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clipse15

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Meglin said:
Just to add a small note about why some people dont like their partners watching porn: they are getting off to someone else other than you. they are watching another girl fuck (i cant put it any other way, there is no other term for it), and i know guys dont watch it to look at the other guys. they are watching it to see things get done to other girls. girls that are not you. if i made a porno (not that i ever will) and my partner was only watching that, i would have no problem what so ever with that. its worse than them perving on other girls in front of you. its almost like they see a hot girl at the shops with you there and start making comments on how good she looks and how her boob are huge and how they would love to grope boobs like that. or ur girlfriend going on about how this guys penis looks huge in those pants he is wearing. same type of thing.

yes i know that wasnt a small note.
Ya then I guess that's just something I can't really sympathize with. Both me and my partner both watch and like porn and both me and her talk about other people we think are hot. (She has this weird facisination with wanting to fuck Bruce Willis).

I mean you do acknowledge that while in a relationship it is completely normal to still find other people attractive right? That sense of attraction doesn't shut off once your with someone. Whats important is the difference between something like watching porn and fucking someone else.
 

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Porn is best as a regulated, taxed and policed industry: same as prostitution. Keep it safe, clean and legal and the abuses become minimized.

That said, after you've actually had sex, porn becomes (pardon the pun) fucking hilarious.
 

Meglin

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I understand. But u both like porn. ur both fine with it. but what im asking is what happens if one person isnt? is it wrong to ask their partner to stop watching it, or at least cut down, when its making them feel like they arent enough, that their partner has to watch porn? would that be such a bad thing, would it end a relationship?

i guess that end question is: how important is porn to you?
 

Aisaku

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I think people who think porn is that big of a deal are teeenagers... or legal guardians of teenagers.

In my line of work (illustration) I end up neeeding to accumulate a lot of pictures for reference and study and pornographic photos are often the most practical resource.

Everybody has their own take on what they like and dislike about Porn, and it's telling. Myself, I'm okay with nudity, and with sex in photos and pictures, and yet in general pornographic videos tend to make me queasy. *shrugs*

And let's not forget...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-TA57L0kuc
 

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Angryman101 said:
I enjoy the occasional redtube or spankwire vid
Cool, I was getting a bit bored of redtube.

OT: I watch porn occassionally. I think it's fine in moderation. There's of course issues with portrayal of people but if you're bothered by particular things or situations then there's an easy way to avoid it - just don't watch that.

In a relationship it really does depend. I mean, I'm imaginative, so I use it to watch and be inspired, and then finish the job thinking about the person who holds my actual interest and heart. Porn is more for inspiration for me, and if you have an open partner then it's great to watch porn with them to get ideas.

I think it's healthy for each person to encourage the other to maintain an appreciation of other people. If you get jealous just because your partner is checking out someone else (especially an actor/character) then you have a few issues you need to sort out. Don't be so insecure - you're the person they are actually with, not this unattainable idol.
 

Meglin

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just on a side note, is that woman controlling the puppet in the youtube 'porn is great' clip the same woman who was in the 'my musical' episode of scrubs? it looks like her
 

clipse15

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Meglin said:
I understand. But u both like porn. ur both fine with it. but what im asking is what happens if one person isnt? is it wrong to ask their partner to stop watching it, or at least cut down, when its making them feel like they arent enough, that their partner has to watch porn? would that be such a bad thing, would it end a relationship?

i guess that end question is: how important is porn to you?
Well I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship but in a relationship there should always be comprimse.

I don't think the question is how important is porn but i think it is how important is sexual activity. You said you don't enjoy sex so his comprimise for that is to balance that out with porn. I'm sure if he was having more sex then porn wouldnt be such a huge factor.

NOTE: The above statement is made using a lot of assumptions. For reference do you mind if I ask how old the both of you are?
 

Zhukov

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I have no real problem with it.

Although I sometimes feel concern or pity for the people involved.
 

Meglin

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snide_cake said:
Angryman101 said:
I enjoy the occasional redtube or spankwire vid
Cool, I was getting a bit bored of redtube.

OT: I watch porn occassionally. I think it's fine in moderation. There's of course issues with portrayal of people but if you're bothered by particular things or situations then there's an easy way to avoid it - just don't watch that.

In a relationship it really does depend. I mean, I'm imaginative, so I use it to watch and be inspired, and then finish the job thinking about the person who holds my actual interest and heart. Porn is more for inspiration for me, and if you have an open partner then it's great to watch porn with them to get ideas.

I think it's healthy for each person to encourage the other to maintain an appreciation of other people. If you get jealous just because your partner is checking out someone else (especially an actor/character) then you have a few issues you need to sort out. Don't be so insecure - you're the person they are actually with, not this unattainable idol.
This is true also. and there is hardly anything that good communication wont fix.

After all this discussion i think i have come to learn something: if ur partner does not watch because he/she feels like ur not enough, then that should be good enough. if they are getting themselves off anyway and porn helps, then whats the big deal?

Everyone has their own oppinion, and thats what makes this world great.
 

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Usually I'm playing video games and then the fanservice steers me to straight porn. Then after some searching, I don't like any of the ideas, so I write my own porn (Don't worry, I don't post them online). Then, I get bored and play video games and the cycle repeats.
 

Meglin

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We are both in our early 20s. i didnt say i dont enjoy it, but jumping him isnt the first thing i think of when i see him lol thats all i meant. its an emotional connection, not something i have to have or ill die. I enjoy it, but i dont need it.
 

minus_273c

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I have no problem with almost any pornography, providing -

1. No participant suffers any permanent damage/wound.
2. All participants give informed consent beforehand.

This rules out stuff I consider morally reprehensible. I consider the age you can give informed consent to be 18, which stops child pornography.

I also consider that both must be met, but #1 has a higher priority than #2 - even if you consent to have a toe cut off (i.e. #2 is passed) #1 will stop it.

I would also point out that this still permits a lot of pornography I find just disgusting (two young ladies and a receptacle comes to mind) or of no interest (MM).
 

Meglin

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also, i know this is slightly off topic and that i will have to check the answer in the morning coz im so tired that the screen in blurry, but i have to ask (all girls wonder this by the way): i know a lot of girls who have dumped their boyfriends coz whenever they said no, they got pissed off with them. do guys really need it that much, or did they have some self control issues?