I just want to say that I think the tomb raider issue is a tricky one that has been clarified by this article. I can't imagine how hard it was to write this, and I commend the author.
The way I see it, both arguments have merit. On one hand, They are trying to humanize a character who, before now, has been a sexualized cardboard cut out in terms of depth. This may not be the most elegant way to go about it, but I think they are going somewhat in the right direction, if they are careful about it. one way to humanize a character is to put them into human situations. If the scene shows how terrible the act is, it may re-sensitize people to it, make them understand what they couldn't without using the unique medium of games.
on the other hand, the automatic hardship for women should most certainly not be rape, especially considering that I'll bet that there are not any people making this game that can understand the experience. I'm glad that is the case, of course. I don't want anyone to go through what the author has described. But that also means they have no right to portray it. I read an article earlier that says writers should make a character, flesh them out, and give them personality, then make them female. because rape is not gender neutral, rape is not something that should be a challenge to get over, and it is not something that can be taken lightly.
I think the part of this article that hit me close to home was this "Imagine if someone captured your flag or dominated you in deathmatch, then rubbed in your face how your sister was killed by a drunk driver or your dad abandoned you when you were little. That's how close it cuts."
My cousin was killed in a car crash with an ambulance a few years ago. every time my aunt or uncle hears a siren, they begin shaking. I still get a pit in my stomach and a slight sick feeling every time I'm reminded about it.
I have used the term in online gaming. this has made me understand how that feels. I will never do so again. thank you author for making this clear to me. thank you for putting your vulnerability for the world to see. thank you, and I'm sorry.