Poll: Would you date a transgendered person?

[Bomberman4000]

So you wouldn't adopt? My folks adopted myself and my brother. Not because they were sterile, but because my father has a genetic disorder of some sort (never exactly figured it out- but all his siblings have it), and didn't want to pass it on to his children. Adoption is a great option.

I agree, adoption is a great option for a lot of various reasons. And I certainly do not want to sound like adopted children and parents don't love each other because I know that could not be farther from the truth.

However, I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in that I want to have children in the conventional sense. And before anyone brings it up, I know there are circumstances and situations where normal (I felt weird typing that, I really don't want to offend anyone) people can't have children but that percentage is far lower than the 100% of transgendered people who can't have children of their own.

I'm sure I could love an adopted child, but I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't feel a little incomplete without having fathered a child.

 

[aPod]

The Don Quixote in me says yes
The Sancho Panza in me says no

For those who haven't read that masterpiece do it; but i'll explain. Idealistically, yes I would. Realistically, no I wouldn't.

I could try and defend myself but I don't think I have too, just like I don't think transgenders need to defend themselves for being who they are.

 

[Womplord]

Most likely no and I voted no, but after thinking about it I think I would say yes. It isn't likely to happen because they usually aren't quite as feminine-looking as a girl, but I really could end up liking one. If that happened then there's no reason I would say no, it's not like I have anything against them. I wouldn't refuse to date them on principle.

 

[Bomberman4000]

i would say 100%

http://articles.nydailynews.com/2010-01-26/news/17943275_1_pregnant-man-paper-reports-scott-moore

While I take back the specifics of my "100%" statement, I still stand by my opinion of not being comfortable dating a transgendered person.

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

Yes or no? Just curious. Comment to explain your reasoning if you feel the need. It's a fairly gay friendly site, but even gay friendly communities do tend to be a transphobic.

For the purposes of the poll, you can assume said transgendered person is passable, and has all the appropriate parts (post-op).

Dating a transsexual?
Ok, ok, on a serious note,

Spoiler: my answer is........

 

[Mad World]

Ooooh. Ooooh. Ooooh. Can I try and be smart and witty here?

Sure - you can try.

People acquire a lot of knowledge on their own; it's a fairly natural occurrence. Your sex is different. People can undergo surgery, but you are what you are.

Let's be honest... we're gonna have to agree to disagree, aren't we?

 

[GraveeKing]

-insert refrence to snipping in this thread of all places... lolol-

The reason i said breathing was because many trans people (I personally know) would rather be dead than not "finish" their transition. I understand what you are saying though, and you put it in better terms.

Although I have to be a little more neutral on this... it's not so much a -need- as it is, they'd be very deppressed without it - I'm sure people have lived with it in the past and not got it done... Just depends on the will of the person and how srtong the need is for that individual. Still, some of the stronger willed ones can be... off-putting. I can see why not everybody feels comfortable dating them.

Oh and thanks for going to the trouble of hunting down my reply to be friendly!
I saw the reply to this and was actually quite worried on the reply - you've given me faith in humanity for a day! Fine job sir.

 

[BiscuitTrouser]

No. Im heterosexual. I think transgendered people do something like the operation to make themselves happy. And thats awesome. It really is. They can expect me to accept it. Its their right and their happyness and ill support them 100%. However i cannot ever view that person as their post op gender. Im happy they can feel happy in themselves. I think their rights should be the same rights as anyone else. I think persecution is unacceptable.

However i dont think you can change ones gender. I feel the same way as if i was born convinced i was a dolphin in a humans body, then had surgery to turn my arms into fins. I wouldnt be a dolphin. Id be happier but i wouldnt be a dolphin. The surgery is cosmetic. It changes nothing but looks. And while i appreciate and respect these people i wont view them as female. And as such ill be friends, best friends and bros but i dont think i can date them. I wouldnt feel comfortable.

You really need to make it less obvious that you are getting your opinions from South Park. There is a big difference between transgendered people and someone wanting to be a dolphin, as there actual physical brain tends to be the gender they say they are. You cant be born with a brain incompatible with your body, but you can't be born with a dolphin brain.

Still as far as the subject of dating goes, sexual attraction is physical, and the physical body can't achieve perfect gender transformation, not yet anyway. As long as there is social respect (i.e. proper pronouns and such) not being attracted to what could be considered a physical defect, isn't really an issue of tolerance. Sexual attraction is something you can't change after all. I know you understand that, just stop using the dolphin defense. It's a weak argument.

I knew someone would call me out for using an arguement from southpark. However when i read "woman trapped in a mans body" and suchlike it reminds me of furies who honestly want to be animals or feel like animals trapped in a humans body, sure its rare but it happens, and i feel if surgery were done to make them what they wished to be, (again this has happened: see snake man and catman) they wouldnt be that animal. Maybe they dont feel the same way transexuals do. Ill never fully understand because i cant be in their shoes. However i view them as similar. Were the surgery 100% perfect it wouldnt be cosmetic, it would reconstruct 100% the workings and biology (perhaps even the DNA) of that person and at that point i would accept them as female. But that day is a LONG way away. At the moment it just makes you LOOK female. Which is cool, it that rocks your boat power to you. But i cant find that sexually pleasing, i can only respect it, youve said this already in your posts so thank you for understanding this.

Proper pronouns i feel are a small thing to do to make someone happy, so even thought in my head my psycology will see them as male ill call them she or her because its how they want to be seen. And its just polite. Its the same way i dont really buy into the hundreds of sexuality labels, i respect pretty much anything you wanna do and the labels confuse me a little, i dont care what you call it do whatever you want! As such ill use any label im asked to use for a person even if they might not fall under my definition of it. Its hardly a chore. And who doesnt have the right to feel secure in their person?

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

I don't think I could ever look at them and REALLY see any post op as "their new gender". They will always be victims of a mental illness and medical misconduct to me. As such I will treat them with respect and I will be the first to support them in obtaining equal rights and good treatment, but they will never really be their new gender in my mind.

Mental illness,and medical misconduct?! are you serious?! Being trans is NOT a mental illness. When it was first classified, and identified it was because people were ignorant, and didn't understand it. Now, that MUCH more research has been done, it has been classified as a physical "illness" (for lack of a better word. As for medical misconduct... not sure how to take this, i mean so a person who has any sort of plastic surgery would be in the same category then. To me, at it's core, can be "cured" with GRS, sooo that doesn't seem like a mental illness.

and for the record, i would date a trans person, if they were a good person and we got along.

it is an illness, or a disorder/condition.

 

[alandavidson]

I don't know, probably not. But then again, I've never actually met a trans person, so I really don't know how it would play out.

 

[TehCookie]

Transgender, yes. Transsexual, hell no. If you want to act like the opposite gender I have no problem with it, just be yourself. I can like someone for that. Hacking up your bits into some fake mimicry of others is just messed up.

 

[Montezuma's Lawyer]

I am Transgender, I find it extremely offensive that I am found to be repugnant by those who would otherwise find me attractive, simply because I was born male. I understand some people are insecure with their sexuality, but that is no excuse to treat me like some sort of freak, just because you wanted to fuck someone that was once a man.

I am a woman, regardless of what you ignorant bastards tell yourselves.

 

[Ledan]

Nope. In my own opinion he would still be a guy, just a guy who has gone through body modification to make him look like a girl. Since I don't find guys sexually stimulating, I would never date one, even if they looked like a girl.
I wouldn't object to having a friend who is transgender, or object to one of my friends dating a transgender person. Whatever floats your own boat.

 

[Ledan]

I am Transgender, I find it extremely offensive that I am found to be repugnant by those who would otherwise find me attractive, simply because I was born male. I understand some people are insecure with their sexuality, but that is no excuse to treat me like some sort of freak, just because you wanted to fuck someone that was once a man.

I am a woman, regardless of what you ignorant bastards tell yourselves.

Woah! Turn down the hate.... We're allowed to have our own opinions just as much as you are.
In your opinion: you are now a woman (congrats on successfully doing something that makes you happy).
In our opinion: your are a man who looks like a woman.(unless im completely mistaken that you are mtf. If you are ftm then i apologize, but the point still stands).

You are not a freak, but people can choose whether or not to treat you as a woman or a guy. Just like I can modify my body to look like a vampire. You can choose to treat me like a vampire or a human.

 

[Montezuma's Lawyer]

I am Transgender, I find it extremely offensive that I am found to be repugnant by those who would otherwise find me attractive, simply because I was born male. I understand some people are insecure with their sexuality, but that is no excuse to treat me like some sort of freak, just because you wanted to fuck someone that was once a man.

I am a woman, regardless of what you ignorant bastards tell yourselves.

Woah! Turn down the hate.... We're allowed to have our own opinions just as much as you are.
In your opinion: you are now a woman (congrats on successfully doing something that makes you happy).
In our opinion: your are a man who looks like a woman.(unless im completely mistaken that you are mtf. If you are ftm then i apologize, but the point still stands).

You are not a freak, but people can choose whether or not to treat you as a woman or a guy. Just like I can modify my body to look like a vampire. You can choose to treat me like a vampire or a human.

I will still respond to your treatment of me as male, as if I were born female. I honestly dont give a fuck about your own gender bias, but I expect to be treated as a woman. I will treat you as a man, I expect the same respect.

 

[AlexNora]

you know I love online games its the only place where no one trust anyone's gender.

"Is that a girl" said the village idiot "the voice sounds like a girl to me" said apathetic person "no its probably just a twelve year old boy" said the village idiot "yes I'm a girl" said the girl (game ends) "you know that wasn't really a girl" said the village idiot "how do you know?" said apathetic person "because girls dont play halo" said the village idiot....

the girl playing halo probably gets her gender questioned if not strait out denied her every game she plays. yet she keeps playing and is still a girl (apathetic person "me" and girl "girl" became friends)

I feel like everyday I'm playing that game but Im still a girl and im still playing.

girls cant be born in a male body said the village idiot....

ow and i would date a transgender person duh

 

[Arkzism]

i would, but then agian im bi... so /shrug

 

[spartandude]

if i like them why would i care what gender/sex they are?