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OT: I'm single at the moment which is my preference as at worst I consider myself selfish and immature and I like spending my money on what I want and if I do or don't wanna do something, I don't need to ask for permission from a significant other. I'm introverted too so I love my me time and I'm not really touchy-feely so the whole "snuggling" concept just completely slips me by - which apparently turns guys off because they just can't keep their hands to themselves? Do we NEED to hug or make out while watching a movie? That's my favourite part! D:
I'm asexual and aromantic anyhow so I really don't GET anything out of relationships. When I was in middle/high school I acted as sort of a "trainer" for guys who've never had a girlfriend before... so I had a handful of "newbies" in school but none of them went anywhere and I questioned myself for being that first "step" to these guys' dating histories. But then I realized that it's school and dating is a waste of time and money (and emotional energy, I mean JFC ain't nobody got time for that shit)
Sex in general disgusts me but I figured that was a normal thing. Also I'm probably gonna be called something but it's not that I'm single by force; I have a lot of guys wanting to hang out or do something sometime but I don't want to waste their time and money if I know that it's gonna be a one-time thing. So no, I'm not lonely or "hating being single" or some such emo nonsense. I'm in control of MY relationships and no one can tell me otherwise when I'm content where I am.
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Okay, if you REALLY want to pin something to it, it's probably because I have deep-seated commitment issues after watching my childhood relationships... fall apart xD But again, I'M not blaming anyone else.
OT: I'm single at the moment which is my preference as at worst I consider myself selfish and immature and I like spending my money on what I want and if I do or don't wanna do something, I don't need to ask for permission from a significant other. I'm introverted too so I love my me time and I'm not really touchy-feely so the whole "snuggling" concept just completely slips me by - which apparently turns guys off because they just can't keep their hands to themselves? Do we NEED to hug or make out while watching a movie? That's my favourite part! D:
I'm asexual and aromantic anyhow so I really don't GET anything out of relationships. When I was in middle/high school I acted as sort of a "trainer" for guys who've never had a girlfriend before... so I had a handful of "newbies" in school but none of them went anywhere and I questioned myself for being that first "step" to these guys' dating histories. But then I realized that it's school and dating is a waste of time and money (and emotional energy, I mean JFC ain't nobody got time for that shit)
Sex in general disgusts me but I figured that was a normal thing. Also I'm probably gonna be called something but it's not that I'm single by force; I have a lot of guys wanting to hang out or do something sometime but I don't want to waste their time and money if I know that it's gonna be a one-time thing. So no, I'm not lonely or "hating being single" or some such emo nonsense. I'm in control of MY relationships and no one can tell me otherwise when I'm content where I am.
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Okay, if you REALLY want to pin something to it, it's probably because I have deep-seated commitment issues after watching my childhood relationships... fall apart xD But again, I'M not blaming anyone else.
Single, male, and never had so much as a female acquaintance. I've lousy social skills, awkward around people unless speaking professionally...
... sod it. The best I can hope for in the future, relationship-wise, is a woman with children from multiple men who will inevitably treat me as both a glorified babysitter and a walking wallet while blowing through my wallet and other dudes.
... sod it. The best I can hope for in the future, relationship-wise, is a woman with children from multiple men who will inevitably treat me as both a glorified babysitter and a walking wallet while blowing through my wallet and other dudes.
I'm currently single and have been for a while.
But I'm not that sad about it.
I've had enough relations in the past to know I'm not completely undesirable.
I'm also not actively looking for anything at the moment, busy with work and fixing my new place.
If it comes across my path, I'll happily embrace it, but you won't find me crying at night if I was to be single for a year.
But I'm not that sad about it.
I've had enough relations in the past to know I'm not completely undesirable.
I'm also not actively looking for anything at the moment, busy with work and fixing my new place.
If it comes across my path, I'll happily embrace it, but you won't find me crying at night if I was to be single for a year.
21 currently single but trying to change that.
I've been trying to get back together with an ex of mine becauseI'm an idiot I'm a huge idiot.
Seriously though I have very strong feelings for her and she has similar feelings for me. We broke up because some shit was going down in both out lives causing too much stress and I was also very insecure about my feelings and some issues I have. Since then thogh I've worked on myself quite a bit and think I'm ready to give it another go.
I could just be an idiot though.
I have a few other ladies interested in me but I don't care for any of them in a romantic or sexual way even though each one can be described as "my dream girl".
I've been trying to get back together with an ex of mine because
Seriously though I have very strong feelings for her and she has similar feelings for me. We broke up because some shit was going down in both out lives causing too much stress and I was also very insecure about my feelings and some issues I have. Since then thogh I've worked on myself quite a bit and think I'm ready to give it another go.
I could just be an idiot though.
I have a few other ladies interested in me but I don't care for any of them in a romantic or sexual way even though each one can be described as "my dream girl".
I'm uh.... neither? There's this girl, and we're pretty much dating, but not officially. But, ah well, it doesn't really matter, both happy, so!
Been with my boyfriend for 6 years (and living with him for 4). We have no plans to get married.
A poll might've been interesting, especially split by gender.
A poll might've been interesting, especially split by gender.
I?m surprised at how many sees a significant other (or more) as a time/money drain that only brings problems and restrictions. Like, "Sure, I'm single, but look at all this money I got!" How do you have more money when you're single? My finances were so much better when I lived with my previous partner because we were a two income couple instead of two one income people with separate bills. Is it the American dating culture that apparently demands you throw money at people you want to be with? I'm not sure I understand it.
Yeah, I'm single, but not looking. Though I've yet to have a girlfriend, I'm not at all regretful. I understand I'm not really material for a committed relationship. At least not until I'm in my 30's/40's and willing to settle down. At the moment (and feel free to call me an immature **** for this) I want to experience the stupid party life of the 20's. I want to be silly for awhile, have fun, maybe get involved in some one night stands, some drunk sex. All that kind of shit for awhile before I get into a relationship and settle down with a woman I love.
I'm not sure what that makes me, in terms of being a good person or not, but I like to feel it's the responsible decision. If I got into a relationship before I was ready, I'd fuck it up. Either I wouldn't treat my partner right, or I'd have sex with someone else during it or whatever.
So yeah, single and not ready to mingle for a long fucking while.
I'm not sure what that makes me, in terms of being a good person or not, but I like to feel it's the responsible decision. If I got into a relationship before I was ready, I'd fuck it up. Either I wouldn't treat my partner right, or I'd have sex with someone else during it or whatever.
So yeah, single and not ready to mingle for a long fucking while.
Single.
I've had three girlfriends, and even though I liked them all at the time, and still consider myself friends with two of them, I've came to the conclusion that I don't like being in a relationship.
I'm selfish with my time to a very large degree, I also work a lot at short notice which can get in the way of things, I'm not a good boyfriend. Right now I have a casual thing going on with two girls and I see them from time to time which is fine.
I just think we have it drilled into our heads from a young age that people in relationships are objectively happier than single people which is simply untrue.
I've had three girlfriends, and even though I liked them all at the time, and still consider myself friends with two of them, I've came to the conclusion that I don't like being in a relationship.
I'm selfish with my time to a very large degree, I also work a lot at short notice which can get in the way of things, I'm not a good boyfriend. Right now I have a casual thing going on with two girls and I see them from time to time which is fine.
I just think we have it drilled into our heads from a young age that people in relationships are objectively happier than single people which is simply untrue.
As well you should! Or maybe just get a new credit card so she can't spend your money? "You'll starve or you'll work" seems fair in this situation. If I could afford to be the sole provider though, I would love having my partner be a stay-at-home person, (not necessarily parent, 'cos I'm still not sure I want those icky things. No offense to anyone who actually love their spawn.) if they did most of the boring house-stuff, cooking and doing dishes in particular.Baffle said:
Captcha: thank you. uhm.. you're welcome?.. <.<..
no relationship here, havent dated anyone and im happy being alone enjoying my free time. i dont have the time or energy to spend on someone else constantly demanding attention from me, when i just want to be left alone. Maybe this will change in the future but right now im not looking for anyone
Single...kinda. I don't want to be in a relationship right now because frankly I don't trust myself in one, the last one blew up because I was being an idiot and pushed her away so until I'm content that I can work a legitimate full blown relationship I'll stick to enjoying my current status as single but on and off with a couple of people who are both aware of the situation and content to continue.
Single with only one relationship in my 25 year history. I certainly wouldn't complain if I ever found someone I enjoyed being with but I seem to be a severe introvert so seeing people more than twice a week makes me feel a bit tired and very irritated.
As a result I seem to be happier when I'm single but considering my inexperience with relationships I don't want to say that for certain.
EDIT:
I really want to agree with Piscian in that relationships are not all they're cracked up to be. At least, not to the point where people should obsess about it like many people my age.
A lot of people around my age act as if the world is over or they're a failure for not being in a relationship or if they've never had a relationship and that's really not the case. I was like that too when I was 21 and all it did was cause me to rush into a relationship with a person who wasn't right for me. In the end it just ended up being a bad experience for both of us. For me it was because I wasn't sure how to approach any issues that cropped up in our relationship since I'm a very private person so I tend to internalize a lot of things. Because of the frustration as well as how I dealt with it I was a complete ***** to him close to the end of our relationship and it's something I've regretted ever since.
So to sum it all up, right now I'm more focused on relaxing and attempting to enjoy life as much as an unemployed person can.
As a result I seem to be happier when I'm single but considering my inexperience with relationships I don't want to say that for certain.
EDIT:
I really want to agree with Piscian in that relationships are not all they're cracked up to be. At least, not to the point where people should obsess about it like many people my age.
A lot of people around my age act as if the world is over or they're a failure for not being in a relationship or if they've never had a relationship and that's really not the case. I was like that too when I was 21 and all it did was cause me to rush into a relationship with a person who wasn't right for me. In the end it just ended up being a bad experience for both of us. For me it was because I wasn't sure how to approach any issues that cropped up in our relationship since I'm a very private person so I tend to internalize a lot of things. Because of the frustration as well as how I dealt with it I was a complete ***** to him close to the end of our relationship and it's something I've regretted ever since.
So to sum it all up, right now I'm more focused on relaxing and attempting to enjoy life as much as an unemployed person can.
I'm 27(nearly 28) and technically have always been single.
Or maybe not.
There were 2-3 years there where I was in a relationship.
I guess?
She refers to it as if we were, and that's fine with me.
....except...she was in a relationship with another guy who just wasn't around...and she and I are best friends who are unstoppably attracted to each other, except that she refused to ever cross the line beyond "just friends" because she was in a relationship....But we lived all over that line for 2-3 years, we were like...as together as it's possible for 2 humans to be while still claiming "just friends" and "not cheating".
Fucking complicated as hell.
And aside from her, there's the first girl I ever loved, who turned me down....but I'm still in love with 10 years later.
And the first girl I ever liked, who also tuned me down (probably for the best).
Both of them are 2 more of my best friends.
^Thus far, those 3 represent the sum total of women who I've met who I like enough to ask out. Ever. My standards are....really high.
And now I'm investigating the possibilities of the ".5x+7" rule....
There's a girl I go to school with who's apparently AWESOME. I've known her for 3 class days (like 12 hours), she's on a very similar wavelength to me, she's a Game Design major like I am, sweet, funny, and goddamn gorgeous......but she's 20 - about to turn 21.
.5x+7 x=27 =20.5
.5x+7 x=28 =21
That puts me in the clear, right?
I'm hesitant...
Not sure why.
Or maybe not.
There were 2-3 years there where I was in a relationship.
I guess?
She refers to it as if we were, and that's fine with me.
....except...she was in a relationship with another guy who just wasn't around...and she and I are best friends who are unstoppably attracted to each other, except that she refused to ever cross the line beyond "just friends" because she was in a relationship....But we lived all over that line for 2-3 years, we were like...as together as it's possible for 2 humans to be while still claiming "just friends" and "not cheating".
Fucking complicated as hell.
And aside from her, there's the first girl I ever loved, who turned me down....but I'm still in love with 10 years later.
And the first girl I ever liked, who also tuned me down (probably for the best).
Both of them are 2 more of my best friends.
^Thus far, those 3 represent the sum total of women who I've met who I like enough to ask out. Ever. My standards are....really high.
And now I'm investigating the possibilities of the ".5x+7" rule....
There's a girl I go to school with who's apparently AWESOME. I've known her for 3 class days (like 12 hours), she's on a very similar wavelength to me, she's a Game Design major like I am, sweet, funny, and goddamn gorgeous......but she's 20 - about to turn 21.
.5x+7 x=27 =20.5
.5x+7 x=28 =21
That puts me in the clear, right?
I'm hesitant...
Not sure why.