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Meglin

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"However, if you don't watch porn and your partner asked if you'd be up for watching it together, would you accept? i find that a more interesting question for the ladies." - captaincabbage.

That is good questions. depends on what kind it is. if its all about guys blowing on girls faces and stuff, gross, no. I dont know why guys like that.... *shudder* but if its more tasteful stuff, sure why not? if ur watching it together, then the whole 'leaving the other person out and making them feel awkward' thing doesnt apply.
 

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I believe that it is degrading for both parties involved and "glorifies" sex.

That said, I still watch it :/.

Yay for the anonymity of the internet!
Degrading I would say is situational. All depends on how it's done, much like any other form of entertainment, art, what ever.

As for glorification... sex is the sourece of all human life, if anything deserves to be glorified, this is it. =)
 

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Meglin said:
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Meglin said:
dex-dex said:
captaincabbage said:
A Woman!?? On Escapist!? I Nevar!!

lol I'm just kidding [and snip again!!]
yeah women on the escapist! that would never happen! because women don't play games and they just like making pot roasts if women were ever on this site, the world would EXPLODE!!!
i dont even know how to cook a pot roast lol. to be honest i dont know what a pot roast is... must be an american thing. I can cook a good australian roast though. and a mean curry.

ok im done degrading and stereotyping myself now.

Back to the topic... i would just like to point out that if ur single then u dont have anyone elses feelings to consider. But when ur in a relationship u do. Would it be really that bad if ur partner (guy or girl) asked u to stop watching porn they feel a little degraded or whatever by it, would it be such a big thing to give it up? yes, u may argue that that would be ur partner trying to "change you" but lack of porn is not changing who you are. i would feel that a person quitting smoking would be a bigger deal, yet people do that all the time for their partners.
I actually would consider asking a partner to give up porn to be slightly a big deal, atleast in this situation. You recognize the fact that you don't really enjoy sex so right there you and your partners sex drives are way out of sync. On top of that asking your partner to give up there other release just seems unfair.
hmm, that is true, ill give you that. but on the same note, i dont think people will go anywhere else to find the same emotional replacments? coz if that happened, in most cases that would be cheating. if im wrong please feel free to correct me. im not against people disagreeing with me at all
Sorry can you rephrase that? I don't understand what you mean. Also you should know i'm not trying to fight you or anything I do agree with you on the fact that people shouldnt try to take what they see in porn and apply it to the bedroom unless both people agree and like that sort of thing.
 

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I am completely apathetic towards it. I do not require it, and it can go on doing whatever it wants.

Sounds a lot like many things in life...;p
 

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Yes, I have nothing against porn, and I watch porn, too.

I still realize the HUGE difference between sex in real life and sex in movies.

In reality, it's about what FEELS good, not what LOOKS good.

Of course, sometimes the two are almost the same, and to be honest, sometimes do you get inspired to mix things up or do something special..
 

Meglin

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What i meant is this: if a guy/girl doesnt get enough sex, he/she goes to porn. that seems to be ok. but if a girl/guy doesnt get enough emotional support, where are they supposed to go? i guess the easy answer would be to dump them lol. but then again, if u dumped someone for not giving u enough sex, they would seem a bit like an arse hole. but what i was generally going for is that some people feel they are able to talk to other people more than their partner about emotional stuff, but then their partner gets crabby with them coz they did that. but people cant get upset if their partner watches porn.

Yeah, i know, im not making much sense haha.
 

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Meglin said:
What i meant is this: if a guy/girl doesnt get enough sex, he/she goes to porn. that seems to be ok. but if a girl/guy doesnt get enough emotional support, where are they supposed to go? i guess the easy answer would be to dump them lol. but then again, if u dumped someone for not giving u enough sex, they would seem a bit like an arse hole. but what i was generally going for is that some people feel they are able to talk to other people more than their partner about emotional stuff, but then their partner gets crabby with them coz they did that. but people cant get upset if their partner watches porn.

Yeah, i know, im not making much sense haha.
Well ya I think that's because porn isn't another person. If there was some program you could watch to get emotional support then I don't think anyone would have a problem with that. (There was an episode of 30 Rock where they had this and they marketed it as porn for women, funny stuff)

Well like I said I don't think its fair to get upset with a partner who watches porn just because you don't like it. That would be like me trying to get my girlfriend to quit watching musicals.
 

Meglin

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Lol yeah but i bet she doesnt expect u to randomly burst into song (haha i just saw that in my head... funny stuff). And ive seen that 30 rock episode. It was pretty funny too.

I completely get what your saying. I really do. but where is the line drawn? if ur partner smokes, but not around u or in the house or anything, how can u ask them to give it up? isnt it the same as ur partner watching porn whenever ur not around?
 

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I don't really see any problem with porn, its just some more extreme types shouldn't be widely availble to the public.
 

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Lol yeah but i bet she doesnt expect u to randomly burst into song (haha i just saw that in my head... funny stuff). And ive seen that 30 rock episode. It was pretty funny too.

I completely get what your saying. I really do. but where is the line drawn? if ur partner smokes, but not around u or in the house or anything, how can u ask them to give it up? isnt it the same as ur partner watching porn whenever ur not around?
Well with the smoking thing you could make the argument that hey smoking can kill you. With porn its a masturbation aid and to my knowledge i don't think wanking it can kill you.

Now obviously I'm talking about regular porn watching and not any kind of porn addiction but still I just don't see the harm in watching porn especially if your not around.
 

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IzisviAziria said:
Ahh, that was when women still had bush too.

Interesting side-note, what's our preference here? Bush, trimmed, or bald?

Would make a decent poll, but I'm sure it's been done before.
Well, I enjoy "going south" (If you get my meaning...), so for me, it's bald would be best, but trimmed is equally acceptable (Yes, I'm talking about both my fiancée and myself).

As far as the porn topic goes, while personally the last time I did was before my partner moved over to the UK with me, mainly out of boredom, mainly out of the need to prevent prostate cancer (yeah, I'm going to stick with the medical line, so sue me :p). Since her move over here? Not at all. I deleted the entire folder in front of her.

I guess for some, it's escapism, for others it's a necessity.. Personally, it's so detracted from real life sex in just about all possible situations, with worldwide culture becoming one of the need for instant gratification, then all media has followed suit, including porn.

As someone rightly put it, there's very little character establishment, and more deliverance of penis into vagina, as people in general would accept character establishment and development in their porn, almost as much as they would accept a 5-way gangbang on stage during Hamlet (Although, it'd probably boost ticket sales for the theatre significantly).
 

Meglin

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Just to add a small note about why some people dont like their partners watching porn: they are getting off to someone else other than you. they are watching another girl fuck (i cant put it any other way, there is no other term for it), and i know guys dont watch it to look at the other guys. they are watching it to see things get done to other girls. girls that are not you. if i made a porno (not that i ever will) and my partner was only watching that, i would have no problem what so ever with that. its worse than them perving on other girls in front of you. its almost like they see a hot girl at the shops with you there and start making comments on how good she looks and how her boob are huge and how they would love to grope boobs like that. or ur girlfriend going on about how this guys penis looks huge in those pants he is wearing. same type of thing.

yes i know that wasnt a small note.
 

GeneralGrant

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I watch porn on a near daily basis. I don't see a problem with it at all, it serves a purpose and can be a great stress relief.
 

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What baffles me about porn is that often the most popular porn stars are the most hideously deformed.

Like how can anyone look at Jesse Jane and think she's remotely attractive? Her face is busted, her body is artificial and very badly constructed, and she's annoying as hell. And yet all I ever see is people going on and on about how great she is. She's the very embodiment of the word "skank", and that just doesn't interest me in porn.
 

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It's usually fine, it's a (fairly) healthy outlet. I mean, it CAN become addicting to certain individuals, however for 90% of those who watch it, it's just a release, plain and simple.
 

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Porn isn't the problem, its peoples attitude about sex in general. I look at it this way, we're all naked under our clothes & we all enjoy sex, so stop over thinking about petty stuff like this. The world is to fouled up with other problems to be concerned about porn. I've watched it & i will watch it again, some of the fetishes are a bit odd, but who am i to judge. If its not hurting anyone then don't bother thinking about it. Spend your time trying to improve life & don't worry about the stupid stuff, if watching porn makes you happy then watch away, if you don't like it then don't watch it....