Poll: Are you closer to your Mum or Dad
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Male and closer to my mother here. Though honestly I'm not all that close to either, I just find my mother is actually willing to listen to me at times.
As a child I was always closer to my father, but in recent years I realised just how opinionated and hypocritical he can be. Around the same time relations with my mother improved after a particularly heated shouting match.
Actually, now that I think about it, I fight MUCH more with my mother, in fact she's the only person I have fights with, but I think the only reason I don't argue with my father is because I don't bother talking to him about anything that COULD spark an argument, with my mother there's a chance part of what I say gets through.
Captcha: father time
How does it always know?
As a child I was always closer to my father, but in recent years I realised just how opinionated and hypocritical he can be. Around the same time relations with my mother improved after a particularly heated shouting match.
Actually, now that I think about it, I fight MUCH more with my mother, in fact she's the only person I have fights with, but I think the only reason I don't argue with my father is because I don't bother talking to him about anything that COULD spark an argument, with my mother there's a chance part of what I say gets through.
Captcha: father time
How does it always know?
Closer to my Mom even though I'm distant (emotionally so) from both of them. I've found things out about my Dad that make me dislike him coupled with a shaky number of teen years have made me actually dislike the guy.
I'm a mummy's boy. Mostly because I never knew my father due to him leaving while still in my mothers womb. I respect the reasons why he left though, unlike a lot of people who would probably hate their father blind for something like that. But yeah, I'm quite close to my mother, and my grandmother.
I'm closer to my mom because she's the one that raised me. My parents were never married and my interactions with my father were limited to holidays and summer in the earlier years, then, eventually, diminished to just text messages. Just recently, I decided to halt communication with him, because I was sick of the one-sided nature of them. Apparently, any strain in our relationship was my fault and, even though I surpassed him in education and even had a job that paid more than his, it never seemed to be enough for him. I've cried and beat myself (figuratively and literally) many times over this man. I'm 27 now and I'm tired of it, so I wipe my hands of him. My mom may not have been perfect, but at least she was there for me and was proud of my accomplishments while encouraging me to do better. She knew my father was a jerk off, but didn't want her feelings to influence my relationship with him which I greatly appreciate. She knows how I feel about him and respects my decision, even though she would like for me to keep a relationship with him since she never had one with her own father.
I love my mom very much and, as far as I'm concerned, I no longer have a father.
I love my mom very much and, as far as I'm concerned, I no longer have a father.
Female here. I was closer to my dad; he and I had a very similar laid-back attitude towards just about everything, whereas my mom was a lot more rigid, organized, and whatnot. My mother and I also have the same stubborn streak, which resulted in some nasty arguments in my high school and early-college years. Since my dad died, though, my mom and I have gotten a lot closer: I'd say both of us tried to shoot for some middle ground between our personalities. But it's hard to compare directly.
My mom. I have a hard time approaching my dad. He worked on helicopters when he got into the Marine Corps, so his hearing is a lot worse than otherwise, which means there are a lot of awkward situations in which I'm forced to repeat what I just said.
And it really hurts me to think about it like that. Whenever I have children, I would hate to have a relationship like this with any of my children, in which any of them are afraid to approach me. I just...I think I'm gonna go to bed now.
And it really hurts me to think about it like that. Whenever I have children, I would hate to have a relationship like this with any of my children, in which any of them are afraid to approach me. I just...I think I'm gonna go to bed now.
I'm way closer to my mother, although my Dad and I see much more eye-to-eye. It's probably because Mom was a stay-at-home housewife and even homeschooled me for a few years.
Lemme ask my sister...
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...After a couple very weird looks, she said more or less the same thing.
Lemme ask my sister...
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...After a couple very weird looks, she said more or less the same thing.
Did... You just quote Alistair from Dragon Age?Rose and Thorn said:
I rarely see my mum. I like her, but I rarely see her because she lives far away. I'm close to both my parents, really. I live with my dad though so I went for Female and Close to my Father.
I love both parents equally.
I'm close to both my parents.
I used to be a bit closer to my dad. But lately he's been more irritable, probably due to his bad back and the stress of having to help take care of my grandmother who has cancer. Not to mention I'm discovering how polarizing some of our views on things are. I still talk to him whenever I need someone to talk to about something, but now I'm starting to gravitate towards my mom a bit more.
I used to be a bit closer to my dad. But lately he's been more irritable, probably due to his bad back and the stress of having to help take care of my grandmother who has cancer. Not to mention I'm discovering how polarizing some of our views on things are. I still talk to him whenever I need someone to talk to about something, but now I'm starting to gravitate towards my mom a bit more.
Neither... and fuck em both.
Both were verbally abusive and they let my older brother beat the tar out of me daily. The one time i fought back, they berated me and grounded me. They praised my brother for bringing home awards and metals (he did boxing, kick boxing, judo, tae kwon do,and a few other martial arts). I did art and theater. They gave him 5 vehicles which he ran into the ground in 6 years. They told me to get a job to get a car (i wanted the car so i could get a job, living in the middle of nowhere sucked).
When my brother got drunk and beat me so bad i had to go to the ER, They said,
" Get over it. Its not like he killed you." I personally disowned my brother and moved out but not after he stole alot of things from my room. My mom said " He only went in there with a back pack. He couldn't of stolen anything of value."
Its been 10 years since I've talked to my brother. And, my mom and brother think i need to get over myself about the whole situation (My dad died about 5 years ago so he hasn't had anything to say). My bro is currently in jail for 2nd degree murder after which his drug dealing came to light. My mom still talks about him like he is the second coming of Jesus Christ. She wants in my life to be closer to my son... Fuck her. Right in her stupid neck with a shiv.
Sorry for the rant. I've never felt close to my blood family.
Edit- If it matters, I'm 28, and Male.
Both were verbally abusive and they let my older brother beat the tar out of me daily. The one time i fought back, they berated me and grounded me. They praised my brother for bringing home awards and metals (he did boxing, kick boxing, judo, tae kwon do,and a few other martial arts). I did art and theater. They gave him 5 vehicles which he ran into the ground in 6 years. They told me to get a job to get a car (i wanted the car so i could get a job, living in the middle of nowhere sucked).
When my brother got drunk and beat me so bad i had to go to the ER, They said,
" Get over it. Its not like he killed you." I personally disowned my brother and moved out but not after he stole alot of things from my room. My mom said " He only went in there with a back pack. He couldn't of stolen anything of value."
Its been 10 years since I've talked to my brother. And, my mom and brother think i need to get over myself about the whole situation (My dad died about 5 years ago so he hasn't had anything to say). My bro is currently in jail for 2nd degree murder after which his drug dealing came to light. My mom still talks about him like he is the second coming of Jesus Christ. She wants in my life to be closer to my son... Fuck her. Right in her stupid neck with a shiv.
Sorry for the rant. I've never felt close to my blood family.
Edit- If it matters, I'm 28, and Male.
I can't really say. I get into arguments with my dad VERY often, but I feel closer to him. That being said he works Monday-Friday so I hardly see him (Maybe at night, he gets home tired) so I spend more time with my mother, whom I also argue with.
Male, and I'd have to say I'm closer to my mother.
My father and I are close too, but I think I take more after my mother than him.
We basically have the same personality.
My father and I are close too, but I think I take more after my mother than him.
We basically have the same personality.