Pornography

[clipse15]

Lol yeah but i bet she doesnt expect u to randomly burst into song (haha i just saw that in my head... funny stuff). And ive seen that 30 rock episode. It was pretty funny too.

I completely get what your saying. I really do. but where is the line drawn? if ur partner smokes, but not around u or in the house or anything, how can u ask them to give it up? isnt it the same as ur partner watching porn whenever ur not around?

Well with the smoking thing you could make the argument that hey smoking can kill you. With porn its a masturbation aid and to my knowledge i don't think wanking it can kill you.

Now obviously I'm talking about regular porn watching and not any kind of porn addiction but still I just don't see the harm in watching porn especially if your not around.

 

[Memoriae]

Ahh, that was when women still had bush too.

Interesting side-note, what's our preference here? Bush, trimmed, or bald?

Would make a decent poll, but I'm sure it's been done before.

Well, I enjoy "going south" (If you get my meaning...), so for me, it's bald would be best, but trimmed is equally acceptable (Yes, I'm talking about both my fiancée and myself).

As far as the porn topic goes, while personally the last time I did was before my partner moved over to the UK with me, mainly out of boredom, mainly out of the need to prevent prostate cancer (yeah, I'm going to stick with the medical line, so sue me ). Since her move over here? Not at all. I deleted the entire folder in front of her.

I guess for some, it's escapism, for others it's a necessity.. Personally, it's so detracted from real life sex in just about all possible situations, with worldwide culture becoming one of the need for instant gratification, then all media has followed suit, including porn.

As someone rightly put it, there's very little character establishment, and more deliverance of penis into vagina, as people in general would accept character establishment and development in their porn, almost as much as they would accept a 5-way gangbang on stage during Hamlet (Although, it'd probably boost ticket sales for the theatre significantly).

 

[tha lime]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JpdCJKPHzh8

 

[Meglin]

Just to add a small note about why some people dont like their partners watching porn: they are getting off to someone else other than you. they are watching another girl fuck (i cant put it any other way, there is no other term for it), and i know guys dont watch it to look at the other guys. they are watching it to see things get done to other girls. girls that are not you. if i made a porno (not that i ever will) and my partner was only watching that, i would have no problem what so ever with that. its worse than them perving on other girls in front of you. its almost like they see a hot girl at the shops with you there and start making comments on how good she looks and how her boob are huge and how they would love to grope boobs like that. or ur girlfriend going on about how this guys penis looks huge in those pants he is wearing. same type of thing.

yes i know that wasnt a small note.

 

[GeneralGrant]

I watch porn on a near daily basis. I don't see a problem with it at all, it serves a purpose and can be a great stress relief.

 

[rockyoumonkeys]

What baffles me about porn is that often the most popular porn stars are the most hideously deformed.

Like how can anyone look at Jesse Jane and think she's remotely attractive? Her face is busted, her body is artificial and very badly constructed, and she's annoying as hell. And yet all I ever see is people going on and on about how great she is. She's the very embodiment of the word "skank", and that just doesn't interest me in porn.

 

[ajofflight]

It's usually fine, it's a (fairly) healthy outlet. I mean, it CAN become addicting to certain individuals, however for 90% of those who watch it, it's just a release, plain and simple.

 

[Mr Fixit]

Porn isn't the problem, its peoples attitude about sex in general. I look at it this way, we're all naked under our clothes & we all enjoy sex, so stop over thinking about petty stuff like this. The world is to fouled up with other problems to be concerned about porn. I've watched it & i will watch it again, some of the fetishes are a bit odd, but who am i to judge. If its not hurting anyone then don't bother thinking about it. Spend your time trying to improve life & don't worry about the stupid stuff, if watching porn makes you happy then watch away, if you don't like it then don't watch it....

 

[clipse15]

Just to add a small note about why some people dont like their partners watching porn: they are getting off to someone else other than you. they are watching another girl fuck (i cant put it any other way, there is no other term for it), and i know guys dont watch it to look at the other guys. they are watching it to see things get done to other girls. girls that are not you. if i made a porno (not that i ever will) and my partner was only watching that, i would have no problem what so ever with that. its worse than them perving on other girls in front of you. its almost like they see a hot girl at the shops with you there and start making comments on how good she looks and how her boob are huge and how they would love to grope boobs like that. or ur girlfriend going on about how this guys penis looks huge in those pants he is wearing. same type of thing.

yes i know that wasnt a small note.

Ya then I guess that's just something I can't really sympathize with. Both me and my partner both watch and like porn and both me and her talk about other people we think are hot. (She has this weird facisination with wanting to fuck Bruce Willis).

I mean you do acknowledge that while in a relationship it is completely normal to still find other people attractive right? That sense of attraction doesn't shut off once your with someone. Whats important is the difference between something like watching porn and fucking someone else.

 

[Gordon_4_v1legacy]

Porn is best as a regulated, taxed and policed industry: same as prostitution. Keep it safe, clean and legal and the abuses become minimized.

That said, after you've actually had sex, porn becomes (pardon the pun) fucking hilarious.

 

[Meglin]

I understand. But u both like porn. ur both fine with it. but what im asking is what happens if one person isnt? is it wrong to ask their partner to stop watching it, or at least cut down, when its making them feel like they arent enough, that their partner has to watch porn? would that be such a bad thing, would it end a relationship?

i guess that end question is: how important is porn to you?

 

[Aisaku]

I think people who think porn is that big of a deal are teeenagers... or legal guardians of teenagers.

In my line of work (illustration) I end up neeeding to accumulate a lot of pictures for reference and study and pornographic photos are often the most practical resource.

Everybody has their own take on what they like and dislike about Porn, and it's telling. Myself, I'm okay with nudity, and with sex in photos and pictures, and yet in general pornographic videos tend to make me queasy. *shrugs*

And let's not forget...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-TA57L0kuc

 

[snide_cake]

I enjoy the occasional redtube or spankwire vid

Cool, I was getting a bit bored of redtube.

OT: I watch porn occassionally. I think it's fine in moderation. There's of course issues with portrayal of people but if you're bothered by particular things or situations then there's an easy way to avoid it - just don't watch that.

In a relationship it really does depend. I mean, I'm imaginative, so I use it to watch and be inspired, and then finish the job thinking about the person who holds my actual interest and heart. Porn is more for inspiration for me, and if you have an open partner then it's great to watch porn with them to get ideas.

I think it's healthy for each person to encourage the other to maintain an appreciation of other people. If you get jealous just because your partner is checking out someone else (especially an actor/character) then you have a few issues you need to sort out. Don't be so insecure - you're the person they are actually with, not this unattainable idol.

 

[Meglin]

just on a side note, is that woman controlling the puppet in the youtube 'porn is great' clip the same woman who was in the 'my musical' episode of scrubs? it looks like her

 

[clipse15]

I understand. But u both like porn. ur both fine with it. but what im asking is what happens if one person isnt? is it wrong to ask their partner to stop watching it, or at least cut down, when its making them feel like they arent enough, that their partner has to watch porn? would that be such a bad thing, would it end a relationship?

i guess that end question is: how important is porn to you?

Well I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship but in a relationship there should always be comprimse.

I don't think the question is how important is porn but i think it is how important is sexual activity. You said you don't enjoy sex so his comprimise for that is to balance that out with porn. I'm sure if he was having more sex then porn wouldnt be such a huge factor.

NOTE: The above statement is made using a lot of assumptions. For reference do you mind if I ask how old the both of you are?

 

[Zhukov]

I have no real problem with it.

Although I sometimes feel concern or pity for the people involved.

 

[Meglin]

I enjoy the occasional redtube or spankwire vid

Cool, I was getting a bit bored of redtube.

OT: I watch porn occassionally. I think it's fine in moderation. There's of course issues with portrayal of people but if you're bothered by particular things or situations then there's an easy way to avoid it - just don't watch that.

In a relationship it really does depend. I mean, I'm imaginative, so I use it to watch and be inspired, and then finish the job thinking about the person who holds my actual interest and heart. Porn is more for inspiration for me, and if you have an open partner then it's great to watch porn with them to get ideas.

I think it's healthy for each person to encourage the other to maintain an appreciation of other people. If you get jealous just because your partner is checking out someone else (especially an actor/character) then you have a few issues you need to sort out. Don't be so insecure - you're the person they are actually with, not this unattainable idol.

This is true also. and there is hardly anything that good communication wont fix.

After all this discussion i think i have come to learn something: if ur partner does not watch because he/she feels like ur not enough, then that should be good enough. if they are getting themselves off anyway and porn helps, then whats the big deal?

Everyone has their own oppinion, and thats what makes this world great.

 

[sageoftruth]

I find it funny how many straight/bi women only enjoy girl-on-girl porn.

Can't say that I'm surprised. Us guys are quite repulsive.

 

[sageoftruth]

Usually I'm playing video games and then the fanservice steers me to straight porn. Then after some searching, I don't like any of the ideas, so I write my own porn (Don't worry, I don't post them online). Then, I get bored and play video games and the cycle repeats.

 

[Meglin]

We are both in our early 20s. i didnt say i dont enjoy it, but jumping him isnt the first thing i think of when i see him lol thats all i meant. its an emotional connection, not something i have to have or ill die. I enjoy it, but i dont need it.