It's not a choice, but I'm not getting in an argument about this again, all I know is all the evidence I've seen and my own experience tells me it isn't a choice. But the rest of your post I agree with, so long as it doesn't affect me, I don't particularly care.Magicmad5511 said:A persons sexuality does not change the person. Its their choice. My philosophy, if you don't get up in my face I won't get up in yours.
Hi. I'm somebody who has SPD (Schizoid Personality Disorder). I'm a complete "loner" in layman's terms, i do not seek human contact whatsoever and suffer anxiety attacks whenever i'm placed in stressful situations outside of my isolation and comfort zone. It's difficult for me to form friendships and relationships because of this, but also because i have zero genuine interest in doing so. I do not show much emotion towards people in communication and am genuinely very indifferent to a lot of the things said to me, whether it be praise or criticism. I am most comfortable by myself doing solitary activities. I do have friends, i have tried to make the effort, but i am nearly always uncomfortable when doing so. People with SPD tend to be sexually uninterested. This is because intimacy is very uncomfortable and difficult for us, both physically and mentally. Physically - it feels like an invasion of our 'personal space' and makes us grossly uncomfortable. Mentally because we are unable to properly emotionally connect with our partner and that can cause a lot of difficulties. Because we do not desire nor look for human contact, it also means we don't have the need for a partner because of the aforementioned. We just prefer to be on our own. This means people with SPD tend to be asexual because they are not interested in any sort of physical or emotional intimacy.AccursedTheory said:I do have a problem with asexuals, mostly because 90% of them are liars/emos/have possible mental issues that they refuse to address.febel said:What's everyone's opinion on Asexuality? 'Cause I'm feeling a bit left out of the opening post.
Which isn't to say all of them (Or you) fall into the category at all, only that a ton of people flock to the word for the wrong reasons.
I'm sorry.Gralian said:SNIPAccursedTheory said:I do have a problem with asexuals, mostly because 90% of them are liars/emos/have possible mental issues that they refuse to address.febel said:What's everyone's opinion on Asexuality? 'Cause I'm feeling a bit left out of the opening post.
Which isn't to say all of them (Or you) fall into the category at all, only that a ton of people flock to the word for the wrong reasons.
Ever hear of Pareto's Principle? It's the 80-20 rule; that 80% of something comes from 20% of something else. Now use it in conjunction with your claim.AccursedTheory said:I'm sorry.Gralian said:SNIPAccursedTheory said:I do have a problem with asexuals, mostly because 90% of them are liars/emos/have possible mental issues that they refuse to address.febel said:What's everyone's opinion on Asexuality? 'Cause I'm feeling a bit left out of the opening post.
Which isn't to say all of them (Or you) fall into the category at all, only that a ton of people flock to the word for the wrong reasons.
Didn't realize some people here didn't have a concept of what 'percent' means.
I'll explain: 90% is 9/10. As in, 9/10 people who claim to be asexual are full of shit (Of course, I have no idea if 90% is completely accurate, merely an estimation).
If you are part of the 1/10 people that genuinely, and truly, have absolutely no urge or care for sex, then all the power to you. I wasn't referring to you.
wow, this is one of the stupidest things Ive seen on the site at all, but considering that it was made from a new account I have a feeling its just trolling but here is a link (warning, has animal wangs, apparently)Kaz Helberd said:I think people are conditioned into their sexuality based on external (and in some RARE cases) internal stimuli.
Biologically the 'Default' orientation is 'straight' (hence the term "straight") but depending on how one was raised, who their parents are, and what they're exposed to, that can change.
Being gay isn't natural, but it also isn't a 'terrible' thing... More or less it's an expression of your past experience, and what you have come to find appealing in a mate.
Girls want to marry their fathers, and boys want to marry their mothers.
It can also be like "Goth" or "Nerd" or "Jock", what have you. Goths tend to gravitate toward other Goths, etc. once together, they sort of feed of each other, and become more exaggerated versions of themselves.
I believe homosexuality is no different.
(I don't mean to equate homosexuality to a fad, but merely conditional behavior)
What it does come down to is; Are you being true to yourself? Are you happy? Can you find someone else who shares your preferences and cares about you? Are they being true to themselves?
It's important not to lie to yourself, because you set yourself up for pain down the road... gay or straight.
Gays don't need to be treated like freaks or like they're hurting anyone. They need LOVE... just like EVERYONE ELSE!!
Remember, we're all just playing with the cards we're dealt.
We all one the same thing, To love and be loved. Who you love doesn't matter.
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I apologize if I went on a tangent, but I find this subject and others like it fascinating.
I seriously doubt I would ever become homosexual. I might desire to have sex with somebody and pretend they're female or something.Randvek said:Imagine all the world's females die. Not only that, but "homosexuality" becomes actively encouraged. It's everywhere, just like sex is now. You don't think 20 30 40 years in that you would question yourself even one little bit?zehydra said:If heterosexuality is to mean that I am only sexually attracted to one sex, then I definitely fit that label.
There's no shame in saying you would. Sex is situational. You've just never been in a situation that forced you to question yours and, if you really are as "one direction" as you think you are, such a situation might be very, very unrealistic. But I highly doubt impossible.
I'm not trying to be offensive here, and I realize I run the risk of being so when I say this, but I find it hard to acknowledge that homosexuality isn't a "defect". That is, homosexuality is a deviance from the understood biological norm, despite it occurring naturally (biological defects occur naturally throughout nature all the time).AnkaraTheFallen said:I know this is probably just bad word choice, but being gay is' 'natural' it happens in almost every other species as well. What I think you meant is it isn't normal (or is uncommon).Kaz Helberd said:Being gay isn't natural, but it also isn't a 'terrible' thing... More or less it's an expression of your past experience, and what you have come to find appealing in a mate.
Sorry if it seems I'm just moaning about this but I've had a lot of people try to tell me being gay is some kind of defect and isn't natural/ is wrong, and other things along those lines, so it's starting to annoy me.