Why bother making 'friends'?
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Yeah, why connect with someone just for a few months or years of happiness. Hell, why do we eat? It just goes a few hours and all the work making the food is useless and we get hungry again.
I don't make friends however. I have friends, but I don't know why. My oldest friend and I have been friends for about 18 years so it can actually last longer than a few years.
I don't make friends however. I have friends, but I don't know why. My oldest friend and I have been friends for about 18 years so it can actually last longer than a few years.
*reads the OP, bursts out laughing* Aw man, that was good one! xD
But seriously, just because something is temporary doesn't mean you shouldn't have it, friends included. Some friendships don't last forever but it's not about how long it last, it's about the fun you and your friend(s) had during the time you had together. And not all friendships are temporary - my father still hangs out with his friends from high school (and he's 60-years-old-ish).
But seriously, just because something is temporary doesn't mean you shouldn't have it, friends included. Some friendships don't last forever but it's not about how long it last, it's about the fun you and your friend(s) had during the time you had together. And not all friendships are temporary - my father still hangs out with his friends from high school (and he's 60-years-old-ish).
It's probably because you're not exactly a great person to be around. At least thats the impression *I'm* getting.Mikodite said:
Also, I'm about 90% sure you're about 15 or 16 right? Yeah you'll grow up eventually.
Thank you, Buddha.EcoEclipse said:
He's right. All things will eventually disappear and your attachment to them is what will bring you sorrow. Enjoy your friends now without clinging to them or needing them; simply enjoy them for as long as you have them and then don't mourn when they're gone. You'd be surprised how free and joyful a relationship based on compassion instead of clinging can be.
When all's said and done, all people are just stupid useless fleshbags, including you, so why not find some other useless fleshbags that are the same kind of stupid as you and have some fun, after all ain't nothing to life but the constant flow of time till ya die, fit as much enjoyment as you can in while you still have most of your bodily functions under non medically supervised control, after all the longer you live the more of your bits don't work right, thus the harder it is to have fun.
yeah, i had a best friend through kindergarten, first grade, and second grade. the good times we shared were innumerable, yet after that year he changed schools, and i rarely if ever saw or heard from him (the fact he never answered his phone for the first 3 years after he transferred did not help). and now that i realize i can use facebook to keep in touch with people (i use it for planning events and other contact information usually), he really doesn't care about me anymore, nor i him, and i'm fine with that.Trippy Turtle said:
they say true friendship is a kind of love, and the only true downside to love is eventually, it ends. yet does this deter the vast majority of people? hell no. why bother do anything if all you care about is what happens when it ends?
so yeah, long story short, during the time you have friends, it makes life just that much more worth living.
Probably a high schooler going through one of those phases.Anoni Mus said:
But just to humor myself; friends are made to make life experiences better and more bearable. Yeah sure, there are break-ups, but it's better to have the experience than to never have it at all. Also...
Well, never-fucking-mind. Somebody already said it better than me.2xDouble said:
Of course not.Pandaman1911 said:
If someone is so destined to make himself miserable, you have free range to take joy in his downward spiral.
OT: Well, Because of fun. Fun feels something like this...
Because F is for friends who do stuff together
U is for you and me!
N is for anywhere and anytime at all!!
Here in the Deep Blue Sea!
Because...it is not linear-(DS 9)
I took me until 23 to make some good friends but whatever happens I love my friends.
And if the above quote taught me anything, it taught me that life is as linear or as corporal as you make it. The rest is just incidental.
I took me until 23 to make some good friends but whatever happens I love my friends.
And if the above quote taught me anything, it taught me that life is as linear or as corporal as you make it. The rest is just incidental.
Yeah, your opening post sounds completely emo. Sorry, bud, but it's the truth. Although I'm sure you don't mind me saying that.
It just seems like you're going through that phase. Most of us go through the same thing. It will pass. And if it doesn't (Or you're...older than you seem), here's something else, then.
I get what you're saying. I suppose I'm a bit of a misanthrope myself (Not saying you are...directly). I've made tons of 'friends' at school, work, randomly, and so on and none of them proved to be what I was looking for. I wanted what others had: A loyal, true friend who accepted me for who I was and could put up with me no matter what, i.e, if I'm in a bad mood and I tell my friend to fuck off, he's not gonna be offended forever, but he'll understand. Something like what you see on TV. And I never found said people. Most people were too different or wanted something out of me that I just didn't want to give because it didn't feel natural. So I withdrew myself.
And hey, I'm happy by myself. But eventually, I found a couple of people who were nice to me and seemed to like me for who I was, god knows why. So out of all the people I've met in my entire life, I can honestly say I have like less than 5 people I consider good friends. Not awesome, not best, but good friends. Friends I hang out with every now and then and it's fun and then it ends. That's all I need.
Yeah, eventually, we'll all move out and we might stop talking to each other but hey, we had a good run. Like someone said, everything is temporary. Video games make you happy only for a while. Food too. Music, TV, other activities, even this thread might only give you guidance for a while. So if you stop and analyze everything like this, guess what? You're gonna be so miserable. If that's what you're into, go for it. If not, then, and I say this in a respectful way, suck it up and move on.
Almost all of us here have gone through the pain of losing someone for whatever reason; friend, family, possessions, whatever. It hurts, yes. But we're all here. We're stronger now than yesterday. And hey, if you think you don't fit in with anyone else, well, that's okay, I guess. Don't force it. Maybe you'll find a good friend someday or maybe not. You just gotta be comfortable with that idea.
It appears to me you're just afraid of getting hurt again and boy, I cannot begin to tell you how many people go through that everyday. But...sorry, buddy, pain is a part of life. You can either learn to suck it up and carry on with life following your own rules whatever they may be or you can just sit and cry about how lame life is. Your choice.
And believe me, feeling some sort of pain is better than feeling nothing at all. Come on, it's been sung by almost everyone now. This is knowledge that you learn when you go through the emo phase. You should know this.
It just seems like you're going through that phase. Most of us go through the same thing. It will pass. And if it doesn't (Or you're...older than you seem), here's something else, then.
I get what you're saying. I suppose I'm a bit of a misanthrope myself (Not saying you are...directly). I've made tons of 'friends' at school, work, randomly, and so on and none of them proved to be what I was looking for. I wanted what others had: A loyal, true friend who accepted me for who I was and could put up with me no matter what, i.e, if I'm in a bad mood and I tell my friend to fuck off, he's not gonna be offended forever, but he'll understand. Something like what you see on TV. And I never found said people. Most people were too different or wanted something out of me that I just didn't want to give because it didn't feel natural. So I withdrew myself.
And hey, I'm happy by myself. But eventually, I found a couple of people who were nice to me and seemed to like me for who I was, god knows why. So out of all the people I've met in my entire life, I can honestly say I have like less than 5 people I consider good friends. Not awesome, not best, but good friends. Friends I hang out with every now and then and it's fun and then it ends. That's all I need.
Yeah, eventually, we'll all move out and we might stop talking to each other but hey, we had a good run. Like someone said, everything is temporary. Video games make you happy only for a while. Food too. Music, TV, other activities, even this thread might only give you guidance for a while. So if you stop and analyze everything like this, guess what? You're gonna be so miserable. If that's what you're into, go for it. If not, then, and I say this in a respectful way, suck it up and move on.
Almost all of us here have gone through the pain of losing someone for whatever reason; friend, family, possessions, whatever. It hurts, yes. But we're all here. We're stronger now than yesterday. And hey, if you think you don't fit in with anyone else, well, that's okay, I guess. Don't force it. Maybe you'll find a good friend someday or maybe not. You just gotta be comfortable with that idea.
It appears to me you're just afraid of getting hurt again and boy, I cannot begin to tell you how many people go through that everyday. But...sorry, buddy, pain is a part of life. You can either learn to suck it up and carry on with life following your own rules whatever they may be or you can just sit and cry about how lame life is. Your choice.
And believe me, feeling some sort of pain is better than feeling nothing at all. Come on, it's been sung by almost everyone now. This is knowledge that you learn when you go through the emo phase. You should know this.
