Best I can tell, it's not a thing in real life. There may be some people online who will gripe about it (but again I have never seen this first hand), but you'll probably never get someone having a go at you for just holding a door.
Phasmal said:Soooo, this isn't something you've actually seen, but the internet assures you it is a thing?Jeivar said:Something I've witnessed on the internet over the years with no small amount of confusion is women expressing outrage if a man holds open a door for them. I started thinking about this again today after going through a "worst of Tumblr" list, much to my dismay.
Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.
I've literally been yelled at for opening the door for a woman. She sneered at me and assured me she could hold open it for herself and didn't need my help. I shrugged and went on in, but it did piss me off. She assumed I gave a damn about her being a woman. I didn't. I would have held the door for anyone. In fact, I've literally waited for elderly people with walkers and held the door for them.Thaluikhain said:Eh, as far as I can tell, there's no truth to it. Lots of people claim that feminists are obsessed with this, but I've never encountered, either online or off, anyone who held that view.
Like "high school is the best time of your life", never met anyone who agrees, but supposedly there are those that do out there somewhere in great numbers.
(Having said that, there are lots of women that are annoyed if you hold open a door for them until they are halfway through, and then let it close on them. Lots of men as well.)
Crikey, what the fuck is that guys deal? When everybody in the room is laughing at you and your NOT a slapstick/self-depreciating comedian, it might be time to take your ball and go home.shrekfan246 said:Actually, this video just reminded me of something I have also seen:
A lot of guys seem to be perpetually offended by the idea that they should be "required" to hold doors open.
Spot on.Fieldy409 said:The internet exaggerates everything because moderate middle of the road opinions take too long to read/write and dont get likes.
Dont let the comments section skew your perceptions of the real world.
Ragsnstitches said:Crikey, what the fuck is that guys deal? When everybody in the room is laughing at you and your NOT a slapstick/self-depreciating comedian, it might be time to take your ball and go home.shrekfan246 said:Actually, this video just reminded me of something I have also seen:
A lot of guys seem to be perpetually offended by the idea that they should be "required" to hold doors open.
Look, I've made a show of myself in public before, getting angry and looking like a right tit, so I can sympathize to a degree with a guy just having a bad day and letting it get worse, but even I would stop fighting my corner in such a scenario... I'd just feel so bloody foolish.
In my case I make an effort go back and apologize once I cool down, I sort of hope he did the same otherwise this kind of non-issue follows you for years.
yeah, very similar situation happened to me as well, I was in utter shock because I had absolutely zero interest in the girl, I just happened to notice we were heading for the same door to the library, and it'd be easier if I opened it and just let her keep walking rather than opening it, my body crossing the door and blocking her, and going through it. (common courtesy and all that to anyone regardless of size/shape/gender/etc...)Saltyk said:Phasmal said:Soooo, this isn't something you've actually seen, but the internet assures you it is a thing?Jeivar said:Something I've witnessed on the internet over the years with no small amount of confusion is women expressing outrage if a man holds open a door for them. I started thinking about this again today after going through a "worst of Tumblr" list, much to my dismay.Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.I've literally been yelled at for opening the door for a woman. She sneered at me and assured me she could hold open it for herself and didn't need my help. I shrugged and went on in, but it did piss me off. She assumed I gave a damn about her being a woman. I didn't. I would have held the door for anyone. In fact, I've literally waited for elderly people with walkers and held the door for them.Thaluikhain said:Eh, as far as I can tell, there's no truth to it. Lots of people claim that feminists are obsessed with this, but I've never encountered, either online or off, anyone who held that view.
Like "high school is the best time of your life", never met anyone who agrees, but supposedly there are those that do out there somewhere in great numbers.
(Having said that, there are lots of women that are annoyed if you hold open a door for them until they are halfway through, and then let it close on them. Lots of men as well.)
But, yeah, it does happen. It's rare. And the people who do it are idiots. But it does happen.
This.Phasmal said:As for the door thing, literally any time you interact with a stranger in any way, you run the risk of them not liking that interaction. Welcome to the world.
Anybody that would yell at you for it, like actively make an issue out of it in person probably has some far deeper personal shit going on in their life that they're dealing with. I guarantee it. It's something larger than just you and the door, that's just an excuse for them to vent their frustration.Saltyk said:Phasmal said:Soooo, this isn't something you've actually seen, but the internet assures you it is a thing?Jeivar said:Something I've witnessed on the internet over the years with no small amount of confusion is women expressing outrage if a man holds open a door for them. I started thinking about this again today after going through a "worst of Tumblr" list, much to my dismay.Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.I've literally been yelled at for opening the door for a woman. She sneered at me and assured me she could hold open it for herself and didn't need my help. I shrugged and went on in, but it did piss me off. She assumed I gave a damn about her being a woman. I didn't. I would have held the door for anyone. In fact, I've literally waited for elderly people with walkers and held the door for them.Thaluikhain said:Eh, as far as I can tell, there's no truth to it. Lots of people claim that feminists are obsessed with this, but I've never encountered, either online or off, anyone who held that view.
Like "high school is the best time of your life", never met anyone who agrees, but supposedly there are those that do out there somewhere in great numbers.
(Having said that, there are lots of women that are annoyed if you hold open a door for them until they are halfway through, and then let it close on them. Lots of men as well.)
But, yeah, it does happen. It's rare. And the people who do it are idiots. But it does happen.
Yup, I've had women give me crap for holding doors for them. Comments like "Single women can cope on their own, you know! F*ckin' pig." when holding the door for a lass with a pushchair have been snapped/hissed in my direction more than a few times. It can be quite upsetting, but as I know the gesture was made with no bad intent I try not to let it get to me.Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.
Or watch too many classic films ^^sky14kemea said:OT: People are weird. Holding the door for anyone is polite.
Unless you bow and say "M'LADY" as they pass, then you're kinda being weird.
Pretty much exactly the same. Though, I was going into a restaurant near where I live to get a quick lunch. Otherwise everything you said applies.gmaverick019 said:yeah, very similar situation happened to me as well, I was in utter shock because I had absolutely zero interest in the girl, I just happened to notice we were heading for the same door to the library, and it'd be easier if I opened it and just let her keep walking rather than opening it, my body crossing the door and blocking her, and going through it. (common courtesy and all that to anyone regardless of size/shape/gender/etc...)Saltyk said:Phasmal said:Soooo, this isn't something you've actually seen, but the internet assures you it is a thing?Jeivar said:Something I've witnessed on the internet over the years with no small amount of confusion is women expressing outrage if a man holds open a door for them. I started thinking about this again today after going through a "worst of Tumblr" list, much to my dismay.Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.I've literally been yelled at for opening the door for a woman. She sneered at me and assured me she could hold open it for herself and didn't need my help. I shrugged and went on in, but it did piss me off. She assumed I gave a damn about her being a woman. I didn't. I would have held the door for anyone. In fact, I've literally waited for elderly people with walkers and held the door for them.Thaluikhain said:Eh, as far as I can tell, there's no truth to it. Lots of people claim that feminists are obsessed with this, but I've never encountered, either online or off, anyone who held that view.
Like "high school is the best time of your life", never met anyone who agrees, but supposedly there are those that do out there somewhere in great numbers.
(Having said that, there are lots of women that are annoyed if you hold open a door for them until they are halfway through, and then let it close on them. Lots of men as well.)
But, yeah, it does happen. It's rare. And the people who do it are idiots. But it does happen.
low and behold she launched darkseid omega eye beams at me for it and scoffed, then said "uhm excuse me, I don't need a man to hold the door for me!"
now that's an incident out of hundreds (if not thousands?) of times I've held the door open for people, but it does kind of stick with you due to its absurdity.
Okay. And? Should I not feel she was completely in the wrong? Should I be an ally to understand her feelings?DudeistBelieve said:Anybody that would yell at you for it, like actively make an issue out of it in person probably has some far deeper personal shit going on in their life that they're dealing with. I guarantee it. It's something larger than just you and the door, that's just an excuse for them to vent their frustration.Saltyk said:Phasmal said:Soooo, this isn't something you've actually seen, but the internet assures you it is a thing?Jeivar said:Something I've witnessed on the internet over the years with no small amount of confusion is women expressing outrage if a man holds open a door for them. I started thinking about this again today after going through a "worst of Tumblr" list, much to my dismay.Fappy said:Has anyone here ever seriously had someone get mad at them for holding the door open? I've had plenty of people not acknowledge my aid, which is fine, but never had anyone get actively mad.I've literally been yelled at for opening the door for a woman. She sneered at me and assured me she could hold open it for herself and didn't need my help. I shrugged and went on in, but it did piss me off. She assumed I gave a damn about her being a woman. I didn't. I would have held the door for anyone. In fact, I've literally waited for elderly people with walkers and held the door for them.Thaluikhain said:Eh, as far as I can tell, there's no truth to it. Lots of people claim that feminists are obsessed with this, but I've never encountered, either online or off, anyone who held that view.
Like "high school is the best time of your life", never met anyone who agrees, but supposedly there are those that do out there somewhere in great numbers.
(Having said that, there are lots of women that are annoyed if you hold open a door for them until they are halfway through, and then let it close on them. Lots of men as well.)
But, yeah, it does happen. It's rare. And the people who do it are idiots. But it does happen.
No, she's in the wrong. She just may not realise it. It doesnt excuse her behaviour at all. If someone, anyone, you or I, had personal shit going on in their lives, they have zero, absolutely zero right to take it out on those who have nothing to do with it. If the personal shit is about someone else, they should take it up with that person. I knew someone who did that a lot in the past where their partner would do something to piss them off and instead of talking to them about it, they took it out on me, their friends, their family, anyone in a 10 metre radius. We all have shit we have to deal with but using someone else as a punching bag doesn't help. You can lose friends that way, family will find it hard to approach you and the bad vibe you give will make many cautious around you.Saltyk said:Okay. And? Should I not feel she was completely in the wrong? Should I be an ally to understand her feelings?
I don't care what was going on in her life. She does not have the right to take out her frustrations on people who are simply being courteous.