because they usually aren't quite as feminine-looking as a girl, but I really could end up liking one. If that happened then there's no reason I would say no, it's not like I have anything against them. I wouldn't refuse to date them on principle.

 

[Bomberman4000]

i would say 100%

http://articles.nydailynews.com/2010-01-26/news/17943275_1_pregnant-man-paper-reports-scott-moore

While I take back the specifics of my "100%" statement, I still stand by my opinion of not being comfortable dating a transgendered person.

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

Yes or no? Just curious. Comment to explain your reasoning if you feel the need. It's a fairly gay friendly site, but even gay friendly communities do tend to be a transphobic.

For the purposes of the poll, you can assume said transgendered person is passable, and has all the appropriate parts (post-op).

Dating a transsexual?
Ok, ok, on a serious note,

Spoiler: my answer is........

 

[Mad World]

Ooooh. Ooooh. Ooooh. Can I try and be smart and witty here?

Sure - you can try.

People acquire a lot of knowledge on their own; it's a fairly natural occurrence. Your sex is different. People can undergo surgery, but you are what you are.

Let's be honest... we're gonna have to agree to disagree, aren't we?