I would care about whether or not the person I was considering dating had genetic disorder. Heck, if I was a women, I probably would not want to date a guy with XYY chromosomes given what I have heard about them being more aggressive.mike1921 said:
Could You Date A Transexual?
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I went to the strip club on the wrong night a few years back and they had their D line up on.CrossLOPER said:
Eurgh. I knew I shouldn't have checked this thread.
For all those idiots who are going "if you're born with [genitalia] then you will always be [gender] in my eyes"- there is a PHYSICAL DIFFERENCE between the male brain and the female brain. And the brains of transpeople more closely resembles the brain of the gender they identify as.
So you're basically saying that, to you, the brain of ANY PERSON is less important to you than the genitalia of ANY PERSON. Because that's what you judge them on. So I hope you've got the sort of penis (or vagina) that magically appeals to everyone, because you're saying that's what matters, right?
I just want to clarify that if you have issues with dating any group of people, that's your call. If that extends to transpeople, fine, whatever, as long as you're educated and act like a decent human being about it. But these people don't seem to be keeping that particular line of thought JUST to potential partners, and are applying it to all transpeople.
To answer the question... I don't think so. I AM a transperson, one who has gone through a lot of other shit as well, and frankly, there's enough crap going on for one relationship here. I don't want to drag the other transperson's drama into this as well. I know from experience that too much crap in one relationship is an automatic self-destruct. It's not a physical thing, it's more that I know how difficult it is to go through, and I'd rather have a partner who doesn't.
To view the question from the OTHER side... It's a constant question for transpeople. Not only are they judged by random people they may have no interest in dating, but they've also got that constant knowledge that anyone they may ever be interested might be turned off dating them simply because of the way they were born. (And may even react with revulsion or violence upon discovering this.)
It's kind of a shitty situation to be in.
For all those idiots who are going "if you're born with [genitalia] then you will always be [gender] in my eyes"- there is a PHYSICAL DIFFERENCE between the male brain and the female brain. And the brains of transpeople more closely resembles the brain of the gender they identify as.
So you're basically saying that, to you, the brain of ANY PERSON is less important to you than the genitalia of ANY PERSON. Because that's what you judge them on. So I hope you've got the sort of penis (or vagina) that magically appeals to everyone, because you're saying that's what matters, right?
I just want to clarify that if you have issues with dating any group of people, that's your call. If that extends to transpeople, fine, whatever, as long as you're educated and act like a decent human being about it. But these people don't seem to be keeping that particular line of thought JUST to potential partners, and are applying it to all transpeople.
To answer the question... I don't think so. I AM a transperson, one who has gone through a lot of other shit as well, and frankly, there's enough crap going on for one relationship here. I don't want to drag the other transperson's drama into this as well. I know from experience that too much crap in one relationship is an automatic self-destruct. It's not a physical thing, it's more that I know how difficult it is to go through, and I'd rather have a partner who doesn't.
To view the question from the OTHER side... It's a constant question for transpeople. Not only are they judged by random people they may have no interest in dating, but they've also got that constant knowledge that anyone they may ever be interested might be turned off dating them simply because of the way they were born. (And may even react with revulsion or violence upon discovering this.)
It's kind of a shitty situation to be in.
No, I am not accepting enough for a romantic relationship with a trans.
This may seem hypocritical, I support the choice and I have trans friends[footnote]"Omg I have nothing against X, one of my best friends is X!" >.>[/footnote]. But I'm... 'too straight'? I can't think of a term for it.
Basically I don't think I can feel any romantic attraction for someone who I know is/was a male. I don't even feel attraction to non-trans females that have 'manly' features like a wide jawline or broad shoulders.
Edit: Just to clarify, The problem with dating a trans clearly falls on my head, I am the one with the problem here, not the hypothetical other person.
I am also not saying that it's impossible (it really comes down to the specific person) but I think it would take one hell of a perfect match and a fair lot of effort on both sides.
This may seem hypocritical, I support the choice and I have trans friends[footnote]"Omg I have nothing against X, one of my best friends is X!" >.>[/footnote]. But I'm... 'too straight'? I can't think of a term for it.
Basically I don't think I can feel any romantic attraction for someone who I know is/was a male. I don't even feel attraction to non-trans females that have 'manly' features like a wide jawline or broad shoulders.
Edit: Just to clarify, The problem with dating a trans clearly falls on my head, I am the one with the problem here, not the hypothetical other person.
I am also not saying that it's impossible (it really comes down to the specific person) but I think it would take one hell of a perfect match and a fair lot of effort on both sides.
Yes but they would have to be very feminine. Seeing as how it is the female figure and mannerisms that I find attractive.
As much as I try to not judge people on things like that, I have to admit, I wouldn't be able to do it. I feel so bad for saying that, but I can't help it. I just couldn't.
Sorry.
Sorry.
I would without a 2nd thought. I'm not too particular about how someone looks or anything, I'm not even that particular about the personality. If I like someone, then I'd give a relationship a chance probably.
I used to have multiple transexual friends but I would never engage with them in a romantic or sexual fashion - that resulted in me losing them as friends, apparently.
I am of the stern belief that you are the sex you were born as, no matter what medical practices are performed on you and no matter what you believe or think you are. I will treat an individual how they wish to be treated, call them by whatever pronoun they desire - but they can not demand I THINK of them as the sexuality or gender they were not born as.
I will not be romantic with men, I will not be romantic with M->F, and I will not be romantic with F->M.
I believe they have every right to behave in whatever sexual or gender specific way they desire but they will make no demand as to how I function in a sexual or gender specific way. I will stay out of thier sexual business and they will stay out of my sexual business. Thus, we can respect each other.
I am of the stern belief that you are the sex you were born as, no matter what medical practices are performed on you and no matter what you believe or think you are. I will treat an individual how they wish to be treated, call them by whatever pronoun they desire - but they can not demand I THINK of them as the sexuality or gender they were not born as.
I will not be romantic with men, I will not be romantic with M->F, and I will not be romantic with F->M.
I believe they have every right to behave in whatever sexual or gender specific way they desire but they will make no demand as to how I function in a sexual or gender specific way. I will stay out of thier sexual business and they will stay out of my sexual business. Thus, we can respect each other.
Hmm, well I've seen some pretty attractive ones on television, and being raised as a boy, it's likely she wouldn't have the anti-male sentiment that modern women are raised with (shut up, I fill three threads with reasons why women are raised to think of men as merely being tools, but no one will listen because people only listen to what they want to hear.)
Sure I'd give it a try.
Sure I'd give it a try.
I understand the hardships you may have faced, but if you want to get scientific -- by looking at biological evidence... it lies within your DNA... simple as that.Ren_Li said:
XX female / XY male
To chastise people for being turned off at a sex change (a strictly 'cosmetic' procedure...) would be to chastise someone for being a human being.
It is hard wired into our brains to want to reproduce... it is the very most basic important characteristic of living next to being able to sustain yourself within your environment.
I strongly disagree with people who would act violently or put you down or bully etc upon learning of your situation, but you have to understand that people being turned off by it as a natural response.
As far as pure physicality goes and not dating. You win lolsethisjimmy said:
As far as long term relationship or dating goes, would not have a problem. Either pre or post op (standard definition) really. I do not want children, so that would not stand in my way.
I often wonder though, and it is something of a non-important issue in the grand scheme of issues that TG's have, is how a long term partner of a TG'd woman would deal if she finally went through with gender realignment surgery (or whatever it is called nowadays).
I would guess they would cope fine, but it would be hard to come to terms with such a drastic change in a partners physiology i would think.
Just a curiosity really, i would like to hear if anyone has experience with that ...
Anyways, TLDR : Yes.
Oi. People. Please, please, PLEASE stop using the term "tranny" to refer to transexuals; it's like calling a gay person a "******" or a black person a "******".