Jarimir said:
Well, you might as well keep that up for as long as you can. Because if you change your mind all you will ever be is some lonely old man trying to get some, having missed out on the chance of being a young, attractive, virile man trying to enjoy one of the better things that life has to offer.
That's exactly what I'm sick and tired of: everybody assuming that they know me better than I know myself.
Jarimir said:
I have taken a vow of unchastity, guided by 2 philosophies. There is no such thing as right or wrong as long as no one gets hurt and to truely succeed in life is to experience it from all possible perspectives. Neither one are achievable in a practical sense, at least not very likely, but the priciple is to open yourself up to enjoy as many new experiences as possible while trying not to cause any undue suffering to those around you. As long as you are enjoying things and not being selfish, a prick, or downright cruel, I dont see the need to limit yourself from enjoying what life has to offer.
Out of curiousity, do you think you are going to get any extra credit in this life or the next for your choice? Because at 20 you do still have a chance to change your mind and really enjoy things. Some women are actually turned on by (young) virgins.
"Vow of unchastity." Heh, that's a new one. I'm afraid you are incorrect in your assumption that my vow of chastity is based in morality or religion. I am an atheist, and believe that it is a weakness of character to make decisions based on anything but logic. There are tremendous risks associated with procreation, chief among them one's choice of partner. I cannot expect to find a woman who agrees with me completely or submits wholly to my will, and as such any relationship will entail compromise. I absolutely refuse to compromise my own nature. Without a relationship, I am free to be myself.
Another problem that prevents me from pursuing a relationship is that I refuse to serve anything other than my own self interests. I have heard it said that being in a relationship requires the ability to put others ahead of yourself, and I believe that to do so is folly. I am the most important person to myself, and I intend to keep it that way.
There is also the problem of starting a family, which is the logical conclusion of a successful relationship. I don't intend to do that either. As a woman cannot be controlled, in all likelihood she will abandon me and use the repulsive system of divorce to take half of everything I own. I can excercise a greater degree of control over my children, but there is still a chance that they may grow up to betray me, and be disgraces to my name. Keeping the children under control would be even harder when having to compromise my ideas of child raising with a woman.
With all these dangers compounded together, I see relationships as an unacceptably risky venture. I will never have sex, either. Sex carries plenty of risks on its own (STD's, accidental pregnancy, and so forth), and the legal variety is usually acquired through a relationship. I am capable of relieving my sexual tensions without the aid of another person, so I see no need for intercourse. On the whole, relationships and sexual intercourse are a completely unecessary evil, hence my vow of chastity.
Yeah, I suppose there is the knowledge that there's less repurcussions from approaching strangers (within context of course), there's still the nerves but maybe that's just a sign I need to drink/go out more. But yeah, it's the timing with people you see on a regular basis (I'm currently at Uni) that kind of phases me. With that I generally prefer to get to know someone a little first before diving in with the question, but I never know when's the right time, or if I'm reading there signals right. Maybe I just need to take more chances...
