probably not, dont get me wrong, i have nothing against transsexuals, im firmly in the camp of "it takes all people" mentality. but i think i wouldn't be able to, as in the back of my mind i wouldn't believe it would work out long term, and therefore not worth dating.
Could You Date A Transexual?
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Regardless of the rest of your argument, please go look up the definition of "African-American" (if I had a picture of Inigo Montoya, I'd link it here) because "African-American" is not the same as having a large amount of melanin (i.e. having a skin tone that would be considered "black").Helmholtz Watson said:
If I think about it right now in these terms, I would say no, I wouldn't date a transsexual person, since I really can't relate to the desire to change your sex physically and am probably too ignorant to accept that such a thing actually happens and makes sense once you feel it yourself. I also imagine that, knowing the person in question was transsexual, I'd always see them as being male (because transsexual or not, I'm not attracted to men at all) and that would definitely put me off. However, I don't really know the future, I could end up falling in love with someone like that and if it were to happen, I'd certainly not let something like that get in the way of our happiness. Keeping this in mind, I really can't definitely say no. This is all hypothetical though, since I'm really only attracted to one person and have been for 5 years now.
LMAo ya not many of us would pull that! I have never lied to anyone i dated..from the first serious GF i had right out or high school (for 7 years) to my wife BEFORE we got married... once I got comfortable I told them about my Gender Dysphoria... granted I wasn't in transition, but they knew it was there... as I have said MANY times, my wife is the one who pushed me in to beginning my transition. She saved my life.DJ_DEnM said:
I don't think I could. I would support them in any other way I could but I couldn't be in a romantic relationship with them. This is the same thing with men, which I have thought about, and I just don't want them. I think that's what it comes down to for me, I've seen men and post-op trans who I can find attractive or objectivly beautiful but I dont want them. And for me I need to feel a kind of immediate desire for the other person (and be wanted in return) in order to really consider them.
Also I just don't think I'm up for the emotional baggage that comes with making such huge decisions about ones self. Even if it's a good change it leaves scars, and I've got too many of my own. Which is a problem in all of my relationships let alone difficult romantic ones.
But that being said If I met a woman, fell in love and at some point she told me she used to be a man, (after the feeling of betrayal that comes from any secret coming to light) If I loved her I don't think my feelings would change.
Also I just don't think I'm up for the emotional baggage that comes with making such huge decisions about ones self. Even if it's a good change it leaves scars, and I've got too many of my own. Which is a problem in all of my relationships let alone difficult romantic ones.
But that being said If I met a woman, fell in love and at some point she told me she used to be a man, (after the feeling of betrayal that comes from any secret coming to light) If I loved her I don't think my feelings would change.
Could I date a transexual?
I suppose so, in the sense that I could and no one is stopping me.
But, would I?
Nope, not my thing. I've met one trans person (is that even right?) and I thought he (girl to guy if I remember right) was a pretty cool person. The thought of even considering dating him never crossed my mind, so I seriously doubt I would.
I suppose so, in the sense that I could and no one is stopping me.
But, would I?
Nope, not my thing. I've met one trans person (is that even right?) and I thought he (girl to guy if I remember right) was a pretty cool person. The thought of even considering dating him never crossed my mind, so I seriously doubt I would.
Nothing personal taken.Jenvas1306 said:
I guess this gives me a better understanding of why the 'still a guy' statement would tick you off. And I'm sorry. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves we're talking to people and not just blocks of text.
I'd say I'd be fine with it as long as they actually looked completely female. I have no problem with it, the only thing that'd put me off would be if the surgery had been done badly and they still looked male or something.
Fun fact: I dated a girl once who would go on to become a guy fairly soon afterwards. So looking at it one way I guess I have dated a transsexual? Ish?
Fun fact: I dated a girl once who would go on to become a guy fairly soon afterwards. So looking at it one way I guess I have dated a transsexual? Ish?
There is no way in hell that I would date a transexual. I enjoy sex to much and I want to actually have kids with my partner one day.
Casual Shinji said:
Ya, it's hard to remember there are people on the other side of these words...people with dreams, fears, and feelings. What was stated was perfect if you ask me.
There is a very real and noticeable difference between fake and real.Beautiful Tragedy said:I get the second part..but not the first..ah well. We all like what we likeLittle Gray said:
Who you are is phenotype, not genotype. Unless you jack off to karyotypes of the women you love and nitpick at them for recessive alleles they have but don't actually effect them your "THEY HAVE XY CHROMOSOMES" is rather irrelevant.Helmholtz Watson said:
Not at all. My only goal in dating/marrying would be to make babies with that person, and I don't particularly want to adopt.
Thats exactly why it should exist though. An open forum in which people, even it's a a small percentage of them, end up more informed is how society progresses. Sure, there are some really awful opinions (check me raging at the quote below if you really want another example) but I've met and discussed the societal issues facing those who idefntify as trans-, and have found common ground in our experiences from which I can emphasize. That's awesome.Jenvas1306 said:
This is not awesome. I was actually feeling pretty good about things while writing the above, and now I stumble across this. You're talking about murder because the person you dated turned out to transgendered. I mentioned in one of my previous posts about the shear amount of trust it must take to break such significant news to somebody. Then I come across that not telling somebody before the first date is worth of murder.krazykidd said:
Hey, because now I'm in the mood for replying to posts that infuriate me with images, heres one for you!Helmholtz Watson said:
Lets move back to my curiosity, it makes me feel much better. You are, from my understanding gleaned entirely from skimming your posts, male-to-female. Have you undergone surgery, or 'just' hormonal treatment?Beautiful Tragedy said:
Oh, and because I'm liking my image responses, heres another.
God no, having to date someone pretty much guarantees there's not going to be enough there to make a relationship. Wouldn't be worth the hassle.